The Impact of Unwanted Divorce vs. Death of a Spouse
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The Impact of Unwanted Divorce vs. Death of a Spouse
When someone is confronted with legal separation from the person to whom they've committed their adult life, it may seem as though their whole life is disintegrating right before their eyes, especially if they're not the one choosing the separation. The future stops existing, and only an empty present looms ahead. For some, the feelings evoked by a divorce and the issues that surround it pass relatively quickly; for others, the anguish and consequences last for years.
Many people who have suffered through the emotional trauma of divorce strongly believe that losing a spouse as a result of an unwanted divorce has had a greater impact on their emotional health and well being than losing a spouse in death. A significant number of therapists and other psychiatric professionals agree, for they understand that divorce is far more than just a legal process. (Rich and Schwartz)
Essentially, when one spouse divorces another, he or she is rejecting their partner, physically and emotionally as well as legally. This rejection can be emotionally devastating to the spouse who doesn't want a divorce, and can inflict even more psychic damage than death, for the widow or widower of a deceased spouse knows that their partner did not choose to die.
Along with these feelings of rejection, the spouse who wanted to stay married also often feels betrayed. Their partner vowed to love and honor them forever, and to stand by them in sickness and in health, and to devote their lives to them. With divorce, all of that is taken away. Those promises of love, fidelity, and companionship are broken, by the choice of the spouse pursuing the divorce. In contrast, when d...
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...d emotionally as well as legally. This rejection can be emotionally devastating to the spouse who doesn't want a divorce, and can inflict even more psychic damage than death, for the widow or widower of a deceased spouse knows that their partner did not choose to die.
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Schwartz, Lita. Painful Partings: Divorce and its Aftermath. New York: John Wiley and Sons, 1997.
In this essay, the author
- Explains baris, mitchell's frequently asked questions on surviving the emotional trauma of divorce.
- Argues that divorce is more than just a legal process. it can be emotionally devastating to the spouse who doesn't want divorce, and can inflict more psychic damage than death.
- Analyzes the impact of divorce on children and their families.
- Explains that divorces have a greater impact on one's emotional health and well-being than death, since one spouse rejects their partner physically, emotionally, and legally.
- Explains rich, p., and schwartz, l.l. the healing journey through divorce: your journal of understanding and renewal.
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