Divorce can be a very draining process involving a conglomerate of variables, that can affect a child directly or indirectly. As a definition, divorce is the action of legally dissolving a marriage, but when children are added to the equation, the divorce process takes a different route. In the united states, divorce rates are higher that in other countries around the world, with a 40 % of children of varying ages experiencing their parents’ legal separation (Santrock, 2013, p.308).
Children respond differently to their parents divorce depending on their age, the circumstances of the divorce, their temperament, parenting styles, and the level of attachment to each of the parents (Nair, 2005, p. 933). It is also possible that changes to family
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A situation where the parents are fighting constantly, levels of stress are high, and verbal or physical abuse is present can make the child more aware of what is transpiring in their parents relationship and have negative consequences. On the other side, the divorcing couple where arguments are rationalized, common grounds are found, and the well being of the child is put first can provide a positive environment, and a subsequent positive effect on the child’s behavior. These situations can be related to E. Mark Cummings’ emotional security theory in which there is a variation in “negative marital conflict involving hostile emotional displays and destructive conflict tactics, and positive marital conflict as marital disagreement involving calm discussions and working together on a solution” (Santrock, 2013, p.308). Both of the exposed situations are related to the level of attachment of the child to the parents or the primary …show more content…
Parental conflict can also be a source of stress, and can hinder the relationship between the parent and the child, and consequently affect the parenting style. Provided that the stressful, and hostile relationship between the two parents continuous, it can hinder the parent-child relationship. This can be seen especially with the parent that no longer lives with the child.
In conclusion, even though there are many variables that affect children during the time of their parents divorce, declines in parenting quality, high levels of parental conflict and the disruption parent-child relationship can affect the child’s development at the moment with bigger consequences in the future. Some of the adverse effects are being low psychological well being, lower academic achievement, and behavioral issues.
As a child that comes from a family of divorced parents, it has help me understand my behaviors after my parents separated, and how my parents dealt with it at the moment. Their behavior towards each other was somewhat hostile, because of the motives for the separation. However, their attitude change towards each other in an amicable way as time passed. Even though I might have been very harsh with my father around that time, he still was there when I needed and was responsible with any matter that had to do with my well
“Divorce weakens the bonds between parents and children over the long run. Adult children of divorce describe relationships with both their mother and their father less positively, on average, and they are about 40 percent less likely than adults from intact marriages to say they see either parent at least several times a week” (Gallagher). This statement could be better supported if only Gallagher would have included test results of teenage or younger children of divorced parents. She could have also had other factors such as the results of the children who stayed with mom compared to children who stayed with dad. At the end of the day, regardless of the status of the parents’ relationship, a child will love whichever parent is around more. To whichever parent that shows more love, compassion, and interest. To whichever one who shows that they
Children of divorced parents may have a lower sense of psychological well-being than children who grew up with intact families the range of feelings that a child may encounter include: disbelief and denial, sadness, loss, loneliness, depression, anger, anxiety, fear, relief, and hope. Some children may experience long-lasting emotional effects into their adulthood that damage their ability to preserve relationships. The result of parental divorce shapes children emotionally and may impact self-esteem, future relationships, dating and marriage (Armando Loomis and Booth 895+)..
Divorce is becoming a worldwide phenomenon, significantly affecting children’s well-being. It radically changes their future, causing detrimental effects. According to (Julio Cáceres-Delpiano and Eugenio Giolito, 2008) nearly 50% of marriages end with divorce. 90% of children who lived in the USA in the 1960s stayed with their own biological parents, whereas today it makes up only 40% (Hetherington, E. Mavis, and Margaret Stanley-Hagan, 1999). Such an unfavorable problem has been increasing, because in 1969, the California State Legislature changed the divorce laws, where spouses could leave without providing cause (Child Study Center, 2001).
Divorce is a heavy concept that has many implications for those involved. The situation becomes even more consequential when children are considered. As divorce has become more commonplace in society, millions of children are affected by the separation of the nuclear family. How far-reaching are these effects? And is there a time when divorce is beneficial to the lives of the children? This paper will examine some of the major research and several different perspectives regarding the outcomes of divorce for the children involved, and whether it can actually be in the best interest of the kids.
Most people, when thinking about divorce, worry about the impact that it has on the children that are involved. Even though children are most likely better off if totally incompatible parents separate instead of staying together, divorce is about loss and change, and it is still hard for children. Everyone knows that divorce has its effects on children. There are three different sources that try to explain these effects. Graham Blaine Jr. states that divorce is a threat to all children, whereas Rhona Mahony states that divorce is not always the cause of behavioral or academic problems in children coming from divorced families. Yvette Walczak and Sheila Burns state that the extent of the damage can be determined by the parents and their methods of explanation to the children.
