Personal Narrative: Social Conflict It would have been easy to resolve had either one of us wanted to end the squabble. Looking back, it is unbelievable to me that I acted the way I did. Again and again the situation runs through my mind, unveiling new ends to the argument. It was a perfect example of similar scenes playing themselves out all over the world - the most basic level of social conflict we have, the easiest to resolve. I'd challenge anyone to speak out if he or she has not argued over trivial matters with his or her loved ones and closest friends. These relationships cannot be broken, just like a coastline never really disappears, even though both are subject to terrible pressures. I had been studying for the past three hours and felt in need of some refreshment. I saw that my brother was passing the room and called out and asked if he could get me a drink. He shouted back, "Why should I? Get it yourself, you lazy so and so." This, for some reason aggravated me quite a lot as I was beginning to be frustrated by the difficulties of the study material. I did not say anything, but my anger smoldered. For the next two days, I did not speak or communicate with my brother, a feat in itself considering we lived in an apartment. I look back and am ashamed of the way I treated my brother. I also look back and remotely see myself as a desperate Green peace kid trying with one last throw of the dice to save his sanity, by throwing his anger towards them, those who obviously couldn't see the predicament - although that would be a purpose altogether too important to imagine. However, as we all know, this is not an isolated incident. Arguments and fights happen again and again. Just like Kurt Vonnegut's Billy Pi... ... middle of paper ... ...laugh -- all of us, Chinese, Brazilian and Australian together -- how the pitiful community was cultivating its crops in a way that provided everyone with food, and yet produced little waste. Analysts could spend weeks observing the strange customs of the people: meals with three families at one table; a bully accepting the reasoning of his victim's father; and look! No official looking buildings. I mean, how do they think that the populous can support and officiate itself without support from a central power! Where is the power in this land? How do they punish criminals? All these questions serve just one purpose: to finally show that main dish humanity never, ever comes without side dish social conflict, obviously coming at some extra cost, whether that be fighting or repressed, smoldering hate. But who's paying for this meal? Who cares? I'm not, right?
Overall, the SBS programme, Struggle Street (2015) provided a graphic insight into the hardships faced by lower-class Australians in Mount Druitt, Sydney. Nevertheless, viewing the programme allowed me to reflect and compare with my own observations of poverty within both Vietnam and Cambodia. The emotion I felt whilst watching the programme was incomparable to helplessly observing the great poverty within Cambodia.
In the essay “Spare Change”, the author, Teresa Zsuaffa, illustrates how the wealthy don’t treat people facing poverty with kindness and generosity, but in turn pass demeaning glares and degrading gestures, when not busy avoiding eye contact. She does so by writing an emotional experience, using imagery and personification whenever possible to get to the reader’s heart. Quite similarly, Nick Saul writes, in the essay “The Hunger Game”, about how the wealthy and people of social and political power such as “[the community’s] elected representatives” (Saul, 2013, p. 357) leave the problem of hunger on the shoulders of the foodbanks because they believe “feeding the hungry is already checked off [the government’s] collective to-do list” (Saul,
Singer, Peter. “Famine, Affluence, and Morality.” Current Issues and Enduring Questions. 8th ed. Eds. Sylvan Barnet and Hugo Bedau. Boston: Bedford/St. Martin's, 2008. 7-15. Print.
answer. When dealing with others anger it is crucial to put yourself in their shoes. Unless you truly
Good communication has the ability to avoid conflict, as well as to resolve it. However, there are many ways in which an ongoing conflict can be resolved.
