What is a Parent to do?
Does tough love actually work on troubled teens? In today society there is little speculation if tough love can actually help a troubled teen. Recently, I saw a film mentioning the tough love approach the film was entitled “Erin Brockvich”. The movie was based around a woman, Erin who was dealing with her troubled 16 year old daughter, Elizabeth. In the film it tells about Elizabeth’s drug and alcohol addiction and how her mother didn’t know the seriousness of her daughter problems. Erin decided she needs to take action but didn’t want to shut her own daughter out ,but instead decides to cut off all financial strings with her daughter only giving her the emotional support she needs. According to Kathryn Rudlin in her article entitled What Tough Love is and What It isn’t “The overall idea behind the tough love approach is for parents to love their troubled teen enough to consistently set firm limits and follow through on appropriate consequences when they are not followed.” Tough love is an approach that I claim is a faultless and suitable way to deal with ones troubled teen.
Tough love has been an outstanding approach for parents to help avoid the strain and frustration that comes along when dealing with a troubled teen. I wanted to do my own research, asking the question to others, and hearing their opinions on what they thought about using the tough love approach on troubled teens. I decided to advocate by using my social networks, I posted the question onto my Facebook and within a few minutes I had a lot of feedback from my Facebook users. “No it would simply piss the teen off more.”(Facebook User 1) Another commented, “The tough love approach is good but to me, it would make me feel more unloved.” ...
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...eing that the teen should take responsibility for his or her actions.
When tough love is correctly used , it can be to effective way in the household dealing with a troubled teen. Katryn Rudlin points out “Unfortunately, in some cases these concepts have been used inappropriately and in the name of 'tough love' teens have been abused or kicked out of their home, approaches that clearly go against the tough love philosophy.”
In Conclusion, tough love is an effective method when dealing with troubled teens. The research I have done has proved that this can be such an way parents can be able to discipline their troubled teens. Tough love is the alternative that pushes your child to succeed in life and make them better than they already are. When it comes to parenting it can be a challenging job it requires a lot of time , attention , sacrifice and especially love.
These researchers believe that intensive intervention approaches are needed for youth who display antisocial behaviors because such behaviors put them at even greater risk for abusing substances. They also state that when youth engage in antisocial behaviors, the parents tend to be less accepting of them, show less affection, support and attachment to them. The parents may also have harsher attitudes and discipline with such youth. In addition, according to Santisteban et al (1997), research has shown that parents of youth with antisocial behaviors often use reinforcement inappropriately, use inconsistent parenting styles, and have a lot of family conflict and poor attachment to their children. Family therapy and intervention can be useful in helping parents to become a protective factor to help youth deal with stressors they are facing and to prevent their abuse of substances. However, if families do not receive interventions or help, youth with antisocial behaviors are more likely to be influenced by antisocial peers, drug use, and criminal activity in their neighborhoods. Also, if the parents force their problematic youth out of the home too soon, then they will be more easily influenced by
The Huxtables used tough love to encourage them to watch the choices they make. Before I begin with a particular episode of The Cosby Show, I just have to say how the Huxtables handled their middle daughter Vanessa with her traveling to Baltimore, Maryland and not telling her parents. I know my mother would have been very mad with me, because I did not tell her where I was going. As well as lying to her about what I was going to be doing. I know I would definitely get into a lot of trouble with my mother if I ever did such a thing like what Vanessa did. I would not even want to face my mom, if I had lied to her and disobeyed her rules and blatantly disrespect her.
Has there ever been a point where children get out of hand and There is nothing you can do? Is there a feeling that there is no more that can be done to discipline your child but send them away to a boot camp or teen treatment center? Maybe residential treatment/boot camp is a great option for your child. “Children are able to learn life skills that they may apply in their everyday settings to become successful in the future...troubled and disturbed children will be given the appropriate rehabilitation for ther mental development...the extreme strictness and restricted atmosphere encourages stressed kids to become cooperative,friendly, respectful for authority, and hardworking ” (The Pros). Some feel that this is not a great idea, however it can be beneficial to children.
