Premarital Sex

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Premarital Sex

The controversy over premarital sex has never been more profound than it is today. The very mention of the word brings forth radically different reactions. At one time, the very subject of sex was taboo, and then the sexual revolution was introduced as a time when people were unrestrained and open to explore their sexuality. Today, many have become so inordinately apprehensive about sexually related diseases that they perceive premarital sex as totally foolhardy. I am of the opinion that the decision to engage in premarital sex should not be condemned by either faction. The ultimate determination is a totally personal decision that must be thoroughly contemplated with a clear rationale. However, I do believe that a return to the simpler morals of past generations would help alleviate many of the stresses which are added to young, unmarried people today.

People today are not as stiff and rigid as the "Happy Days" era. Old movies, television shows, and even discussion with the older generation tells us that sex was not a popular subject. The word sex, itself, was taboo.

In the sixties, there was an entire revolution dedicated to sexual freedom. It wasn't until then that "sex" became a word that could even be spoken aloud. "Make love nor war" was the slogan of the day. The practice of "free love" was commonplace.

Today, people are so concerned about sexually transmitted diseases that even bringing the word "sex" out into the open has to be accompanied with a sex education discussion. My generation has been bombarded with so many safe sex seminars that one would think we have that aspect totally under control. There are still people out there who do not listen to the warnings and find themselves ru...

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...s another into a single union Thus sex without marriage and the lifetime promise of physical, spiritual, and emotional support violates this united relationship.

Second, intimacy suggests a level of personal, physical, spiritual, and psychological commitment that only a marriage can provide.

And third, intimacy suggests a type of love, the kind of good and self-giving love, not a type of love that wells up from our inner lusts and biological desires.

In the end, there is nothing wrong with the desires we feel -- indeed, we couldn't stop them if we wanted to. But sex wasn't created to be a recreational outlet for the uninitiated, but the fruit of the promise of a lifetime's commitment of one to another. And with all the baggage of shame society can load on us, it really is worth the wait.
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