I went to junior college and had a roommate who became my best friend we argued over a number of different things. I would raise my voice when I was frustrated and we would end up having a yelling match sometimes we would just argue it out and then sit on our beds and ignore each other and wed be fine. Other times were not so simple we would argue and argue then eventually she would get emotional and walk out sometimes I would chase after her still yelling. We would be away for a few hours or for the night when this occurred I would sleep in one of our friend’s rooms. We would come back together and talk it out the next morning sometimes even with it being the next day there was still hard feelings and we would argue again then the subject was dropped. When the conversation was good we could calmly talk about the conflict and the argument. I learned from our arguments what was acceptable and what she got angry about, by us arguing we became better friends and more understanding of each
Whenever an argument starts to break out with either my friends, family, or it could even be someone I have recently met. I do not argue with people very often, but when it does happen, I usually try to either avoid it entirely or stop when it just starts to get completely ridiculous. I am a person who does not like conflict so I try to avoid as much as I possibly can. A lot of the time arguing is pointless and not fun at all. A time when I used the avoiding style was when I was arguing with my parents about where we all should go for break. They were mainly picking my sister’s side and I was trying to argue my case but after about 10 to 15 minutes it began to become a dumb argument and I just left saying I wasn’t going to argue anymore and we will figure it out later
Interpersonal conflict is very common with many relationships. It occurs when two people can not meet in the middle or agree on a discussion. Cooperation is key to maintaining a healthy debate. More frequently; when dealing with members of your own family, issues arise that include conflict and resolution. During this process our true conflict management style appears “out of thin air”. (Steve A. Beebe, 2008, p. 191).
We have to embrace the reality that communication is a two way street. Taking the time, to find out the real problem will make it a lot easier to find the most appropriate solution. While every problem cannot be approached like a math problem, understanding the fundamentals can make resolution that much easier. Avoid the communication pitfalls by refraining from the refusal to communicate and or pacification, which means to soothe or calm someone by being nice or by giving in to demands. These behaviors are counterproductive to effective interpersonal communication and show a lack of understanding. Many times just stepping away and reviewing the situation can shed light on how serious or how petty a given issue may be. After stepping away, it may give you time to realize that the problem is just not worth the amount of anger or emotion put into it, and quite frankly could be pretty
No one has a perfect life; everyone has conflicts that they must face sooner or later. The ways in which people deal with these personal conflicts can differ as much as the people themselves. Some insist on ignoring the problem for as long as possible, while others face up to the problem immediately to get it out of the way.
Conflict is something that you encounter pretty much every day. It is almost inevitable that you will not encounter conflict as you through your day or doing anything else. There are different ways to confront conflict, and it depends on the type of person that you are. The different ways that people can confront conflict are either head-on or just complete avoidance. When people avoid a conflict, sometimes it tends to work in their favor, but sometimes it does not and the problem just becomes bigger. Also with handling it head-on there are some major problems. Sometimes the people who confront those conflicts are not people who can express themselves in a good manner, so they tend to blow things out of proportions. “Our basis understanding
We each possess unique ideas, opinions, beliefs, and feelings about specific situations in life. This uniqueness is a large part of what makes us human. Because we all have our own individual way of looking at things, we each have a different viewpoint on what is proper or improper. With all that variation in society conflict is inevitable! Conflict is antagonistic in nature and we all must find ways to work through conflict issues both at work and at home. This paper describes different types of conflict, the influences I personally had in learning to deal with those conflicts, some of the conflicts that I commonly experience, how I go about dealing with those conflicts, and how conflict affects me on a personal level.
It is very important to try and keep a civil tone because many times how you voice things may lead to different reactions. Yelling and screaming at people will not always help get your point across. Many times it makes things worse because it becomes hard to listen and understand what you are trying to explain. Getting into heated arguments with one’s spouse or partner is very common. I understand because I have been in plenty arguments with my boyfriend. Usually it leads to us yelling at one another in which leads to nothing. In the end we never solve the problem and end up more frustrated with one another. In this lesson I learned that talking in a civil tone actually makes the conversation smoother. It allows both of us get our message across so we can have a productive
Conflict is always present in human interactions. A conflict is not always a negative thing. Sometimes if it is handled properly, it will result in broadening one’s mind or giving one a chance to grow and change. On the other hand, if people were
once again started to fight. My brother and I were sent to the car in the garage