Negative Communication
Communication is an important part of life. People need to have the ability to communicate clearly and effectively. There are three main causes why people have negative communication in today’s society. Communication can be difficult, but you will find out how you can improve your communication skills.
Some may ask what is negative communication? Martin Johnson expresses his ideas on what negative communication means in his article called The Effects of Positive and Negative Communication. Johnson says, “When we receive negative communication from others, our brain releases a chemical called cortisol. This chemical is released when we experience uncomfortable situations or feel under threat” (Johnson, para. 5). That
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We become stressed and fearful when are put into a situation that we don’t like. Johnson also says, “In order to communicate effectively, we must be conscious of the tone that we use, the body language which we display and the facial expressions we project” ( Johnson, para. 6). Still today, some people still have a difficult time with communication. Most of us can’t always have a positive communication all the time because we think we are right all the time. Some of us need to have the ability to communicate clearly and effectively.
Preben Orman listed three main causes that can create a negative communication. Orman says, “ We fail to express their feelings, we ignore the other person’s feelings and our attitude is not respectful” (Hooker Hilton and Other Stories, para. ). Expressing our feelings can be a challenge for some people. I have a difficult time expressing exactly what I’m feeling. I try to figure out what’s making me feel the way I do. It helps, for me, to identify my problems and that helps me reason out my feelings.
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Preston Ni gives suggestions on how to deal with negative behavior. Ni says, “Ineffective communication is often characterized by the use of certain types of “you” language, such as “you are...,” “you should...,” “you need to...,” “you have to...,” “you’d better...,” and “you people...”. Directives are statements that either pass negative judgment, or order another person around” (paragraph 9). This can cause disagreements and conflicts with other people. Judging others is not a good idea to do. I do try to be careful how I express my feelings. I’m going to try to say how I feel about certain things in a respectful way. Ni points out, “They literally “get personal” by being tough on the person, while minimizing or ignoring the issue or the behavior” (paragraph 30). Sometimes we shouldn’t be tough on some all the time. You have to express how you feel to make the situation better. Ignoring someone because you express how you feel can make your relationships end real quick. It is challenging to express your feelings, but it make things go such much smoother. I’m going to try to stop giving people the cold shoulder. I will try to be more open with people. Lastly, Ni says, “When we invalidate another person’s feelings, we are likely to cause instant resentment. The person (or group) whose feelings we just invalidated is likely to feel hurt and angry. In some cases, a person whose feelings have been
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our intentions and our effects may not match. nor will others necessarily understand our intention, or our effects in the same ways we do” (7). I believe the aspect of interpretation is crucial to communication because I've often been misinterpreted by those I've conversed with. I've learned that communication isn't just verbal, and that a mere facial expression can cause a person to pass judgement. Personally, I've had people tell me they didn't think I was a nice person when they met because of my angry-looking resting face. Even when I haven't verbally communicated with someone, I may come off as standoffish, which isn't the case. Also, I've realized that if a person falsely interprets what you're trying to convey, it can be detrimental to a relationship if it's not corrected. For example, last week I asked my mom if there was anything other than pizza for me to take in my lunch because I wanted to eat healthier. She took it as me complaining about her and only needing her for food. This wasn't my intention at all because my mom is one of the most important people to me, and my life. We both went our separate ways, her to work angry, and me to school upset. It wasn't until later that I hugged her and said I was sorry for my unimportant complaint. In all, it's these negative examples of communication that bother me. Sometimes these experiences plague my mind at night, even instances from years ago when I wish I
From my point of view, my communication style serves as a “problem creator” when dealing with others. Instead of finding solution to solve the problem, I always create more problems out of the original problem. Whenever there is an issue, I do negative things like criticizing and blaming to create another problem that might hurt the
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
But, remember that verbal communication is not the only form of communication. Your nonverbal communication can say a lot to the receiver (i.e. body language. Use supportive messages rather than defensive ones to be more productive. Any conflict can be resolved through correct and effective communication.
Do you think communication is a No-Brainer? Communication is consistently listed as one of the keys to success in business and life, and just as frequently identified by employees as a key missing link to maximum productivity and job satisfaction. We communicate every day verbally and nonverbal to co-workers, to people on the phone, and to our family. We’ve been communicating since the day we were born. Actually, we were communicating before we were born, in our mother’s womb. What is communication?
Clearly, communication plays a significant role in every aspect of our life. Communication is the simply act of conveying information from one person to another by using voice (verbally), gesture or body language (nonverbally), books or magazines (written), pictures (visually). The better communication skills that one has is the better the information could be transferred and received. The ability to convey information successfully and clearly is a fundamental life skill and should not be underestimated. Additional, effectively communication is the key to solve problems in any situation. With good communication skills, you can absolutely improve your professional life as well as strengthen your social and family relation ship. Indeed, communication allows us to relate and understand each other. “It also provides us with a significant frame of reference and relational context that sustain our identities.” (Imberti, 2007)
Communication is one of the most important factors in our lives. It dictates the relationships formed with the individuals in personal and professional lives. Effective communication provides a foundation for trust and respect to grow. It also helps better understand a person and the context of the conversation. Individuals often believe that their communication skills are much better than what they actually are. Communication appears effortless; however, much of what two people discuss gets misunderstood, thus leading to conflicts and distress. To communicate effectively, one must understand the emotion behind the information being said. Knowing how to communicate effectively can improve relationships one has at home, work and in social affairs. Understanding communication skills such as; listening, non-verbal communication and managing stress can help better the relationships one has with others.
Communicating effectively and in a professional manner is not only important in how other people view us; it could determine which jobs we are able to obtain as employer Kevin Weins brought out. Everyone can benefit from trying to communicate more effectively. Trying to improve my own communication skills has helped me in my own life and career and can help other people in their own careers and in their daily life.