It is inevitable to experience grief, but grief does not stop life. It changes you and teaches how to hold yourself in place. When I was flying to Pakistan, I knew my grandfather was on his death bed and I knew I had to say goodbye, but I was in denial. When I reached Pakistan, I went straight to the hospital and saw him. He was breathing! It gave me a comforting feeling and I talked to him even when he was in a coma. As I sat next to him, I saw my dad in the distance talking to someone and telling them how he was making arrangements for the funeral. It abruptly struck me that if I felt so much pain seeing my grandfather like this, my dad must be feeling it with ten times the intensity. Despite all these hardships, my dad was very strong and …show more content…
My grandfather, who was very ill, put a lot of responsibility on my parents ' shoulder. Since I am the eldest child and was my grandfather 's favorite granddaughter, I was aware of the roles that I was to conform to, and the responsibilities that were expected of me. The entire family came to our house to see him before he deceased, so it was my mom’s responsibility to take care of the families’ basic necessities. During this trial, I helped my mom around the house and made sure to show her that I was coping well. As the news spread in the neighborhood about my grandfather’s death, friends and families visited us to mourn and give their condolences. In less than an hour, we had had countless phone calls and guests visiting our house. Most of the people who knew my grandfather personally slowly started to weep. Experiencing all these strong emotions, I decided not to let my guard down and instantly started helping my mom with all the chores while proving to her how strong and firm I could be. Even though I wanted to scream and cry, I could not, and would not do it because I had to stay strong for my parents, especially for my father. In this way, I was effectively practicing emotion management. As a result, I managed my emotions by controlling my tears and I kept myself busy and distracted with tasks to do. This way I did not breakdown in front of anyone and was able to control and manage my …show more content…
In other words, by Symbolic Interactionism, we are able to analyze the development of roles of an individual and identify his/her strengths and weaknesses. According to the role theory, I was adapting to my expected roles and activities in the social structure. My grandfather was my role model and his death did not cause me to collapse. Instead I picked myself up and played an active role in helping my parents. My parents and I stood together and helped each other out during the funeral. According to Goffman 's dramaturgical analysis, my parents and I were constantly engaged in role playing. Our front stage was to be realistic, strong and get everything done perfectly, especially because it was our last goodbye to him. Even though we were emotionally hurt, we had to continue to play our role in arranging the funeral for my grandfather and doing other important tasks. The implication is that we understood that sitting idly and mourning would not be beneficial to us or the family, therefore we overcame our powerful emotions and continued to fulfil our roles. I effectively played my back stage role at night when I went to bed, which allowing myself to cry and mourn for him. Nonetheless, socialization strongly influenced our perspective and responsibilities. Socialization is the process of
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
What is Grief? Merriam-Webster ‘s online dictionary defines grief as, “deep sadness caused by someone’s death; a deep sadness; and/or a trouble or annoyance”(n.d.). This term may have a different way of impacting one’s life depending on geographical location; culture plays an important role in how those that experiences a loss or hardship, cope with grief. After further research, a closer look will be taken at the five stages associated with grief and loss, how Hindu and Islamic Muslim culture deal with death, and how cultural differences may impact the stages of grief.
Individually, everyone has their own methods of dealing with situations and emotions regardless of any positive or negative connotation affixed to them. One prime example of this comes with grief. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying” suggests that there are five stages of mourning and grief that are universal and, at one point or another, experienced by people from all walks of life. These stages, in no particular order, are as follows: Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance. Each individual person works through these stages in different orders for varying levels of time and intensity, but most if not all are necessary to “move on.” In order for positive change to occur following a loss, one must come to terms with not only the event but also themselves.
Have you ever had pain inside you for so long and didn’t know how to deal with it, talk about it, or even accept the reality of the situation? Grieving is a personal process that has no time limit, nor one “right” way to do it. (Axelrod) There are 5 stages to grief and loss. The more significance the loss the more intense the grief will be. (Smith and Segal).
