"We have this mentality that no one should be offended in any way. But the truth is..." Some may not understand what to take from this. For some it could create an idea of saying things that are offensive, simply because they are true. That is not what this line means. Everyone is offended by something. Offense is also one of many factors that can destroy relationships. The determining factor of offense is the choice we make as a result of the offense. "Everyone is offended by something." This statement seems too general. It almost sounds as if it should be labeled as common sense. But unfortunately, there are some who think they can't get offended. "I'm not offended." That is the one thing I've trained myself to think since this time last year. Recently I was involved in a conflict. I kept thinking that I wasn't offended in any way. After the conflict was resolved, my dad told me to watch a 30 minute video called "The Bait of Satan". The speaker, a man named John Bevere, was preaching on how offense can cause conflict and ultimately destroy relationships. He also wrote a book called The Bait of Satan. (Ironically, the video was actually playing before the conflict started.) Offense. According to the Oxford American Dictionary, offense is annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one's standards or principles. In the words of John Bevere,"One who is offended is one who can't forgive. And a person who can't forgive has forgotten what they have been forgiven of." An offended person can be the source of broken relationships. There are three categories of offended people. There are people who are always offended. There are people who truly are offended. And, there are p... ... middle of paper ... ...e this type of person, understand that you will be offended, and pray that God will open your eyes to see this offense. Then, go and forgive the person who has offended you. For some teens, offense might be as insignificant as dating in high school as a freshman. For some offense could be the difference between an exciting journey through high school and a miserable one. In the long run, offense could be the difference between a successful marriage and a divorce. It could be the difference between success in the work world and life without a job. Offense can destroy relationships if we are not aware of what to do with it. Everyone is offended by something. The determining factor is the choice we make as a result of offense. The choice could be to forgive and forget, or to hold on to a grudge. Offense can be the difference between success in life and a wasted life.
Sensitive subjects, everyone has had a run in with them, or at least came in contact with one and avoided it like the plague. Some can be handled rather easily; the initial starting of the conversation is tough to do. Then you have the plague scenarios, the painful deal with it yourself, or the excruciating deal with it directly with the person. Of course with this, the small talk, compliment, beating around the bush, then the actual issue is presented in a way with the person’s version of the least offensive approach. More than likely this person has thought of a hundred ways to say it, taking your feelings into consideration at every point. When it comes down to it, someone will be offended, possibly both depending on how it was
...wrong with people thinking that using the "correct" terminology will ensure that you will not anger someone with your speech. She is the type of person that others feel the need to protect, but she doesn't want their help. Mairs is perfectly capable of telling you exactly what speech is offensive to her, and it may not be what you are thinking of. If people would actually take the time to talk to each other, then maybe we could truly understand what people want and need. We shouldn't always assume that we know what is best for other people if we are not in that same position ourselves.
There are words heard with either a positive or negative connotation. These positive and negative connotations that are placed with certain words are made up of the society in which we live in. An example of a word that can be used as a positive word or a negative word would be the word 'please.' For someone using the word 'please' depending on the tone the speaker using the word and if there is a pause before or after the word, it may be heard with a negative connotation such as annoyance, or with a positive connotation as a sort of thanks and appreciation. When using a word that doesn't have a definition that’s defined by hatred and offends it offends the person hearing the word you can really never be rebuked for what you said but how you
be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger...” Anger is a very dangerous road to go down, self
Usually, our first response is to be speechless (p.s. Christians will remember the reactions of Moses with the burning bush, Mary(mother of Jesus) when visited by the Angel). We realize here that religious speechlessness is quite different from lacking courage to speak in public or when faced with an attacker, etc. Religious silence is more geared inwardly. However, Pieper says “Both noise and total silence destroys all possibility of mutual understanding, because they destroy both speaking and hearing” (Pieper, 55). Pieper may be right in these words because when we deal with people, sometimes, being quiet bars effective communication. But then again, silence speaks volumes. To me, silence brings peace of
Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt claim in their article “The Coddling of the American Mind” that the “vindictive protectiveness” to protect the college students by avoiding “microaggression’ and the usage of ‘trigger warnings’ are not going to help the students adapt to ‘the world with potential offenses.’
Humans are fearful of what they find different. Various ethnic and religious groups have oftentimes faced prejudice because people succumbed to their fears of the unknown, and in an effort to contain these abnormalities. oppressors have resorted to active discrimination of certain groups. The recent movement for the institution of politically correct terminology as a means by which to restore humanity to the oppressed has spurred countless debates about the effectiveness of such an approach. Nevertheless, politically correct language can only ameliorate the state of society to a certain extent, as proven by several scholarly works written on the subject of what politically correct language can actually achieve.
I'd challenge anyone to speak out if he or she has not argued over trivial matters with his or her loved ones and closest friends. These relationships cannot be broken, just like a coastline never really disappears, even though both are subject to terrible pressures. I had been studying for the past three hours and felt in need of some refreshment. I saw that my brother was passing the room and called out and asked if he could get me a drink. He shouted back, "Why should I? Get it yourself, you lazy so and so." This, for some reason aggravated me quite a lot as I was beginning to be frustrated by the difficulties of the study material. I did not say anything, but my anger smoldered. For the next two days, I did not speak or communicate with my brother, a feat in itself considering we lived in an apartment. I look back and am ashamed of the way I treated my brother. I also look back and remotely see myself as a desperate Green peace kid trying with one last throw of the dice to save his sanity, by throwing his anger towards them, those who obviously couldn't see the predicament - although that would be a purpose altogether too important to imagine. However, as we all know, this is not an isolated incident. Arguments and fights happen again and again. Just like Kurt Vonnegut's Billy Pi...
In the Chaplinsky v. New Hampshire case, the courts assumption was, “that some words are so very bad that on hearing them, an ordinary person must strike out (as reflexively as, when the doctor taps your knee with a hammer, you have to j...
for it to be construed as offensive. I would hope that a person in this
Words can hurt. Words can especially hurt when they are used in a negative way to describe one’s race, gender, social class, age, religion, or physical ability. Generally, no one wishes to be called a name that is disrespectful to themselves, the group they’re associated with, or their beliefs (Gallagher). Originally, this is what political correctness was supposed to help eliminate-the cruel behaviors against groups who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against. The current definition of ‘political correctness’ according to the Oxford dictionary is “The avoidance, often considered as taken to extremes, of forms of expression or action that are perceived to exclude, marginalize, or insult groups of people who are socially disadvantaged or discriminated against.” (Definition).
When you apologize it makes you feel emotionally satisfied and you feel yourself with peace. This is
By removing any words that might offend anyone are we subconsciously trying to make everyone the same? Ravitch writes, "The great irony of sensitivity reviewing: it has evolved into a bureaucratic system that removes all evidence of diversity." Sensitivity
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37
Furthermore, lack of Cultural sensitivity occurs when people generalize the idea that “we are more the same than different” or that a common culture is shared by all races, religious groups, or ethnic groups. Not p...