Arranged Marriages We are all familiar with the story: boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl get married. For the majority of the western world, this is our ideal image of a great beginning to a perfect marriage. But it is important to realize that while India is very modernized in some aspects, they still keep to the tradition of arranged marriages. Marriages formed out of love AKA "love marriages" do happen in India but it is not the norm. It is an accepted fact that a person's family will play a role in picking the marriage partner.
However, with the increasing prevalence of divorce among marriages for love, advocates of arranged marriage argue that its values; where the expectation of love is weak at the beginning but ideally grows over time; makes for a stronger and more lasting marital bond. There are several types of arranged marriages; child marriage is when the parents of a small child, even infants arrange a future marriage with another child 's parents. The children are betrothed or promised to each other. Often the two children never even meet each other until the wedding ceremony, when they are both of an acceptable marriageable age; which differs based upon custom. In some cultures, the age is at or even before the onset of puberty (Xiaohe & Whyte, 1990).
It is also customary for the two families involved in the arranged marriage to exchange gifts. When parents look for a husband for their daughters they make sure that the suitor doesn’t have a job that requires a lot of moving or a job that can potentially endanger his life. For example, parents of the... ... middle of paper ... ...r ruining the lives of their sons/daughters. Not only is that a consequence of the failed marriage, but the divorce will stay in the family’s background, which makes it harder for other children in the family to get married in the future. While arranged marriages are still a common practice, and some girls believe that there are benefits from the arranged marriage, some future brides feel uncertain and scared of getting married because it would mean that they would have to leave the comfort of their home.
The number one cause for divorce is that people are getting into marriage for the wrong reasons like marrying for money or children and being forced in an arranged marriage. Love based marriage strengthen the institution of marriage. Love provides happiness and well-being to a marriage. In history there has been many reason for a marriage but love based marriage has been the one that has been the longest. It has not always been the popular choice in society but is on a steadily increase.
The Islamic ideas of arranged marriage propose a traditional and sensible approach to marriage. An arranged marriage is a marriage planned and agreed to by the families or guardians of the bride and groom, unlike a love marriage, also called autonomous marriage, which is completely driven by choice. Decades ago brides and groom would be arranged to be married by their families with little or no say, in some cases the bride and groom would not even meet until the wedding day! However, modern arranged marriages have become more practical and less restricted. Today’s brides and grooms are allowed courting periods, input, and approval.
Before the 1800’s, the women would rarely be allowed to meet let alone speak to whom she was marrying. When the parents felt that their child was ready to be married, they would go around and tell everyone around their village. Then, the suitable matches were found and by suitable, meaning, of the same group of people, wealthy and with a social standing. That was something extremely important because... ... middle of paper ... ...God brings two people together and therefore, the marriage will last along time. Conclusion: Arranged marriages are something that many people from all over the world have different views on.
Not only are the marriages arranged by the parents but also by older relatives as well. They believe that the parents know all about their children so they are capable of choosing a suitable partner whom may enable the couple to have a successful marriage, all though if either the bride or groom disagrees the wedding cannot go on. The details of the marriage are set out in a contract which is a legal document. Hinduism is another group of people who have arranged marriages but not to the same extent. Hindus believe that a marriage is based on more than physical or emotional attraction and at one stage Hindus were strict about arranged marriages where the parent’s decision was final.
The entire novel as a whole revolves around the concept of marriage and the many views that the different characters have on this subject. Some characters may only think of marriage as business deal or an alliance between families, while other more insightful characters can see that marriage should be for love. The various couples throughout the novel represent a variety of different reasons for entering their current bond of marriage. Some may regret the reason for which they chose their partner, while others are happy and thrilled with their decision. It is a commonly shared opinion that marriage should be for only love, but many of the characters in the novel marry for more materialistic reasons.
But no matter what these different reasons are, the main idea has always been the same. People get married for the sake of security. This can be seen by looking at different types of marriages and finding the similarities underlying each. Although not many people are aware of it, one of the most common types of marriage was and in some parts of the world still is “Arranged Marriage”. “Arranged marriage is a marriage where the marital partners are chosen by others, based on considerations other than the pre-existing mutual attraction of the partners.” This method was practiced especially in noble families, where two different families came together and decided that the son in one family should marry the daughter of the other.
Arranged marriage is the union of a man and woman which is brought about by someone other than the bride and groom (“Arranged” 1). Recent research has shown that arranged marriages may have originated during the Vedic period of Indian history (Chettri 1). Although many arranged marriages generally rely on the consent of the bride and groom, in some cases, one or both of them is forced to marry without a choice and in others, they are too pressured to refuse (Reiss 1). Technically, arranged marriage is not forced marriage, but parents have been known to use foul methods that often resembled the latter such as bribery, threats or blackmail (Zuberi 1). Traditionally, parents began to choose children’s future spouse because, as said in an article on GoodTherapy.org, “some cultures believe that the choice of a child’s spouse is best made by his or her parents.” (1).