Dealing with depression is not something new to me this time around as I had experienced it with great force when my mother suddenly died from a car accident in 2010. I share a special relationship with my mother because throughout my life, she has sacrificed so much for my siblings and I. Growing up I saw how hard my mother worked in order to provide for our family which made me appreciate her so much more when I became a father because parenthood isn’t easy. The death of my mother had a huge impact on me that affected my psychological health, and it would have pushed me to the brink had it not been for Mei Lan’s care and presence. She is the only person able to comfort me. Due to my wife’s love, I was able to recover and move on from my mother’s …show more content…
One of my biggest fears in life is having my children separated from their mother and for them to feel the emotional pain of losing a presence that has been with them since birth. Vivian and Chris share a special bond with their mother ever since they were young because she has always encouraged them to do what they love and to have confidence when trying things out their comfort zone. Over the years, they’ve looked up to their mother as a role model because she makes them want to be better people by educating them with good values and beliefs. My kids will experience the harsh impact of losing their mother and I’m afraid that her departure will traumatize them and affect how they grow up in the future. My children will not have their mother present for future graduations or birthday parties and sending them off to college. These are all very important milestones that will never feel whole without the love and presence of their mother. According to an article from The New York Times, “In the long run, the children of deportation face increased odds of lasting economic turmoil, psychic scarring, reduced school attainment, greater difficulty in maintaining relationships, social exclusion and lower earnings.” If separated from their mother, they would be exposed to these risks that have the power to lead them to an unfavorable future. If my wife were to be deported, my depression and anxiety will take control of me, causing me to distance myself away from family and work. …show more content…
In addition, educationally, my children would suffer if we were to return to China. Vivian and Chris grew up in the United States: thus they are surrounded by American teachers, culture, and friends. They are native english speakers and are immersed in the U.S. cultural practices and beliefs. For the children, homework, language barriers, psychological adaptation etc. will all contribute to their challenge in coping with a new country let alone a new educational system. I encounter sleepless nights due to the fact education and opportunities, but would also have to endure the strict Chinese education. The Chinese educational system issues are broadly covered by the media. Unlike typical Chinese citizens, my children will not be listed in the household registry, which prevents them from receiving the same benefits as the native students. They will instead be treated as a foreign student and pay extra foreign fees and tuition, which are significantly higher than the native students. With our meager hypothetical monthly income in China, we would not be able to bear these costs. According to data retrieved on Beijing 2013, high schools tuition for foreign students is 6,000 Yuan and 12,000 annually, while the native students only pay about 700 yuan. In terms of college tuition, foreign students pay about 30,000 Yuan per year to versus 6,000 Yuan for a native student. With our hypothetical Chinese income, it would be impossible to support our children in completing their
As the evidence shows that, "The Chinese value education as a stepping stone to success, and children - especially only children - are under a lot of pressure to excel in school. There is also an unspoken code of conformity, and there is a lot of pressure to fit in, for to be singled out is the penultimate in humiliation, causing students to 'lose face' in front of their peers. In addition to academics, parents also try and enroll their children in a wide variety of after-school activities to enhance their overall development."("History of Chinese Education, Five Necessities of Chinese Culture", Paragraph 2) This evidence shows not only teachers but also parents or students from China are still keeping the traditional mind to study. Thousands years ago in ancient China, schools are competitive, students needs to have high quality of studying and good relations with the school as well. Even they might feel stressful on learning when they are in elementary school. Nowadays, parents still think their kid must have the best education, more strong points. Childrens are learning lots of skills and knowledge when they are extremely young. In Canada, it's totally different. Students like team-work, they don't have bias on any schools. They study breezily without any pressure. So, more traditional makes Chinese education different from Canadian
My mom would always say, “American born Chinese students have it easy in America.” One key difference between the American education system and Chinese education system is the way they are taught. Being raised in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, I went to school to understand the idea of analyzing and understanding concepts. After reading Only Hope, I realized that their education is based on more memorizations. To Chinese students, understand the concept and apply it is not the most important, you must just memorize it for the exam. Many parents in China would say that going on vacation and relaxing is a waste of time because they need to focus on learning. In Greenspan’s article, it mentions that a student in China is the top of her class and is fluent in English, yet she cannot go on vacation because her mother wants her to spend time learning, many students in China
According to Amy Chua, "Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all their children's own desires and preferences" (411). Attending a sleepover or being in a school play is not acceptable to Chinese parents. No Chinese kid would even dare to tell their parents about participating in a school play because they would get in a huge
....” Clearly, immigrants are necessary to Canada’s survivability and as a result, so the China-Canada relationship is too. China’s policy to pick up the tuition fee of Canadian students allows Canadians the opportunity to experience their education in whatever way they want. It gives them a chance to participate in the global connection Canada has with China.