Back in November I wrote about how the field is shifting it’s thinking on complicated grief and some of the controversy surrounding the changes to grief as an exclusionary criteria for depression. I still agree that the change was a step in the right direction and with that in mind, we’re going to look at how CBT can be useful in addressing avoidance behaviors within the context of complicated grief.
...h can hold anybody back from living. Griefing is tough and there’s no clear “right” way to grief. Although my grieving for my dad's death wasn't as tough as my family thought, I couldn't tell anybody how to handle death. In conclusion death is the clearing of the old making way of the new and it should not be feared, but more energy should be put in now, while you’re alive and living your life to the fullest.
One summer I awoke to the chirping of my cell phone. I was really confused because I had a bunch of notifications. On a normal day I usually only have a couple. When I checked to see what they were, I discovered that they were all concerning my best friend. They all said “I’m so sorry for what happened.” I got really confused and stumbled down the stairs to talk to my mom. When I saw her, she had tears running down her face and she said “He’s gone.” My emotions hit me like a runaway train and I immediately went into a depression. The grieving process had just started and it was awful. Eventually, I knew it was necessary in order to heal. Grief marks our memories with sadness and pain; however, this way of coping is the essential key to moving on with our lives.
Adolescence is described as the period between childhood and adulthood. Loss of a sibling during teenage years intensifies matters related to the usual challenges of adolescence. Teenagers are capable of understanding death the way adults do, however their ways of grieving is related to both adults and children. Adolescents suffer more in the event of loss of a sibling than children do, because teens have developed their way of thinking.
...ty during these stages of grief. The loss of a loved one is a painful experience and the effects of grief can be very difficult to overcome. However, when one begins to accept death, they also begin to acquire a type of strength that will help them cope with other struggles that they may come across throughout their lifetime.
It is not easy to cope after a loved one dies. There will be lots of mourning and grieving. Mourning is the natural process you go through to accept a major loss. Mourning may include religious traditions honoring the dead or gathering with friends and family to share your loss. (Mallon, 2008) Mourning is personal and may last months or years.
Everyone has or will experience a loss of a loved one sometime in their lives. It is all a part of the cycle of life and death. The ways each person copes with this loss may differ, but according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s novel On Death and Dying, a person experiences several stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance. There is no set time for a person to go through each stage because everyone experiences and copes with grief differently. However, everyone goes through the same general feelings of grief and loss. There are also sections in Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” that connect to the process of grieving: “On Pain,” “On Joy and Sorrow,” and “On Talking.” Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” reflects on Kübler-Ross’s model of the different stages of grief and loss.
People cope with the loss of a loved one in many ways. For some, the experience may lead to personal growth, even though it is a difficult and trying time. There is no right way of coping with death. The way a person grieves depends on the personality of that person and the relationship with the person who has died. How a person copes with grief is affected by the person's cultural and religious background, coping skills, mental history, support systems, and the person's social and financial status.
In my life time, I have experienced many deaths. I have never had anyone that was very close to me die, but I have shed tears over many deaths that I knew traumatically impacted the people that I love. The first death that influenced me was the death of my grandfather. My grandfather passed away when I was very young, so I never really got the chance to know him. My papaw Tom was my mothers dad, and she was very upset after his passing. Seeing my mom get upset caused me to be sad. The second death that influenced my life was the death of my great grandmother. My great grandmother was a very healthy women her whole life. When she was ninety three she had
Often times when I heard the word "suicidal" I was curiously caused the person to do it. Growing up, I heard that people decided to commit suicide was because they "wanted attention, they wanted the easy way out, they were weak, they couldn't handle life, etc." Personally, I have significant people in my life that have felt like they wanted to commit suicide. So, this topic honestly is a difficult, yet, emotional one to discuss.
At the age of 14, I lost my second mother, my auntie Anitra to suicide. I can really say that it was most difficult time of my life. I wanted to talk to her one last time. The only way I knew how to do that was to talk to her through God. In Revelation 21:4, "He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away." I am a true believer in "God does everything for a reason. " It was just her time to go home. Losing a loved one would cause anyone to mourn all day, but is it going to bring that person back? The person you lost is in a better place now. They 're in good