Deborah Tannen's 'Bossy' Is More Than A Word To Women

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Being called by certain words just because of your gender and race is something us in our society have always done to discriminate against each other. Nowadays many have of us are discriminated for who we are but African Americans and women tend to suffer more from it. I believe that both do not receive the same amount of respect as men and other races do, and it is something that society should change because we all are equal as any other in this world. I recently read two texts from two authors who are Deborah Tannen who says women should not be called “bossy” and earn the same amount of respect when giving authority, and Langston Hughes who says that “black” is a discriminating word for the African American people. I agree to their argument …show more content…

Tannen discusses about how the word “bossy” has a negative meanings in our society towards women who demonstrate assertiveness in the workplace. In the text called ““Bossy” Is More Than a Word to Women” by Deborah Tannen says “ In short, women at work are in a double bind: If they talk in these ways, which are associated with and expected of women, they seem to lack confidence, or even competence. But if they talk in ways expected with someone in authority, they are seen as too aggressive”(65). This is important because the word “bossy” affects women who are in a workplace to have a lack of confidence with the power of authority. In a social standpoint they do not want to be seen as rude, pushy, or controlling and that shouldn’t be the case. The word “bossy” should not be used to discriminate a woman who is doing her job as a leader; they should be treated with respect when demonstrating assertiveness in a workplace. I understand Tannen’s point of view that why should women have to act in a gentle manner when enforcing authority rather than being assertive because they do not want to be seen aggressive. Discriminating against a woman just because of the gender by calling her “bossy” is something society has made to be seen as if it is okay. It is not okay because women are very capable of showing authority and they shouldn 't …show more content…

I work at “ World Famous Tommy’s Hamburgers “ and I’m assistant manager / crew leader and my position requires to be in charge and responsible for everything that happens at work. I am not the only one with the same position there are some women who work the same position as I do. The employees respect me and follow my every order but when I see the women in charge try to enforce authority they either get laugh at or just won’t be respected. That really bothers me because some of these women have been working there way longer than I have and still they don’t get respected by the employees. I’m really against that so at work I tell my employees that the women in charge and whoever that may be needs to respected and acknowledge when demonstrating assertiveness. If the employees do not respect the women in charge how will the work will get done if the women aren’t able to perform their job. I believe that we should stop singling out women from being in charge because they have the same amount of knowledge and power as men do to be in charge in a

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