Divorce is a very common word in today's society. According to the American Heritage Dictionary, "divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage or a complete or radical severance of closely connected things"(Pickett, 2000). This dissolution of marriage has increased very rapidly in the past fifty years. In 1950 the ratio of divorce to marriage was one in every four; in 1977 that statistic became one in two. Currently one in every two first marriages results in divorce. In second marriages that figure is considerably higher, with a 67% average (National Vital Statistics Report, 2001). One critical aspect of divorce is often not taken into consideration: How it affects children. Every year 1.1 million children are affected by divorce (Benjamin, 2000). Children from divorce or separation often exhibit behavioral and long-term adjustment problems (Kelly, 2000). Throughout this paper I will discuss divorces effects on children at different age levels, how they react, and what can be done to help them.
Researchers have conducted studies on how marital conflict is a significant source of environmental stress for children. There has been evidence of its indirect affects and direct affects. Witnessing such conflict may harm their stress response systems, affecting their mental and intellectual development. Research findings suggest that stress from marital conflict can hinder children’s development of cognitive ability.
Children of divorced parents often enough feel as though the divorce is their fault and become depressed and distant while suffering from low self-esteem since they think that they are the reason their parents split. Many children of divorced parents typically grow up with behavior problems and poor self-images as though they cannot be loved or are not worthy of being loved since their parents divorced, there is the feeling of not being loved at all. The children also suffer because they are now separated from one parent and no longer have both parents in the home. This devastation causes psychiatric trauma to the child’s state of mind.
In a divorce, the parents usually do not get along and may have different opinions on items. They may go to court and fight against each other about what factors caused the separation leading to the divorce and how the properties are divided. This possible exposure is very unhealthy for a child. The child sees his parents fighting and may learn from the behavior and display it. He or she may see that behavior as being an acceptable action. The fighting behavior of parents causes behavioral problems within a child. The child may hear things from one parent about the other that causes the child to take sides when he or she should be learning not to be biased and to love both parents equally.
Children will be suffered conflict with the interaction with their parents and siblings, and other aspects in their family life by cause of the divorce (Berk, 2010). Some parents who decide to get divorced that they were waiting the time on arguments and fights. Also, these parents use their children to punishment to one to each other. For this situation, children have a lot of conflicts on their emotions, and they have issues in their security. For instance, the custody’s fights are the biggest battle during the separation, and parents develop a lot of stress during this process. In the majority of the cases, mothers have the custody of their children, and they have to raise as a single mother. Also, the children tend to develop a lot of fears and about what they want to do. The divorce brings several negatives on children, and children live with a lot of stress during the divorce process. As well as, each child is different, and they
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In the world we live in today, divorce has unfortunately become a normal thing in our lives. Many married couples are getting divorced for many reasons; problems in the marriage, either a spouse having an affair, a loss of feelings, and many other types of complications. Many divorces involve children who are young and due to their age do not understand what is really going on. We all know someone who has dealt with divorce. Children are the ones who are typically affected the most by the divorce and they will have to learn to cope with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in positive or negative ways.
Children are psychologically and socially affected by divorce and may need counseling either at the time of their parent’s divorce or in the future. They may react instantly by getting lower grades or becoming depressed or anxious. Younger children may begin to cling to the parent that remains in the home with them for they fear that both parents will eventually leave them. Older children may begin to rebel or become extremely disobedient and disrespectful. You may see unpleasant attitudes develop and they can become unsocial and no longer desire to be around their friends. Most children feel guilty for their parent’s ...
Divorce is more than just a legal dissolution of a married couple. It is a terminating process that breaks down a family that can leaves devastating consequences with the family. Society’s view on marriage has drastically changed from how it was viewed fifty years ago. Now of days people have easier access to divorce so instead of trying to work out conflicts they find it easier to simply sign some papers and rid themselves of their spouse. With divorce rates as high as they are today it seems as if people are not taking it considerations the potential devastating effects divorce may have on a child. Currently half of all divorces involve minor children (Portinoy, 2008), that is a lot of children
It’s important to realize that a child should feel safe with their parents and their relationship. When parents argue a child can begin to feel unsafe and question their relationship with their parents. This can prove to be harmful since “Through relationships with important attachment figures, children learn to trust others, regulate their emotions, and interact with the world…”(The National Child Traumatic Stress Network). Many could argue that this doesn’t matter, but it does because it can cause unwanted problems in the future. “Developing