In the article entitled “Tell Me Sweet (And Not-So-Sweet-Little Lies: Deception in Romantic Relationships)” both authors, Jennifer Gutherie and Adrianne Kunkel explain and describe how deception plays a role in romantic relationships. Although traits like honesty and openness are seen as desirable, deception is still used in romantic relationships. The study discussed in the article helps provide individuals with answers to what extent it is that deception is being used, and the reasoning behind it. Whilst being deceptive might not be deemed as a desirable trait among romantic partners, deception is often times used as a way to maintain a relationship. Whether we like it or not deception happens to play an intricate role in romantic relationships. It has been suggested that perhaps deception in romantic relationships is motivated by a concern for the relationship and the individuals involved in it. The study wanted to explore the motives for using deceptions and to what extent it is being used. …show more content…
Information regarding the study was handed out to participant along with, pocket sized notebooks, and instructions for how to utilize the notebooks for diary entries. Before the study started the participants were to attend and hour long training session where they had to identify behavior that misled their partner. They were also given examples to of deception and the categories of deception so they knew exactly what to report in their diary entries. The participants job was to record in their notebooks every time deception was used with their partner for a period of seven days. They were to record what for of deception was used whether it be, exaggerations, half truths, lies or secrets, which answered the first question in the study. In order to answer the second question of the study participants had to answer what there reasoning behind using deception
Viorst opens her article by explaining social lies. She describes these as lies to avoid hurt, such as lying to a cousin by pretending to enjoy dinner. Judith believes they are necessary and acceptable; without them, relationships would be icky and short. By being honest and not telling white lies a person can come off harsh. Furthermore, Viorst thinks that not telling social lies is arrogant.
One of the last types of ways investigators are coached to detect deception is in the behavioral attitudes of a person being interviewed such as being unconcerned or over anxious (Kassin, 2005). The success rate of looking for these cues are very successful in telling if an individual is being deceitful and has surpassed any laboratory tests conducted on the subject. The laboratory test however did reveal some interesting facts. The research showed that people who had training and experience did not score better than the control group who received no training. In fact all individuals scored at the chance level with the people who had training scored just above chance or at the chance level. To check if special training in the detection of deception was more accurate a study ...
In the day and age where online dating and meeting is becoming more common, it’s easy to alter how you are perceived. You can disclose details about yourself you believe are attractive and withhold/hide information about yourself you believe other people would reject you for. The Lenient Thesis provides that it is only a minor wrong to deceive another person into sex by misleading them about certain personal features such as natural hair color, occupation, or romantic intentions. This thesis does exclude run-of-the-mill deception like someone’s sexual history, t.v show preferences, or how funny one finds the other. In “Sex, Lies, and Consent”, Tom Dougherty seeks to argue against the lenient thesis, and instead that deceiving another person
Deborah Tannen is the author of “Sex, Lies and Conversation: Why is it So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other”. Tannen is a linguist who researches the relationships between men and women. She has not only conducted research, but has information published in several books and essays about this topic. Her research includes talking with several of groups and collecting data on the behalf of their response. In her essay, “Sex, Lies and Conversation,”Tannen argues that complications arise in marriages and relationships because individuals are not able to communicate with members of the opposite sex.
In the article “Is Lying Bad for Us”, Richard Gunderman persuades his readers the effect of lying can have on our daily lives. He expresses strong opinions towards being honest and how lying has negative consequences on not only our mental health but
Do men and women effectively communicate in the same way, or is it just a conversation of misunderstanding? There is constantly a new interest in whether men and women converse successfully. Professor and journalist, Deborah Tannen writes, “Sex, Lies, and Conversation: Why Is It So Hard for Men and Women to Talk to Each Other?” Tannen compares and contrasts all conversational styles, and explains how the expectation of dialogue affects how men and women converse. Tannen focuses on the subject of marriage and the imbalance of interest between male and female couples. The contrasting perspective however comes from, Deborah Cameron, author of, “What Language Barrier”. Cameron conveys that the stereotypes left upon male and female communication
Secure romantic relationships are based on trust and understanding. They are developed over time and tend to last the longest; however, just because a couple feels secure doesn’t mean the couple is necessarily happy. While every healthy relationship shines with rays of trust and happiness, shadows often lurk filled with lies and deceit. A painting, entitled Alley by the Lake, by Leonid Afremov portrays the secure, yet secret, side to relationships.
