"We have this mentality that no one should be offended in any way. But the truth is..." Some may not understand what to take from this. For some it could create an idea of saying things that are offensive, simply because they are true. That is not what this line means. Everyone is offended by something. Offense is also one of many factors that can destroy relationships. The determining factor of offense is the choice we make as a result of the offense. "Everyone is offended by something." This statement seems too general. It almost sounds as if it should be labeled as common sense. But unfortunately, there are some who think they can't get offended. "I'm not offended." That is the one thing I've trained myself to think since this time last year. Recently I was involved in a conflict. I kept thinking that I wasn't offended in any way. After the conflict was resolved, my dad told me to watch a 30 minute video called "The Bait of Satan". The speaker, a man named John Bevere, was preaching on how offense can cause conflict and ultimately destroy relationships. He also wrote a book called The Bait of Satan. (Ironically, the video was actually playing before the conflict started.) Offense. According to the Oxford American Dictionary, offense is annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one's standards or principles. In the words of John Bevere,"One who is offended is one who can't forgive. And a person who can't forgive has forgotten what they have been forgiven of." An offended person can be the source of broken relationships. There are three categories of offended people. There are people who are always offended. There are people who truly are offended. And, there are p... ... middle of paper ... ...e this type of person, understand that you will be offended, and pray that God will open your eyes to see this offense. Then, go and forgive the person who has offended you. For some teens, offense might be as insignificant as dating in high school as a freshman. For some offense could be the difference between an exciting journey through high school and a miserable one. In the long run, offense could be the difference between a successful marriage and a divorce. It could be the difference between success in the work world and life without a job. Offense can destroy relationships if we are not aware of what to do with it. Everyone is offended by something. The determining factor is the choice we make as a result of offense. The choice could be to forgive and forget, or to hold on to a grudge. Offense can be the difference between success in life and a wasted life.
Don’t Just Stand There is an essay written by Diane Cole. It was first published in 1989 in a New York Times publication. She advises her audience about how to react to prejudice comments and jokes. However, her argument is not credible because she fails to mention vital information that would help to support her argument, and there are too many logical fallacies.
History where my best friend, at the time, looked at me and asked me if I had a green card. I knew what she was trying to really ask, but I just sat there in disbelief because I thought she knew better than to ask such an offensive question. I knew what she was trying to ask me because it was a common question asked. She was trying to ask if I was legally in the United States or an “illegal alien.” That’s probably one of the most asked questions I get which upsets me because I have been put into a category of the stereotypical “illegal immigrant.” It is even more offensive when they use the phrase “illegal alien.” I wouldn’t find it as offensive if the word “alien” wasn’t used to also describe what you would see in movies like “Alien Abduction
In the modern society, millions of people realize that several offensive words with insulting taboo meanings heavily disturb their daily lives and break some special groups of people’s respect to push them to feel like outsiders of the whole society. As a result, more and more people join some underway movements to eliminate the use of these offensive words in people’s everyday speech and writing. However, these offensive words themselves are not the culprit, the bad meanings people attach are the problems and some other functions of the words are useful in the society. Christopher M. Fairman the author of “ Saying It Is Hurtful, Banning It Is Worse” also argues that although
Usually, our first response is to be speechless (p.s. Christians will remember the reactions of Moses with the burning bush, Mary(mother of Jesus) when visited by the Angel). We realize here that religious speechlessness is quite different from lacking courage to speak in public or when faced with an attacker, etc. Religious silence is more geared inwardly. However, Pieper says “Both noise and total silence destroys all possibility of mutual understanding, because they destroy both speaking and hearing” (Pieper, 55). Pieper may be right in these words because when we deal with people, sometimes, being quiet bars effective communication. But then again, silence speaks volumes. To me, silence brings peace of
When a person looks blank, stares in one direction, (the person may be blinking or there may be a small activity in the eyes) for approximately a few seconds, you should tell him or her afterwards that he or she had an insult because most of the time the person doesn’t know that he or she had one. You should stay relaxed and time the insult.
