Societies Silence on Sex Sex is an important yet seemingly impolite subject in today’s society, and despite its implicit awkwardness, sex—and all of its taboos—needs to be discussed. The fact that we are so squeamish about discussing sex is ironic, since sex is a commonplace occurrence that nearly everyone, worldwide, will experience during their lifetime. Our society’s silence about sex creates a number of discrepancies in what is deemed societally and morally appropriate. One of the most important issues regarding sex is what makes it ethically permissible. Is consent enough or is there something more needed?
Abstinence is especially hard in a society that seems to promote sex, as long as it is "safe" sex. I feel that the support, which used to come from authority figures such as parents and educators, is crumbling because of the initiation of programs such as condom distribution. It is as though parents and schools have forgotten that some teenagers, for whatever personal reasons, do not desire to be sexually active. I do not minimize the need to educate teenagers about safe sex and the risks of sexually transmitted diseases, for I am ... ... middle of paper ... ...far more beneficial outcomes than those which any condom can deliver. Works Cited Fanburg, Johathan T. (1995, May).
One sign of this change is that nowadays many young adults seem to be open to premarital sex. Although I have heard many good arguments from people both pro- and anti- sex before marriage, I have yet to change my stance on this matter. In my opinion, having sexual intercourse before getting married is absolutely a bad tendency in our society. In today’s society women are not held to that same standard as men are when it comes
There are no better words then the ones Laurie used in her article about this. Growing up, both from my parents and sex education classes, I thought sex was wrong, bad, and not meant for pleasure. Sexual Education classes gave me false ideas that sex would lead to nothing but rape, sexual transmitted diseases, pregnancy, or an unfulfilled future. These things were all negative and was meant to scare the directed audience of middle and high school aged girls and boys. I think it is crucial for two people who have sex, either casually or because they are in a relationship/married, need to communicate their feelings and what helps them to achieve orgasm.
She talks about the limiting misconception of sex only being coitus, and other acts not “counting.” Christina writes of how when she started having sex with women her outdated system of what was sex and what was not sex was completely destroyed. By limiting sex to “penis in vagina,” Christina was discounting some of her favorite sexual experiances, and including ones she did not particularly enjoy. This article made me think about what I and the people around me count as sex. It can be hard in heterosexual relationships to get past the idea that coitus is the culmination and essence of sex. Even when hetrosexual partners understand that there are other things they enjoy just as much if not more, there often is an expectation that everything else is a disappointment if it does not lead up to coitus.
Lenina’s friend is basically confused why she would go on more than a single date with one guy. This is very reflective of the relationships that can flourish in a society wit... ... middle of paper ... ...t can be so traumatic that we choose not to leave our fragile emotions into hands of others. After all of these setbacks, we are more willing to settle for just pure sex. This is in hopes that it will be stress-free and painless. What we don’t know is that commitment-free relationships come with many consequences.
Regarding the statement, “Humans are not, nor have ever been, wired for monogamy,” I see reference of this through quotes such as, “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife,” and the new quote, “living life, which people are using as a phrase for getting their hoe phase out of their system. Sex at Dawn begins human sexual behavior in which we mature, go through a period of sexual assortment, then settle down with one person, forever. The American culture has such high value on marriage and monogamy, but porn earnings are more than sport franchise
Abstinence: To chose or not to choose? Many teenagers just don’t understand the responsibilities that go along with being sexually active, they don’t even think about them. But maybe they should sit back and think before taking part. People should not be having sex just to have it, but because they are in love. The only time premarital sex may be okay is in the boundaries of a loving, trusting relationship.
“Modern people are always saying Sex is nothing to be ashamed of.”(Lewis 98) Lust is the main purpose of the disobeying of this moral outlook. It is a desire everyone is born with and is very difficult to ignore, especially in the adolescent years. “Perversions of the sex instinct are numerous, hard to cure, and frightful.”(Lewis 97) This gives many the thought of is it is a natural instinct its O.K. All temptations should not be given into, such as this one. Lust is the key; it is much easier to give in to Lust than to turn away from it.
Another thing I learned from this book was how we spend so much time preaching abstinence that we forget to each about how to stay safe if people do decide to have sex. We believe that the only way to stay safe is to be abstinent, and by doing that it blinds us to the reality that sex is going to happen no matter how hard you preach it. It would be more effective and more realistic if we educated, talked openly, and asked questions about sex. How else are we going to learn and stay safe if we don’t educate each other about sex? We blame so many things for why people have sex and why bad things happen, the internet being one of the most common things people like to blame.