“Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive”- Havelock Ellis. Jealousy cripples in many ways and it ruins people's lives. Literal definition of jealousy means, feeling or showing envy of someone or their achievements and advantages (Dictionary.com). Not to mention that jealousy goes deeper than that; it does not solely mean being envies of someone’s accomplishments. It encompasses feelings that derive from the fear of abandonment and leads to rage, humiliation, or both simultaneously. This emotion usually develops when a person feels a threat to a meaningful relationship from a third-party. The threat could be legitimate or assumed according to Psychology Today. Jealousy is fueled by insecurities, it limits people from having separate hobbies, and it causes distance between partners. A jealous person is not secure in himself or herself because they believe they are not good enough; that they are replaceable. People who are jealous and in a relationship have a tendency to think that his or her partner will leave to be with someone else. As a matter of fact it is called the inferiority complex where a man or woman has an impoverished ego or low self-esteem (Gilbert). This means people with an inferiority complex can see their partner leaving them for someone else so they have little to no …show more content…
The partner does not like the feeling of being questioned about everything they do and whom they hang out with. In other words “Relationships — of all kinds — are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers…(Jamison)” Asking too many questions and hovering is all what is incorporated into a jealous person which ends up with the distancing of oneself from that type of
...ts to experience the other side. She has a natural jealous feeling, but once someone can be satisfied and settled with what they have. Once that person has that feeling, then they are able to mature and create their own identity.
In the research report “Sex Differences in Jealousy: Evolution, Physiology, and Psychology” conducted by Buss, Larsen, Westen, and Semmelroth (1992), the primary purpose of their study is to differentiate the gender differences, particularly in humans. This interest seems to originate from the difference between humans and all of the other animals, whereby paternity is most significant to humans – specifically males. They believe this varies from other animals that can display lowered paternity probability and greater cuckoldry, which stems from female animal’s biological capability of internal female fertilization (251). Hence, females of most species will most certainly know that they are the mother of the off spring, but emotional infidelity from the male partner via spending resources on another female for instance, is a potential consequence experienced by the female giving birth. With men, it differs on the basis of cuckoldry, in the sense that their potential consequence is when their female partner engages in sexual activity with another male – in the animal kingdom it is known as the rival gametes (251). Simply put,
may have made the advent of a concubine a source of relief rather than jealousy
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This happens when one the partner’s feels that they need to make themselves more appealing so as to attract or to be attractive enough to their desired mates. When one falls into this trap you are afraid that no one will accept you as you are and insecurity gets in the relationship. Insecurity can lead to doubts in a
Jealousy. Jealousy can make us become things that we do not wish to be, and we can become those things without us even knowing it. And is it even worth it? Jealousy is definitely at its highest point when it comes to love. If you see the person who you are in love with and they are with someone else, that is the worst feeling to have. Jealousy like no other will take over you. Examples of jealousy are found throughout the book In the Book Jake, Reinvented, there are a lot of cases of jealousy between people and their relationships, jealousy of wanting to have someone else’s popularity, material possessions or just having a girl. The jealousy in this book is very evident and I’ll show you the examples.
Shakespeare said it best in regards to the emotion of jealousy, it mocks the person it feeds on. Which means to me, you never win from being jealous. I have had the emotion of jealousy plenty of times just like every other person on this planet. You can be jealous of the nerdy girl because she knows everything, the loud person because
explains to us that from now on you have to take on jealousy as well.
Jealousy makes people hate and/or not trust other people. For example, before they went to New York, Tom and Gatsby got in an argument. Tom only argued with Gatsby because he jealous and thought Gatsby was sleeping with Daisy. “Certainly not for a common swindler who’d have to steal the ring he put on her finger.” Later, when Daisy went to Gatsby’s house, Tom went with because he didn't trust them together alone. Finally, Tom convinces Mr. Wilson to kill Gatsby. He did this because he did not like Gatsby and didn't want him with Daisy anymore.
To understand and judge the effects of jealousy in relationships we must first analyze where it comes from. To begin with, "jealousy occurs as a result of a perceived threat to an existing relationship" (Aune). This means that the person who becomes jealous feels that their standing with the other person is threatened in some way. The causes of these feelings of vulnerability can stem from a variety of sources depending on the sex, experiences, and general disposition of the person. Owens points out that one common misconception on the cause or reason for jealousy from the recipient's point of view is that "If you're jealous, it must mean you love me." Owens also notes that jealousy is more often a "reflection of other things like the person's need to control …fear of being alone, or poor self esteem" (qtd. in Jet 2002).
Jealousy is a powerful emotion that can blind oneself from identifying the truth. Shakespeare heavily emphasizes this theme throughout the drama Othello, especially through the actions of characters. In the play the heinous antagonist, Iago, uses each character’s jealousy to deceive that person and manipulate the truth. His false promises and deceitfulness bring to the demise of many of the main characters in the play, including the protagonist, Othello. Othello could not have been deceived if it were not for his powerful jealousy. Therefore, Shakespeare is telling us that jealousy is an ugly trait that can hide the truth, which in turn causes many problems between characters in the play.
Jealousy can sometimes be an inevitable feeling to have towards other people in relationships or even in friendships, and that feeling can negatively affect the bonds with these certain people. One of the main themes in Shakespeare’s Othello, was how friendships and marriages can be ruined all because of one person’s jealousy, which can ring true in real life.
In his sonnet, Shakespeare laments that even when we know that lust is dangerously irrational, most people cannot resist falling under its spell. Othello finds the same to be true about jealousy.... ... middle of paper ... ...
Marriage is based on trust and if that fails insecurity comes into play based on taking their own problems and twisting
also jealous of Desdemona. He wants to be in her place- he wants to be