Phase I
The behavior that I will be observing over the next month is using profanity. This is a behavior that I have adopted from my family and friends. There are many reasons why I would like to change this behavior: First being that when in a professional setting I do not want accidently blurt out some sort of profanity in front of my current/future boss and or coworkers, second is that using profanity in front a majority of peoples gives them a feeling of disgust. It does not make you as a person look intelligent and not make you appealing to other. This has been a bothersome emotion I have been dealing with and I need to change the emotion for the best. I will feel more professional and can conduct myself and not have to worry about using profanity in any setting.
Phase I Qualitative Behavior
This behavior is something that I would really like to change because sometimes I do not even notice that I’m using profanity. It happens more when I’m with my friends and they notice whenever I swear, but that’s because I mainly picked it up from them; but my parents tell me when they do hear me, to clean up my language. It makes me feel ashamed; my parents raised me in an environment where I can be a professional person in everything that I do. It also makes me sad that I have disappointed my peers so much. Now that I am seeing how many times I say it per day I am becoming more aware of how much I say it. It is emotional to think that I do not even notice that I am saying it and that when I do say it, that it doesn’t register as is being a bad word. I need to clean up my language that I use because there will be no way that I get a job if my language is not in the professional manor.
When I go to a job interview that is alwa...
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... must have felt that I was using this type of language around them with no type of language blocker at all. It is also interesting how when you are around certain people you act one way, and when around others you act another way. I know I have done this before, just to think that what you do to just fit in a certain crowd of people. If people would just step back and realize that if they can just be themselves they would be a lot happier with themselves. My roommates are changing thier behavior around me to help me with this change. I am a outgoing person, that knows how to talk to people with out using profane language. So in some ways your environment can help you and sometimes hurt you like my vulgar language that I picked up. I do not blame my family or peers for this behavior that I accuired, I should have known better and not let the enviorment change me.
I was told by teachers that the way I wrote was the way I spoke and it made me feel kind of bad knowing that some of my words wouldn’t sound or be spell correctly. Even when I’m at work I have to think of what I say before I say it because I would mostly say it as a “slang” word and not even think I said anything the wrong way . I should work on it but it would be
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Other times, however, it is more overt. People come up to me using slang and gestures typical of urban African-American youth, and expect me to reciprocate. It's gone so far as for white kids to think they can use the "n" word around me. This does more than make me angry, it makes me question my identity.
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...es not turn our society toward violence. There are other possible solutions though, like making a list of words that are indecent, meaning offensive to community standards. This would illiminate harmful curse words that are derogatory.
...nd then found myself to be distinctively not like the reaction I found myself / the way I found myself reacting to certain situations) and pretend they wouldn't have an issue with this or that but when faced with a reality of embracing the scenario it can be a very different story. And that's through no fault of their own. I included will believe and think I am capable or ready for something I've never experienced before and when I am confronted with the reality I have been very surprised by my own reactions. Reactions that I was not prepared for and however much I may have disliked what I was seeing about my personality through the reaction I couldn't deny that it wasn't happening. My parents could have said they had no problem with other ethnic children but when confronted with the reality they may have learnt that in fact they were not prepared for the situation.
The Marvel cinematic universe is known for having a family-friendly and loving tone, and their movies are usually action packed with a touch of humor. The director for the Avengers, Joss Whedon, takes a lot of pride in his films, and he tries to add humor whenever possible. This is seen in the second Avengers film, Avengers: The Age of Ultron. There is a scene where Captain America and Iron Man are having a debate on their use of language, and during a mission Captain America asks Iron Man to watch his profanity. This is a reminder that the film is primarily targeted towards children. On the other hand, DC like to keep their movies gritty, serious, and almost somber. In the great film Batman v. Superman: Dawn of Justice the character’s use profanity is another way of expressing their thoughts. They are not necessarily censored, but still
One of the few steps that have helped me immensely are step 1, step 5, step 9 and step 17. Each of these steps has their own way changing a person’s perspective. The first step says we are required to observe our behavior; does what we say affect us in a negative or positive way? What we need to analyze is whether or not we are subconsciously insulting someone or are they offended by what we said? We need to think before we speak, and that is a problem for some people, including me, I am a social extrovert and occasionally I may make impulsive responses and won’t realize what I said before I realize someone did not like what I said. However, that is when step 5 comes into place, it talks about reviewing our responses in order to see our thought process and what were some strengths. Another is to practice positive thoughts one thing we need to keep in mind, we need to be assertive with ourselves, at times we can be our worst enemy so being self-motivated can help you in the long run by having confidence and how others with positive conversations. Additionally, with positive reinforcements comes rewards, the last step, says it is important to provide ourselves ongoing support and receive a reward for asserting ourselves this way we can have encouragement at the end of our
In my life I strive to be the best person I can be, I find myself always wanting to learn and grow. This comes from myself never wanting to become stagnate in life. If I can learn and grow from the people and the places around me I will become a well-rounded and efficient person in society. I have come to realize that t I have my fault in my communication and so do others. I think one of the biggest things I have to work on is transferring “You” statements into “I” statements. Working in law enforcement the “You” statement can get people fired up very quickly where as if I used an “I” statement it would probably make the situation allot better for everyone and make things move quicker.
For instance, instead of saying “I’m feeling tired and need to take a break and lie down,” with friends I would say “Yo, I’m gonna go crash, I’ll hang out with you guys later.” While for the most part I can separate and remember to speak formally at formal events my words have slipped and used phrases I commonly used with friends in a formal setting. The most recent example was at work a few nights ago when I addressed the guests saying, “Would any of you guys want some coffee” instead of a more formal “would anyone care for coffee.”
For example, when someone is talking about children being whipped with belts, and saying it is abuse, I usually comment on it saying something along the line as, that’s what I would have done. I have been getting better about this and biting my tongue when what I was going to say was not appropriate. Occasionally I will say something that I believe in about a situation, but try to be more appropriate. I understand how this can potentially get me in trouble, especially if I say something to the wrong/right person and they see it as unprofessional and fire me or write me up for it. I am learning through DSS when it can be appropriate to do so, and I am also practicing holding my tongue when I know, or even think, it could be
Profanity in pop music has become a major burden on today’s society and is negatively affecting the behavior of the listeners. It does not have a positive message and it tells the listener that doing the wrong ok. It contradicts what the Bible says.
Yes I have had trouble controlling my anger and tongue. These are things that I will strive to improve. I know the problem areas were talking to girls from my past and I now have them out of my life. I believe I shall leave you with the words of the Lord given to the prophet Ether, “And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them.” Ether 12:
Have you ever wondered who taught you to talk the way you do? People learn to talk and express themselves everyday of their lives. Starting from the day you were born you used language or some form of it to communicate with those around you. As a baby you usually show your displeasure with your new surroundings by crying, and if you don’t the doctor will make sure you do. Everyday we express our point of view to others in some form of language. Whether it is through verbal communication, written discourse or through body language, you can tell if a person is upset, angry, or happy. We as human beings don’t realize how much language has to do with our lives. How can you determine if one of your friends is angry with you? Is there a different tone to their voice? Do they have a stern look on their face? Of course they do, your friend feels the need to express their anger to you by these different forms of language. Where do we learn to use these different forms of language? How are our uses of these languages shaped? The three main contributing factors to how we express ourselves through language come from our schooling, our friends, and most of all from our families.