Children who are physically abuse at home may be involved in juvenile delinquent, criminal activities and or drug and alcohol abuse. Because of the 'hate' that children who are abused store in them, can cause them to rebel and become very abusive towards authority, or higher people in society. They may turn to drugs and alcohol because it help to release some the tension that are stored up in them, its like a way out, free of worries or the pain that they feel (Rummell, 1993). According to Currie and Widson, (2010), physically abused children may have low-level jobs and encounter problems in the future like for example, having low income, unable to own a vehicle, house and or a bank account. Few children who are physically abused at home, dropped out of school resulting in low income jobs.
Family violence is a cycle that is very hard to stop. A home is supposed to be a safe place where children learn how to love and relate to others. If they are constantly seeing violence in their parent's relationship, then they assume that a normal relationship is also filled with violence. Often, children do not understand why the violence occurs and may be afraid to share their emotions because of fear. They may associate love and pain together, because this is witnessed in their home.
For instance, a child is brought up in a household that is constantly involved in criminal acts. As this child grows up, the criminal lifestyle will be synonymous with his/her behavior. With that being said, it is also a given fact that if a household and its members are surrounded with violence, the relationships between one another will be strained. Eventually this will end up in a divorce or even worse, death, depending on how far the violence goes. If there is violence in a family, then the ones who are affected by it may feel like they deserve it because of what the batterer is accusing them of doing.
Domestic violence is a major problem in the United States. When most people think of domestic violence, they think of one person beating the other person in a relationship. Webster defines domestic violence as “the inflicting of physical injury by one family or household member on another.” Domestic violence has a major effect on children. Some people say that the violence has no effect, while others argue that the violence has a negative effect on children. Domestic violence scars children for the rest of their lives.
Most people do not know how to cope with abused children. I became interested in this topic because when I was a teenager I had a friend who was abused by her stepfather and I didn’t know how to help her. I would like to know how children’s psychological development is affected, and how we can help these children cope with their misfortune. The most common effect is that maltreated children are, essentially, rejected. These destructive experiences impact on the developing child, increasing the risks for emotional, behavioral, social and physical problems throughout life.
What can parents do? First of all parents feel that the children are theirs, and they can spank them when they misbehave. There are many factors that lead to physical punishment: parents were to young and not ready for children, parents are going trough a divorce and need to take out their anger on something or someone, or parents do not know another way to punish their children. These children grow up to be aggressive and often abusive towards others. Although parents think this is the only way of educating their children there are many other alternatives.
Abusers usually have the following personality characteristics, either they were abused as children, they feel insecure, have poor verbal communication, have low self esteem, need to dominate, have a lack of assertiveness, or they have dependency needs. If there are no negative consequences such as jail time and filing charges, then the message is that violence is acceptable. Abusers have learned to be abusive by witnessing abuse. Abusers have also found that it is an effective way of establishing or regaining control in the household. Society must come together to stop domestic violence.
In a home where the mother is abused by the father grow up thinking they need to use intimidation and violence to get what they want. This teaches them to treat women with disrespect. Many children from domestic violence homes are at higher risk of alcohol and drug addictions, PTSD, and juvenile
But most of the time the behavior is taught in a place that should be a loving and caring environment. In recent research it shows that about one third of the kids who are abused or who have witnessed abuse in their home will abuse their children when they become older. People who were abused when they were younger are more likely to use physical abuse as a punishment for their kids. When a parent hits their child they think that they are doing something to help the child, but in reality they are hurting the child in many different ways. Children look up to their parents.
After several time, my parents started to realize it is so affective to us if they had the domestic violence when they fight. That experience also caused the issue of my distrust to the marriage. I think the early attachment relationship between my parents predicts later emotional development to