From the point of view of Gallagher, marriage is to give a child a mother and a father and to raise them in the best environment possible. She argues that when men a women have a kid and are not married or stay married the family structure falls apart and then is when many bad things happen to more kids like: poverty, welfare dependence, child abuse, sexual abuse, physical illness, infant mortality, homicide, premature and promiscuous sexuality, juvenile delinquency, educational failure, conduct disorders and adult criminality and many others. This is also when children suffer and communities pay the consequences with crime. This is why she thinks that having a good family structure meaning one father and one mother is so important. She does not agree with same “sex-unions” because they can’t provide to a child the same things a heterosexual marriage would like a mother and a father.
On the other hand we have Rauch whose point of view towards marriage is a little different from Gallagher. He says that the point of marriage is to have a lifelong companion and someone that will take care of you when ill or in bad moments. If you are married it will be your partners job to take care of you but, if you aren’t married then your partner wouldn’t feel compromise with you so he/she can leave whenever, even if you are dying. He also admits that children are a big reason for marriage because when a women and a man get together that’s likely the outcome but it can’t just be the only reason. Rauch does agree with “gay-unions”, he says that by legalizing same sex marriages homosexuals would have the same legal marriage rights as heterosexuals.
I think that both of the authors are right in certain areas, I don’t completely agree with either...
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...our partner it’s obvious that you will take care of he/she when ill or bad situations with no need of a legal “marriage” telling you that is your job to do it. In conclusion my opinion was that marriage is to raise kids and have a more compromising and serious relationship but now I also think that is really for nothing, is seriously just a legal paper that many don’t care about. Now I see that definitely marriage has lost its point, I’m not trying to contradict myself but besides the commitment is not other point. To me its sad that marriage is not seen like before that people get marry just for the party and all this other things that have nothing to do with love. But it is what it is. Finally I agree with same sex marriages but do not agree with them having or raising a child. So in my opinion I think that marriage is just to create a commitment and nothing else
Gay marriage further damages the connection between marriage and parenthood by causing people to not consider marriagement just to be a parent. He later on argues that marriage has been a tradition since the beginning of time and everything supports it. “The family, led by a married mother and father, is the best available structure for both child rearing and cultural health. This is why, although some people will always pair off in unorthodox ways, society as a whole must never legitimize any form of marriage other than that of one man and one woman, united with the intention of permanency and the nurturing of children” (Colson
In his essay, "Gay "Marriage": Societal Suicide", he argues that "Marriage is the traditional building block of human society, intended both to unite couples and bring children into the world"(Colson, pg. 535). He also states that "The family, led by a married mother and father, is the best available structure for both child rearing and cultural health" (Colson, Pg. 535). There is no doubt about this. A family with one mother and one father is the most ideal family structure. Unfortunately, this ideal doesn’t correlate really well into real life. There are millions of families in the United States made up of many different family structures. While they may not be the ideal structure, that doesn’t mean that they are not the best structure for the child. Colson is an idealist. Pollitt is a
In “Cohabitation instead of Marriage” by James Q. Wilson, he believes that marriage is a necessity in today’s day of life, but you do not get this conclusion till completing the article. He states that marriage is built to maintain a family but we trust teachers to teach our children, daycare to care for them, and police officers to keep them safe and that, that does not leave left for the mother or the father to fo. He then proceeds to say that if the couple does not want children then there is nothing for the marriage to offer and to why not just live together, without the actual title of marred. Just live together with no legal formality and cohabitate. By this statement alone James Q Wilson makes you believe that he is pro-cohabitation
we look at marriage as something that is based on two people falling in love, which includes
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... made groups of people have a very hostile attitude toward the subject matter. The traditional view of marriage is also important because it influences future generations and teaches children the meaning of the special union of a man and a woman. Many people also argue that when raising a child he or she should be raised by a father and a mother. Not both of the same sex. Although the debate of same-sex marriage may not affect some people, this is a hot topic that has changed the opinion of many people around the world. The topic of same-sex marriage is a subject that needs to be discusses by individuals who are certain of what they stand for and are capable of providing others with true and convincing arguments.
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...uals thrive in the same way as those raised by heterosexuals. It is vital to give children the right to be with their parents rather than denying them that right. The number of those in support of the idea that raising children in gay families was a good thing rose from 11% in 2007 to 21% in the year 2007. Therefore, it means that homosexuality is not a social evil, instead of institutions focusing on homosexuality and gay marriages, they should pay attention to evils such as crime, divorce and sexual molests that have been observed to be rampant in many states. Legalizing gay marriages is vital to each government in ensuring that the needs of all their citizens are taken care. Just as race or ethnicity, homosexuality is a human nature that should be embraced. Illegalizing gay marriage means that we deny our human nature, therefore, defying the creation of mankinds.