The greatest woman I’ve ever known always told me that education was important…and she was right. I came from a small town in the suburbs of St. Louis, Missouri prior to becoming a teenager. At the time, education was abundant in St. Ann, where I lived. I attended a decent elementary school and made good grades, despite mathematics not being my cup of tea. I have
Analyzing some basic information from China Education Panel Survey (http://ceps.ruc.edu.cn ), we can find the relation between the education parents got and the children got is very clear. But it doesn’t mention if it is related to Chinese-mother teaching methods. On the other hand, when we compare the individuals, Western children will never lose. Barry Clark Barish and Jeffery Hall won the Nobel Prizes and they are extraordinary in their own fields. I don’t think we can say that they are not good enough to compete with Chinese children.
I have always looked up to your marriage with mom and hoped to one day be with someone who I can always rely on through thick and
The article ‘Parents Deported. What Happens to US-born Kids?” gives different real life scenarios in where young children are separated from their mothers because of the fact that they were deported. This definitely affects young children because they still need their mother in life and now their being separated. The article talks about the different reasons why undocumented people come to the United States. The article also mentions that in some cases when children don’t have anyone to see after them their taken to adoption centers hoping to find them a good home.
Introduction The purpose of this research is to identify the side effects of deportation of both children, and one of the parents, and to know under what circumstances these children may become emotionally or worse. All separation is catastrophic for a child, who by his young age cannot understand in depth what happens; however this phenomenon has very specific characteristics when immigration laws come into play, legal laws, just as culture and ethnicity play an important role in the improvement or worsening of these children. This type of trauma that affects American children is becoming increasingly common in US households. And for many children, the separation is much longer than three days. It is estimated that more than 5,000 American
The very first important development for a successful country is to have a respectable education system for those who need it from the first day they are born into the world. We have to instill what we want in our people to reflect how we want our to development to appear. In china their school system has more of a strict structure for example, at Harbin Number One High School; students begin school at 7:00 a.m., and remain until 8:20 p.m. The seniors, preparing for their final examinations, stay later, even until 10:00 at night.(Rybak) In a Chinese school the day are much longer than an American school day. This means that Chinese student spend a lot more time in school which bring us to conclusion that Chinese are more advantaged then the American student in long run. This prepares them for college or even the young adult can be bio-lingual. Most American student usually attends school for seven hours each weekday and may forget what they have learned because it in instilled into the young adults’ heads like the Chinese do with their students.
I was born in Taiwan where people are passionate and enthusiastic. I have grown up in a society where people respect and welcome different thoughts and beliefs. Until 2005 my family moved to Guangdong as my father’s job requirement. China has been developing rapidly over the past 20 years. I integrated into Chinese society pretty soon although both are quite different in many ways. I had made a lot of acquaintance with local students in the schools and had a wonderful study in high school to win the scholarships for three consecutive years. In 2011, I passed the high school entrance examination and got admitted to Dongguan Middle School which is the best one in Dongguan area.
There have been a vast number of lives that have touched mine. Many different people have shared a piece of their soul in my formation. However, it is my mother who is the most important and most influential person in my life. My mother raised me by herself since the day I was born. My father was abusive and she left to make a better life for the both of us. She has worked as many as four jobs at one time. My mother wants to make sure my brothers and I have a better life than she did. It hasn’t always been easy for her, taking care of us on her own, trying to pay bills and making sure we had everything we needed. My mom has always had us involved in sports at a very young age. We always were doing something or involved in something growing up. We went to summer school all through elementary school because she wanted us to get a head start. I remember when we were little she enrolled us I a manners and more class and I can recall when we would go out to eat people would compliment us on how well behaved we were.
My mother was not only worry and take care of me, she always by my side when I need her help. I felt sad, my mother always by my side to talk and to console. While I am glad, my mother is always been there to share and listen to me. When I failed to do something, my mother who was gave me advices. She has always supported me in all my choices. She tried to make me strong people with independent minds. I looks to her in hopes that someday I will be as happy, as strong and as well as
Many people, as well as myself, believe that a mother’s influence is one of the most important influences that one will ever come in contact with in their lives. A mother’s love, comfort, and support will often help to shape a child and allow them to become the person they need to be later on in life. My mother has had a great influence on my life from day one. I often refer to her as my “rock” because she is definitely a solid foundation in my life. Being that she is a great role model, my mother’s support and presence in my life has allowed me to grow as a person, keep my spirits high through hell and high water, prosper in all that I have done, as well as mold me to be a great person in the future.
I could not think of a better example or provide for me than my mother. She was on the right track for the rest of her life because she got into college when she was only 17 years old. When she tells me about those kinds of stories, they always consists of being the youngest kid in the class who everybody else thinks should still be in high school.