We lie a lot, says behavioral economist Dan Ariely. The central thesis of Dan Ariely’s The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty is that human behavior is driven by two conflicting motivations, and that most human values are not compatible all of the time. On one hand,
In the story Say Yes by Tobias Wolff, a marriage is broken overnight by a revelation of the insufficiency of their love in the test. Along with the husband’s wrong response to the “Love Test”, the relationship is dramatically demolished by Ann’s sudden realization of the superficial love of her husband. Even though her husband tries to please Ann with the right answer, her feelings of love has already been shattered by distrust and suspicion. The hypothetical “Love Test” in the story reveals the superficiality of his love, drastically shifting the relationship from intimacy to uncertainty.
Cheating on your spouse can cause a lot of problems that can be resisted. One way is to talk with your partner and have an understanding. Another way is to just be faithful. What is so wrong with doing the person you really “love” right? If you do not really love them break up with them. Also cheating on your partner may cause you to contract an STD. The reason people say that is because you never know what the person you’re having sex with is doing behind your back. They can trick you any minute. STD’s is something you do not want to play with either. Once you contract it, it ain't no looking back. Cheating is the same as lying and flirting, there are plenty of ways that people can cheat even when some think they are not cheating.Talking
The term infidelity involves engaging in all aspects that relate to breaking the promise to be faithful to a person’s sexual partner. The promise can be in many forms such as developing the marriage vows that are sanctified through legally binding contract or a verbal agreement between two partners. Regardless of the type of commitment, every relationship is different. Therefore the terms of the relationship, and each person’s expectations of what a monogamous relationship is must be made clear from the beginning. In the 21st century, it is no secret that the act of infidelity is common among relationships and when it occurs, it raises painful questions regarding the ability for the relationship to rebuild trust, whether or not a couple should
In 21st century, the definition of love broadened as couples have been considered to be dating after they have had a first date or when they become short-term partners or when they have redefined their “buddy” relationship to something more intense or when they are involved in a long-term romantic relationship, or when they designate each other as “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”. The relationships are not anymore confined to marriage, it is now often treated as a stage in a relationship where two people are “dating,” “committed,” or “invested” in one another. Earlier people used to write Love Letters to each other expressing their feelings and concern for that person but it is no longer the same in 21st
For so many people one of the hardest things in life is maintaining a strong and healthy relationship with another person, but it is especially difficult in a romantic relationship. For the most part, successful relationships are based on honesty, communication, trust, and most importantly compromise. When you are in a relationship that has a foundation based on those characteristics, it makes you feel connected with that person. On the opposite end of the spectrum, however, traits such as jealousy, greed, deceit and selfishness can lead to disastrous relationships that will only leave people hurt.
Something that complicates the concept of passive deception is what I call the question of importance. Passive deceit does not exist in every occasion in which information is withheld, but something is withheld in every instance of passive deception. So, what determines whether or not the withholding of information is sufficient enough to also qualify as deception? I contend that the two qualities, which I call determinants of deception, that separate deception from simple withholding are importance and likelihood, the latter is only necessary in situations with a certain level of doubt or during
(2010) which talks about honesty and dishonesty, they found out that some of their participants claimed to have lied a lot and others are very little. Serota believes that individual difference greatly affects the Human Deceptive communication. Individual differences play a major role in this field, and most lies in our society told by a small number of prolific liars (Serota et al., 2010). A recent initial work supports Serota’s study and reveals that people who chronologically tend towards attempting to achieve positive outcomes (rather to avoid negative things to happen) are more likely to lie due to their reduction of fear risks involved in such a