In my own opinion incivility can be defined as someone acting towards another person in a disrespectful way. The main problem with this kind of behavior, the person who is doing it does not care if it in public, or private to show his or her hostility. The other problem with this kind of behavior is when it happens at work place, and there are patients, customers, or family members around to see that kind of behavior, which can destroy the reputation of the organization.
...hould take in to consideration the thoughts and feelings of others who may be offended, and should also be aware of the influence their information can have on children and others.
In the beginning of the article, Lukianoff and Haidt explain how one word can offend a college student really quickly, even if the person saying it didn’t intend to insult them. The authors then tell the audience how popular comedians, like Chris Rock, have stopped performing on college campuses, because the students cannot take a joke.
... to everyone else's idea about you. Pretty soon, it affects your life in a much larger way than anyone intended it to. Although at times we do it unintentionally, it does not change the fact that an individual can be hurt by a simple word. The author Jane Porter once wrote, "I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another."
I'd challenge anyone to speak out if he or she has not argued over trivial matters with his or her loved ones and closest friends. These relationships cannot be broken, just like a coastline never really disappears, even though both are subject to terrible pressures. I had been studying for the past three hours and felt in need of some refreshment. I saw that my brother was passing the room and called out and asked if he could get me a drink. He shouted back, "Why should I? Get it yourself, you lazy so and so." This, for some reason aggravated me quite a lot as I was beginning to be frustrated by the difficulties of the study material. I did not say anything, but my anger smoldered. For the next two days, I did not speak or communicate with my brother, a feat in itself considering we lived in an apartment. I look back and am ashamed of the way I treated my brother. I also look back and remotely see myself as a desperate Green peace kid trying with one last throw of the dice to save his sanity, by throwing his anger towards them, those who obviously couldn't see the predicament - although that would be a purpose altogether too important to imagine. However, as we all know, this is not an isolated incident. Arguments and fights happen again and again. Just like Kurt Vonnegut's Billy Pi...
In the Chaplinsky v. New Hampshire case, the courts assumption was, “that some words are so very bad that on hearing them, an ordinary person must strike out (as reflexively as, when the doctor taps your knee with a hammer, you have to j...
We live in a world where any type of swearing or cursing is ubiquitous. It is almost impossible to not hear a swear word when in public places or even at home. Not much can be done about the swearing situation as it is sometimes seen as a rebellious act or as an intensifier that adds no meaning but adds an “emotional punch” to any utterance. Swear words, especially the “F-word” and words involving sexual terms or racial slurs are looked down on. People using swear words are seen as uneducated, vulgar or low class people. Swear words are often attached to stereotypes when it comes down to who swears the most between men and women and gender roles come into play here. This will be explained and described further into the essay. Many people get offended by swear words, no matter what age, but that is because everyone has a different offensiveness threshold. One word that is offensive to one person may be the word used regularly by another person.
Violations of expectations in turn may confuse their receivers, shifting more attention to the violator and the significance of the violation itself. Someone who can assume that they are well regarded by their listeners is safer engaging in violations and more probable to profit from doing so than someone who is poorly regarded. When the act of violation is one that is likely to be unclear in its meaning or to convey numerous interpretations that are not consistently positive or negative, then the reward valence of the communicator can be particularly important in moderating clarifications, assessments, and consequences. Violations have comparatively consensual meanings and valences related to them, so that engaging in them produces similar effects for positive and negative communication.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. Luke 6:37
As stated by Alex Packer, “many people just don 't think about how their behavior affects anyone else. It 's me, not we” (Tarshis). We want what we want and are willing to leave a wake of destruction in our paths to obtain it. Consequently, never taking account for the innocent bystander that may have just been offended by whatever action infringed upon during that moment. "There 's a manners meltdown in America, people just don’t know how to treat others anymore," says Alex J. Packer, author of the Teen Manners Guide How Rude! (Tarshis).