Grief is a very horrible and sad feeling and often is caused by lose of something or someone important to someone. In the story “always a motive” by Dan Ross and the song “Tears in heaven” both protagonists had lost a son at some point in their past and convey their feeling of grief in their own ways. Dan Ross shows that his character is hurt very badly because of his son’s death and tries to get away from it. Eric Clapton deals with his grief by expressing it in a song to his son trying to reach to the other side asking questions that cannot be answered. Both of these pieces of literature convey a feeling of helplessness and desperation. Joe in Dan Ross’s story is in a lot of pain do to his son’s death and tries to escape the pain. The pain …show more content…
However Joe is stuck in denial when he “…wanted to see the face of a father who had lost his kid and then got it back” this shows that he is still thinking about getting his son back and what that would be like. He also is opposite to Clapton because he finds an external thing such as driving to release his mind from it instead of Clapton who held the thought of his son in his head and didn’t want to let go. Grief can force a cocktail of emotions and feelings upon a person that has to experience it. This is very true for Joe in “always a motive” by Dan Ross and in Eric Clapton’s song “Tears in heaven” both of the protagonists have experienced tremendous loss. Joe has the feeling of denial and tries to escape the idea of his son’s death by driving away from it. Eric Clapton is in the phase of depression at the start of his son and then changes it to a more acceptance tone and stating that he must be “strong”. The story and the song both show how helpless both protagonists
“Pass On” written by Michael Lee is a free verse poem informing readers on grief, which is one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome not only when losing a loved one, but also in life itself. “Pass On” successfully developed this topic through the setting of an unknown character who explains his or her experience of grief. Despite Lee never introducing this character, readers are given enough information to know how they are overcoming this difficult obstacle. In fact, this unknown character is most likely the writer himself, indirectly explaining his moments of grief. One important piece of information Lee provides is the fact that he has experienced loss twice, one with his grandfather and the other a friend who was murdered by the
The characters in Alice Sebold’s The Lovely Bones are faced with the difficult task of overcoming the loss of Susie, their daughter and sister. Jack, Abigail, Buckley, and Lindsey each deal with the loss differently. However, it is Susie who has the most difficulty accepting the loss of her own life. Several psychologists separate the grieving process into two main categories: intuitive and instrumental grievers. Intuitive grievers communicate their emotional distress and “experience, express, and adapt to grief on a very affective level” (Doka, par. 27). Instrumental grievers focus their attention towards an activity, whether it is into work or into a hobby, usually relating to the loss (Doka par. 28). Although each character deals with their grief differently, there is one common denominator: the reaction of one affects all.
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
Joe later discovers that his arms and legs have been amputated. The story shifts into a memory of Kareen, his girlfriend from before the war. He also remembers his best friend Bill Harper, who was killed during the war. Later he finds that he has no face at all. He compares his condition to that of being inside the womb: “It was like a full grown man suddenly being stuffed back into his mother’s body… That was exactly like the womb…” (Trumbo, 107). He continues to contemplate suicide several times, reasoning that this is not really living. Coming to terms with his state, Joe realizes that he will not be able to differentiate night and day, or whether he is asleep or awake. This is interwoven with memories of his family, friends, and coworkers.
In a way, much of the story comes across with Joe acting more like a
His aunt, Sonja, took a maternal interest in Joe while his mother was subdued. Joe trusted Sonja enough to share with her his discovery of the $40,000 found in Mayla’s daughter’s doll. Despite this, Joe still views her first and foremost as an object of lust. When she decides to gift Mooshum with a lap dance to commemorate his 112th birthday, Joe arrives and refuses to leave despite Sonja requesting him to do so. Consumed by his desire and envy, Joe blackmails her; “You’re gonna let me stay. Because if you don’t, I’ll tell Whitey about the money.” (Page 217) Mooshum protests that Joe is a “good boy” despite his blatant mistreatment of his aunt. It isn’t until Sonja is finished dancing that Joe begins to feel the smallest shred of remorse surrounding his cruel actions. He begins to cry, and it is unclear if he is crying because he is in trouble, or if he is crying because he truly feels guilt. Sonja addresses this, “Cry all you want, Joe. Lots of men cry after they do something nasty to women. I don’t have a daughter anymore. I thought of you like my son. But you just turned into another piece of shit guy. Another gimme-gimme asshole, Joe, that’s all you are.” (Page
Joe’s conflict is also shown through a repetition of certain words. They show his feelings transition from self- blame to searching for the culprit. While trying to ease his mind, Joe no longer uses the word ‘I’. He can’t take his own accusations and so places the blame on the group as a whole. He repetitively uses the word ‘we’ when referring to what could have been done but was not.
One character in the novel who lives a very serene life because of his great ability to forgive is Joe Gargery. Ever since he was a child, Joe demonstrated his amazing quality of forgiveness. He grew up having a father who was an alcoholic. When Joe's dad came home, he would beat Joe and his mother and they would run away. When they were away from Joe's dad, Joe would start school but his dad would always find his stray family, pull Joe out of school, and bring them home. For this reason, Joe lived most of his life an illiterate man. He could have been very angry and resentful about this, but Joe justified his father's actions which caused his illiteracy by saying that he pulled him out of school because he loved him. Joe shows "his natural virtue in the sincere quality of forgiveness in the epitaph he wrote for his dad."1 It said, "Whatsume'er the failings on his part, remember reader he were that good in ...
Jerry Sittser’s book not only brings readers into loss with all its real emotions and pain but it also highlights truths that can be applied to anyone’s life. Sittser’s faith is evident throughout the book and his struggle of finding his faith within his loss and sorrow is encouraging to many. In the end, through his loss, he finds God again and through the writing of his book is now able to offer many insights on the Christian perspectives of sorrow, loss, forgiveness and how mental illness affects families. Sittser inspires readers because they have witnessed that they can too grow and continue living life despite their loss and without forgetting their loss.
After reading about Joe-Boys character traits, it shows that he is brave. When he goes into the ravine knowing that the boy Butchie has died two weeks and one day ago. Joe-Boy walked up the cliff to the 50ft. Precipice and jumped. When Vinny fell into the mud well they were walking in the ravine Joy-Boy laughed at Vinny. “Vinny you
The audience can relate to Joe and feel sympathy for him because he was a good man who did many great things for his family and in the end paid the ultimate price. Towards the end of the play, Joe's son Chris anguishes over the fatally flawed decision made by his father, thus eliciting the sympathy of the audience. However, this is not enough to detract from the audience relating to Joe as a basically good man, who has made the hard decisions for many years and ends up a tragic hero paying for his mistake with his life.
of "Pain": the sense of loss in "grief" and "mourning" or the sense of pity
I hope this letter finds you well. I am a 16-year-old high school student who has been reading many poems by yourself and other romantic poets and I wanted to say what a big fan I am of your work. I am looking forward to reading more of your poems in the future.
Funeral Blues by W. H. Auden is a short poem that illustrates the emotions that he is dealing with after the love of his life passes away. The tone of this piece evokes feelings that will differ depending on the reader; therefore, the meaning of this poem is not in any way one-dimensional, resulting in inevitable ambiguity . In order to evoke emotion from his audience, Auden uses a series of different poetic devices to express the sadness and despair of losing a loved one. This poem isn’t necessarily about finding meaning or coming to some overwhelming realization, but rather about feeling emotions and understanding the pain that the speaker is experiencing. Through the use of poetic devices such as an elegy, hyperboles, imagery, metaphors, and alliterations as well as end-rhyme, Auden has created a powerful poem that accurately depicts the emotions a person will often feel when the love of their live has passed away.
to a boy who must have been like a son to him. Joe knew that once Pip left