The Islamic ideas of arranged marriage propose a traditional and sensible approach to marriage. An arranged marriage is a marriage planned and agreed to by the families or guardians of the bride and groom, unlike a love marriage, also called autonomous marriage, which is completely driven by choice. Decades ago brides and groom would be arranged to be married by their families with little or no say, in some cases the bride and groom would not even meet until the wedding day! However, modern arranged marriages have become more practical and less restricted. Today’s brides and grooms are allowed courting periods, input, and approval.
However, in India, it is not an uncommon practice to marry a person that your parents have approved/chosen for you. As it turns out, most of the marriages that take place in India are arranged. Arranged marriages are a traditional practice in India, so you can find arranged marriages being practiced in all social classes. The parents of the individual play a big part in this tradition because they are the ones who choose a partner for the individual to marry. The parents must look into the family background of the future bride or groom to make sure that their sons/daughters marry into good families.
The traditional idea of marriage is basically one man and one woman in a monogamous and permanent relationship. Western culture marriages are usually based on love and romance but there’s a debate whether love marriages are better than arranged marriages. In other cultures other than the Western culture, arranged marriage is the norm in the society. India is well known for making arranged marriages for young adults in their teen years especially Indian families with wealth and power. The family believes that their child and the suitable mate that they have chosen for their child should be in the same social class and well educated before making the arranged marriage.
Arranged Marriage In general, arranged marriage has provided people fundamental principles about the importance of marriage and how a person can find happiness. Arranged marriage defines marriage between a man and a woman, which arranged by the couple 's parents and relatives based on family ties and traditions. Although marriage is described as the oldest and enduring human institution, the reasons for marrying have differed from culture to culture. In common circumstances, cultural, religious, economic, age, educational level, and racial factors play a role in determining who the person can marry and form which marriage takes. Some statistics find that the rate of divorce is low in arranged marriages and high in love marriages.
But no matter what these different reasons are, the main idea has always been the same. People get married for the sake of security. This can be seen by looking at different types of marriages and finding the similarities underlying each. Although not many people are aware of it, one of the most common types of marriage was and in some parts of the world still is “Arranged Marriage”. “Arranged marriage is a marriage where the marital partners are chosen by others, based on considerations other than the pre-existing mutual attraction of the partners.” This method was practiced especially in noble families, where two different families came together and decided that the son in one family should marry the daughter of the other.
Majority of the elderly were married through someone, some not even being able to see each other till after the wedding ceremony. Now a day families are a bit more lenient about getting the approvals of both bride and groom before setting a wedding a day. In some parts of India, arrange marriages are still a business transaction or marrying of little children due to poverty. Arranged marriages are still very common in royalties and high caste people to practice maintaining their status. Love marriages and arranged marriages can both be justified, and they can both be disagreed upon for good reasons.
They know that when it comes time to marry their parents will find them a suitable mate and it will be considered scared and a lifelong commitment (Agence France-Presse.) A total of 74 percent of respondents from across India voted in favour of traditional "arranged" marriages, according to the poll by private television channel NDTV. In the Hindu faith, marriage is considered a sacred rite and not merely, legal, but holy merger of the bride and groom. Marriage in Indian is considered almost a determement to society. It can be impacted by several factors including geography, historical attributes, monetary and most recently social networking.
Something that can explain why people choose to get married can be the marriage gradient. The marriage gradient states that women have the tendency to “marry up” and men tend to “marry down” (Crawford, 2012). This came about because women used to have little access to education and prestigious jobs so their only choice to gain economic security was through marriage. Today, both men and women admire qualities such as intelligence, desire for children, and great personality, but for women, wealth and status are very important qualities (Crawford, 2012). In the movie, A Monsoon Wedding, the marriage that was about to take place was an arranged marriage.
On one hand, in arranged marriages the family of the person chooses the best candidature for marriage because the family wants to create a good couple which will match and the families of men and women are making their choice according to number of benefits it can give. “Many Indians look at marrying a person they don’t know, gives one “a lifetime to learn to love them”, as opposed to the American ideal of learning a person inside and out before entering into marriage. It can be said that an arranged marriage in India is not based on feelings, but rather on commitment” (Debashish, 2013). So this king of building the relations is also taking the feelings into account but the rat... ... middle of paper ... ...bility and support. Thus, to be happily we shouldn’t think whether we support free or arranged marriage.
Since the ceremonies can vary, Hindu’s are extremely watchful to stick their fundamental traditions of the Hindu religion. Hindu’s trust that marriage is for the joining of two spirits into one. A Hindu man is not considered to be complete until he is married and has the opportunity to discover love and have a child of his own. A Hindu woman is not thought to be complete until she is married, then she can support their child and satisfy the obligations of a conventional wife. Weddings are seen as a unique time of solidarity for a few and others utilized them as time to look for matches for their own children.