The Chinese Mother In Chua

At the beginning of the article, author Chua gives the reader a list of things that she forbidden her two daughters, Sophia and Louisa, to ever do. The list contains items such as: no sleepover, no play date, no school play, no TV nor computer, no grade less than A, no other extracurricular activities without parent 's approval, no other instruments besides piano and violin. Author Chua claims that this is the list “Chinese mother” would apply to create genius kids such as “math whizzes and music prodigies” (1). Moreover, she explains that “Chinese mother” do not necessarily need to be Chinese, but it is more of a term to describe a very strict parenting style. Chu indicates “Chinese mother” and “Western parents” teaching styles are like night

The satisfactory results will make them more comply and willing to put in the effort to parents’ requests. Author Chua also explains that it is ok for “Chinese mother” to talk trash or put their kids down as a punishment for their misbehaved. Whereas Western mother is being very selective on their words of choice toward their kids when they are misbehaving, she uses examples such as: “Hey fatty-lose some weight”-Chinese mother (10) versus Western mother “health” “beautiful and incredibly competent” (10). Author Chua relates her own experiences with her parents teaching style and how they make her feel like a piece of trash when she talked back to them. However, she explains that had made her a better person, and she had more respect toward her parents. Chu goes on and identified the three biggest areas that set Chinese parents and Western parents apart. The first area is the kid’s self-esteem. According to author Chu, Western parents tend to nurture their kids’ self-esteem; continue to support and encourage their kids even though the kids failed at it; whereas Chinese parents will destroy their kids if they ever failed at

For several hours, Chu says “The house became a war zone, and I lost my voice yelling, but still there seemed to be only negative progress, and even I began to have doubts. Then, out of the blue, Lulu did it” (page) and “Mommy, look-it’s easy!” After that, she wanted to play the piece over and over ad wouldn’t leave the piano.”( 27). Chu concludes that Chinese mother parenting style has been criticized as harsh and unreasonable by many parenting books, but Chu believes it is the best way to mold and build your kids confidence and self-esteem. She states that Chinese parents usually do not confess their love for their children, but they would do anything for them. Whereas, Western parents are all about caring, nurturing and devoting their loves to their kids since they were babies. They are happy with how their kids turn out to be; regardless the result is positive or negative. Chu reclaims the overprotective, hovering and authoritarian parents in the end will produce confidence children with skills and abilities that they can take on what life throw at