This article was interesting to read. This article makes me think about all of my siblings who I have seen grown up around me and I can relate the article to their life. One adolescent that comes in mind is someone who would have parents that would try to get involve in school work and other activities. The only problem was that the school climate and the friends that surrounded this adolescent didn’t help at all. This led to a lot of conduct problems like running away from home, smoking, and coming home after
Teen violence could be prevented, with proper parenting. Low self-esteem is the leading reasons for becoming a teen violence target. As we know each relationship is unique in his own way, there are a few normal situations that can be an issue to teen dating violence. Most cases the abuser may have once been a victim or witnessed domestic violence themselves, situations that could impact this type of behavior, the abuser could have been raised with strict views on masculinity roles or they could have develop a level of anger management due to witnessed her mother being abused by their father.
Moylan states, “The effects of being abused persist into adolescence; teens who were abused as children are more likely to experience depression and other internalizing problems” (pg. 54). A lot of children that have been exposed to domestic violence are often sad. They are depressed. Most people who have been depressed have been tempted to do bodily harm or commit suicide. Most depressed children are depressed from fear that they may be next, or they may be the one being abused. Moylan also states, “Teens who were abused as children are also more likely to exhibit externalizing behavior problems, such as delinquency and violence perpetration” (pg. 54). The children that are acting out are taking their anger out on other people or other things. They feel like they are being abused so it is okay for them to hurt others. Most children that have been exposed are more likely to be in some kind of trouble with the law. They are crying for help and looking for attention. Domestic violence has a very negative effect on the way children behave. However, other people believe that children will just use that excuse just to try to get away with committing crimes. They believe that the child would probably do the same thing even if they were not exposed to the violence. The sad truth is that the children need help and they need to be removed from the violent environment
According to the author Dingfelder Sadie F., claims that many people are unaware of the prevalence of teen dating violence. Even though there have been many heartening successes, says Sadie, getting people to take teen dating violence seriously sometimes feels like an uphill battle. Prosecution guidance is needed to be drawn towards young teenagers who are been physically abused, bullied or suffer from other forms of “dating abuse” in their relationships. Majority of the teenagers tend...
Student’s lack of success can occur for many reasons but some believe that that it stems from poverty. Many families are forced to work more than one job in order to maintain the household and the children end up staying at home without adult supervision. Adult supervision is needed in order to provide structure, rules, and teach children basic social skills. Social skills are essential in our daily life as it is what we use to communicate with people to get what we want or need. In my experience, I have also noticed that the majority of at risk youth come from single mom or grandparent homes. I have experienced talking to single moms or guardians who do not implement discipline at home because they do not know how to discipline. Other times, they feel bad that the child’s other parent or parents are not in the picture so they try to composite by not enforcing consequences. The mental health of a child is another important concept that schools should consider when they are dealing with troubled youth. Many students have experienced trauma in their lives that has never healed. Teaching children to properly express their emotions is something that sometimes parents do not know how to teach. Having mental health services such as counseling is a great way to help the student heal from the trauma that has been keeping them from being successful. Schools should require all student to receive a mental health screening along with their physical in order to know the student’s history and to understand and help
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Most experts believe that children who are raised in abusive homes learn that violence is a way to resolve conflicts and problems. They may replicate the violence they witnessed as children in their future relationships and parenting experiences. Children who witness their parent being abused are more likely to batter their partners as adults than children raised in nonviolent homes. For some going into adolescence may result in the belief that threats and violence are the norm in
Falling in love with someone is supposed to be one of life’s greatest gifts. People fall in love, get married and have children. Sometimes life is not that simple for some people. Sometimes during this great time in their life, their partner becomes physically, mentally, and sexually abusive. So one would ask, why not leave and get out of the relationship? It is not that simple for the victim. Fear of their partner’s actions, concerns about their children, and their deep attachment to their partner are factors that cause people to stay in abusive relationships.
Piko and Balázs (2012) state that during adolescence, emotional closeness to parents may diminish and conflicts with parents tend to increase. If there is a lack of emotional warmth and less open communication it may lead to the development of problem behaviors in adolescents. When looking at various parental protective factors, parental control and monitoring of behaviors have been found to be the strongest to help prevent adolescent substance use and abuse. Moderate and adequate control, not manipulative psychological control, can play an important role in children’s self-control, which is in turn related to their adjustment and behavior. According to the classification made by Maccoby and Martin (1983) the authoritative parenting style is classified by high responsiveness and being highly demanding.
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