Authoritarian Parenting Style Has Made Me

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Growing up in a family with authoritarian parenting style has made me into someone who I am inherently not. For the past few years, my parents pressured me to do things I did not find interesting and I never dared to go against their wishes, obeying them and brushing my own interests aside. I put my future in their hands, looking at the world with my eyes closed. Directly following their guide with no room for choice left for me, separated me from the rest of my peers. It is as if, due to my parents’ pressures, I have never found my true self. This has shaped me into a person whom I barely know. I have always been aware that they did it for my own good, and for their own daughter’s future, so I never tried standing against them. I was thankful for my parents for what they have done for me; however, deep inside, I felt it was not right. I had to stop denying myself the chance to answer the question “Who am I? What do I want?” …show more content…

However, old habits die hard, it is difficult to simply change the situation while I am still living with my parents. We both agreed it was best for me to go abroad and find my passion, free of any pressure and control. I realized that along with all the other advantages of studying in the US, learning to be independent, decisive and finding my true self is essential to me. I can solve this problem by meeting people from all over the world and the diverse courseworks offered by US colleges. I want to engage in something I truly like and find what I am capable of doing the

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