The Art of a Marriage Proposal
Do you remember your marriage proposal? Like so many others, one of my most memorable would be “The marriage proposal”. I found the pictures in the convergences book of the four different types of marriage proposal very interesting. It is thrilling to see the inventiveness that some people come up with to ask a plain but a momentous question. Although various approaches may be extremely expensive, others maybe personal and some might not even contain words. Regardless of the way “will you marry me” is asked there is no guarantee what the answer will be.
All of the pictures were similar as to their extraordinarily ingenious and creative flare. To think your fiancée would go to all the trouble of mowing a field and taking you up in an airplane to read it. Perhaps you are lucky enough to be taken to Magic Kingdom for dinner. Then the waiter brings a covered dish containing a glass slipper with an engagement ring in it on a bed of rose petals. What if you where driving down the road and there on a big billboard is your name and the big questi...
“The dowry promised me was 600 florins. I went to dine with her that evening… The Saturday after Easter… I gave her the ring and then on Sunday evening, March 30, she came to live in our house simple and without ceremony.”
In Jonathan Swift’s, The Lady’s Dressing Room and A Modest Proposal, Swift implements a satirical persona of identities, may it be, a concerned economist who suggests that children be traded as food to the wealthy in order to elevate the public good within society or a distraught man in the midst of a lady’s dressing room rationalizing a woman’s moral appearance, Swift's satirical personality lies within the persona of the sympathetic-cruelties of his own moral society and opinions. Throughout both texts, Swift’s arguments and satirical claims are both supported throughout the methods and techniques of metaphorical language, irony, structure and imagery. Swift satirizes these techniques within the irony of both these texts as he is able to illustrate the inhumanity, while at the same time, alleviating the solely based rational principles of the general public.
or wealth but a man that she can talk to and who will respect her
Tradition is a strong component in the institution of marriage. The ideal American dream usually involves the perfect fairy-tale wedding with the gorgeous white wedding dress for the bride, the matching bridesmaids, the well-arranged bouquet and the numerous rituals that compose this well thought-out event. Usually it requires a great amount of planning, devotion and dollars to make the important day memorable. Family and friends come together to rejoice in the vows that will bond the two lovers into a lifetime journey of love, commitment and fidelity. Each person in the couple is expected to have a role in this institution. According to Judith Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee, “in the idealized form of the older model of traditional marriage, the man’s primary job for self-definition is to provide for the economic well-being, protection, and stability of his family ...The woman’s job and self-definition”, on the other hand, continue Wallerstein and Blakeslee, “is to care for her husband and children and to create a comfortable home that nourishes everyone, particularly her husband, who comes home each evening drained by the demands of his job (211).” With a constantly changing society, the concept of marriage has also varied. The “quickie” Vegas drive-through wedding or the underwater vow exchange is not as unusual or shocking as it once was. Even the roles of the persons involved have changed to fit the shape of society’s needs. For example the modern “companionate marriage” which is “founded on the couple’s shared beliefs that men and women are equal partners in all spheres of life and that their roles, including those of marriage, are completely interchangeable (Wallerstein, Blakeslee 155).
would be difficult to find any one who would be happy to take on such
The passages from Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice and Charles Dickens’ Our Mutual Friend, two men attempt to persuade their women into marrying them though marriage proposals. While both proposals state the men’s intentions of marriage, Headstone’s proposal is more effective than Collins’ because he clearly shows his affection for her, includes benefits for her family, and takes consideration of his audience.
As is customary I should leave the groom with wise words, to help in your marriage. Since I am a bachelor, I have little experience to speak from, but I hope these help anyway:
“Will you marry me?” These are the words most women dream of hearing one day: the moment when their significant other drops to one knee and pulls out a diamond ring. The engagement experience has always been about the love between two people; however, this age old tradition has not always included the diamond ring. Today, it is the common practice for a man to present a ring of any different shape, size or color to the woman he is hoping will become his fiancée and one day his wife. Most couples would agree that getting engaged is a special occasion based on their love; but with many recent ring advertisements it can be seen that the universal feeling is focused on the diamond engagement ring. Recognizable slogans
does without love imbibed in it. I agree with the view and definition of love and marriage in
Do you ever think about marriage? If so, where, when, how, and who do you want to marry? Do any of those things even matter to you? Everyone regardless of age, gender, background, or culture will contemplate about marriage at least once in their lifetime, in fact some even plan their dream wedding since they were a kid. However, in reality, marriage is more than just a fairytale-like, dreamy concept as some cliche Hollywood films would portrait. Marriage requires countless serious negotiations and decisions, that couples would soon realize deciding on a marriage was only a tip of an iceberg of decision-making. Couples will have to decide on where to live, how to split the work at home, if they want to expand the family, have children, and etc,
Marriage is the ultimate goal in Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice. The book begins with the quote 'It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife', and this sets the tone for all the events that are to follow. It manages to present a miniature version of all that happens over the course of the novel, the entire plot of which is basically concerned with the pursuit of advantageous marriage by both male and female characters. The obsession with socially beneficial marriage in nineteenth-century English society manifests itself here, for although she points out that a single man 'must be in want of a wife,' Austen reveals that the reverse might be more accurate, as almost all of the unmarried female characters are virtually desperate for marriage.
In the article, “The Radical Idea of Marrying for Love” author Stephanie Coontz argues that love is not a good enough reason to get married. People shouldn’t marry just because they love one another, Coontz suggests that perhaps marriage should be based on how well a couple gets along and whether or not if the significant other is accepted by the family. One will notice in the article that Coontz makes it very clear that she is against marrying because of love. In the article is a bit of a history lesson of marriage and love within different cultures from all over the world. Coontz then states her thesis in the very end of the article which is that the European and American ways of marriage is the
Dating and marriage is not always how the movies picture it to be. It can be a complicated entanglement that is a special part of one’s life at the same time. Reality imposes a lot of true questions in relationships, which must be figured out in order for the relationship to thrive. Here is my take on dating and marriage for my life.
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What is Marriage? Marriage is when people are being united together as husband and wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by the law. Marriage hasn’t always been how it is now, where women have a say in family problems, and where woman have the right to choose whom they want to marry. Before during the ancient times, women had to marry those in their families, and could not marry those that were Marriage use to be all about doing what you needed to support your family, which meant you married someone who was able to give you what you needed. Marriage wasn’t because you loved someone, but it was always because people wanted to preserve power. Now in the marriage, people marry, because they love each other, and because they want to make an effort to spend the rest of their lives together.