Everyday Challenges of Stay at Home Pinay Moms
Moms are perhaps the busiest and most hard-working people in the world, not to mention the most self-sacrificing. Some of them had to put their lives on hold, let go of their careers (even personal goals) and stall trips to the salon all because the family's needs must come first.
While a number of our nanays and mamas are used to staying at home doing the usual married woman or motherhood things, we know that they don't just laze around the house all day long and wait for their husbands to bring in the buck.
Stay-at-home moms are not just at home because they can't do anything except tending the kids and doing house chores. They're at home because they know their family needs them the most –
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Losing Their Personal Identity
Stay-at-home mothers are Jane of all trades - yaya, cook, laundry lady, school bus driver, gardener, seamstress, carpenter, plumber, etc. Staying at home means wearing just about any hat under the sun, and somehow in the middle of all the chaos and wearing too many hats, stay-at-home moms lose their identity.
8. Cutting Back on Socialization
Filipina mothers need and crave social connections. That's why they can be very talkative or madaldal with other mothers or their neighbors. However, for some moms, quitting work and staying at home means not having office mates, team buildings, company trainings, business lunches, and after-work get-togethers. It's normal for stay-at-home mothers to feel lonely and miss their old life perhaps as a career woman or a carefree person.
7. Doing All the Chores, No Helper
Some mothers are forced to stay at home or quit their jobs because the yaya left too suddenly or are afraid to entrust their kids to a stranger. While the husband, in-laws and/or older family members can help with the never-ending chores, stay-at-home mothers take up most of the work while the kids are in school and the husband is in the office.
6. Working in a Cluttered
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