Dealing with conflicts between parents during divorce causes children to lose their sense of security. Children feel secure when they are with both of their parents. If this feeling of security is diminished, children will have a slight possibility of developing psychological disorders. Children with divorced parents tend to be alone or have fewer friends because of the separation of their parents. Divorce and separation are emotional processes in which the child is affected just as much as are the parents.
Parental habits are passed to children. Parents should be careful while doing any action. Various researches illustrates, that children’s from a divorce household are prone to have major negative consequences over positive. Children have to adapt new environment leaving all previous memories. Life is complicated, circumstances are unique and individual are different so there are no easy answers to the questions of how divorce may affect children.
Children of any age have difficulty expressing hurt feelings and sadness to parents who are themselves angry and grieving. Responsible parents will develop a parenting plan that coordinates visitation, maintains financial obligations, and takes time to deal with children's feelings in each state of the divorce process (Bankston 382). These parents need to take the initiative and explain to the children what is happening. Also they need to meet the needs of the children, before themselves, to prevent further psychological damage to the kids. When divorced, the children go through many emotional changes.
Parents have a responsibility in fixing conflict with their children; there are many ways to this, but two main ones are talking to the children and getting professional help. One of the last responsibilities a parent has during divorce is monitoring and... ... middle of paper ... ...ports that can help the children take their mind off the divorce and have fun. Although, divorce is a difficult situation to go through, there are many pros and cons that can come from divorce, For example, divorce is good if there is conflict between the parents, which is affecting the children. Divorce is bad because it can make the children depressed, because they can have certain feelings of loss. Should parents stay in marriage instead of divorce for the sake of the children?
Two out of five children will experience the divorce of their parents before they reach age eighteen (D. Matthews). Research suggests that divorce creates harm to children and affects development of children in a variety of ways. Research also suggests that divorce also has both short-term and long term effects on children. This paper will focus on the history of divorce in our society and current statistics, how divorce affects the level of trust in familial and social relationships, and how divorce creates an unhealthy state of confusion in children/adolescents. The statistics of divorce are only growing.
The divorce of parents affects the life of the child. One of the biggest issues of divorce is who the child lives with after the divorce. The separation can impact the child’s sense of security and stability. The two people upon whom the child depended on are no longer as available as they used to be. It can send the child back and forth between the two parents over various distances, leaving the child feeling confused or lost.
Berating the other parent in front of the child is another way of placing the child in an unfair position, which in essence is expecting the child to choose between the parents. Any form of parental conflict, no matter to what degree, lends to a difficult adjustment period for children involved. (Jekielek 1-3). The deterioration in parent-child relationships after divorce is another leading cause in psychological problems for children. With a divorce comes a parenting plan of some kind.
The children are asked a series of questions including, ?Do/did you feel responsible for your parents? divorce?? (Taylor 2001). The amount of children who felt responsible in one way or another totaled 33% (Taylor 2... ... middle of paper ... ... Identity confusion, depression and anxiety are all harmful effects divorce has on children.
The trauma for children who face divorce is magnified because they do not know how to handle the unexpected. If there is more than one child involved, both children need to be approached differently and at separate times because they may respond to the divorce differently. It is very important to keep the children connected to both sides of the family, immediate and distant relatives so that they don’t feel like they have lost their entire family. “Child Psychologists agree that keeping the strength of exte... ... middle of paper ... ...e. However, divorce does not have to result with a negative effect on your children; it could have a positive effect if you pay attention and make sure that the love from both parents, family and friends remains the same. Citations: Internet Article base.com “According to the US census bureau, fatherless homes account for 90% of homeless and runaway children, 85% of children with behavior problems, and 85% of youths in prison, 71% of high school dropouts, and 63% of youth suicides and over 50% of teen mothers.” “Researchers have found that in most cases, children will adjust within three years.” “Child Psychologists agree that keeping the strength of extended family intact will provide a good structure for the children.
Is it fair for children to suffer due to our parents disagreements? Divorces are destructive towards the children, and more parents should attempt to exhaust options before choosing this avenue. Divorced parents think their own happiness is more important than their child/children (Divorce Parents Decry Own Selfishness 6). To conceive a child takes two. Therefore, both parents should remain together despite the intense altercations.