Dysfunctional Effect Of Conflict

Conflict is “an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties, who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals (Galvin 210). Conflict always has had a negative connotation. It is important for everyone to understand that just because people have conflict it doesn’t mean that the relationship is considered dysfunctional. A person can be in a relationship and have conflict, and still have a functional relationship. In all relationship some form of conflict will occur, because the two partners, or family systems, or friends in the relationship will not always agree on the same things. It is how partners in the relationships deal with these conflicts (in a positive

One or more parties become aware of snappy answers, nonverbal messages in the form of slammed doors, or the avoidance of eye contact (Galvin 217).” An example of this would be, there was a situation where my partner had woken up from our nap, and I had woken up because he woke up. He had answered a call from his mother, and they were talking for a few minutes and then they go off the phone. I had go up to give him a hug, but he pushed me off of him. I asked him what was wrong, and he wouldn’t answer me, which made me feel that he was angry at me and that I had done something wrong. I asked him what was wrong serval times after that and he would not answer me still. Him not replying to me made me upset, so I caught an attitude and said “I did not do anything to you for you to be acting this way towards me.” He then gave an exasperated sigh, pushed his chair hard getting up, picked up his keys hard, and walked out the room, and left (frustration awareness signs). When he came back, I was really upset, and didn’t want to talk (my frustration awareness signs). He then said can we talk, and my smart remark was “oh so now you want to talk?” He then replied with “when I am upset, I don’t like to talk right away, and I just need some time to stop being upset, and I would like that space.” I then said, “How did you expect me to

A time when I was overtly causing destructive conflict is when I was verbally passive aggressive through text messages which was in the early stages of our relationship. When I didn’t like a certain behavior, I would say how I felt with no filter, which was unhealthy, which I stopped doing. My partner has never been overtly destructive within our relationship. He has been overt in our relationship by missing days when we were supposed to be spending time together, and not letting me see him on days when I wanted to see him, which was before we started dating. We aren’t really destructive with each other, and I’d like to think that we are very constructive when we deal with conflict. We both listen to each other when each other is talking and always with empathy. We fair fight by not using things that the other person has said in confidence in arguments (Galvin 237). I never thought to use the things my partner has said to me in confidence in an argument between us. Our physical environment when we have conflict is always face-to-face, when we are in bed, or I sit on his lap when we have deep conversations, or disagreements. I make sure this happens so that even though we are upset, we