It Never Happens Until You See It. Most families never picture their family getting a divorce until it happens. According to Mckinley Irvin Family law firm, “forty one percent of first marriages end in a divorce, sixty percent of second marriages end in divorce and, seventy three percent of marriages end in a divorce the third time.” So the chance of a couple getting married again will end up in a divorce, which is why a couple should take their time to get to know each other thoroughly before getting married again especially when one of the spouses has children. While divorce might have an effect on their children, Dr. Gail declares from the Positive Outcomes of Divorce is that “finally, as difficult as the process of divorce can be on your …show more content…
Clinton Power, relationship counselor and founder of Clinton Power & Associates. "One of the primary reasons, arguments perpetuate is because you're not understanding, appreciating or validating your partner's perspective.” Once the couples start appreciating each other and respecting each other, the chance of a marriage would decrease. Brittany from 9 Things Marriages Therapists Tell Couples On The Verge Of Divorce implies “Focus on growth and healing. Yes, you could start over with someone new, and then what? Another round with the same dynamics. Instead, be open to therapy, then if divorce is the answer, do so consciously, without blame.” Once the couple has divorced, they could start a new dating life and fall in love again or they could work on them self. Dr. Gail from Positive Outcomes of Divorce emphasizes that, “By rediscovering yourself, that inner you that you were before marriage, following your own rhythm of sleep, being, staying home and going out, you act on your own behalf, and by so doing find your own authority is empowered.” Before couples start to mingle they should find their self. Get back into their own way before the couple get …show more content…
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In the 21st century, divorce has become commonplace not only in the United States, but in many parts of the world. Franklin and Boddie (2004) reported that within 10 years about 40-50% of American marriages end in divorce. In 2009, the divorce rate in the United States stood at 3.6 per 1,000 (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2009). Divorce, however, is not only a social issue, but it has serious health implications. Divorce has been researched extensively and is considered an adverse event (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2009). Adverse events such as personal or parental divorce has been linked to many ailments and conditions including substance abuse, depression, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, cancer, and premature mortality (Sbarra, Law, & Portley, 2011; CDC, 2009).
For those who are heading in the direction of a divorce should take a lot of time to think over things before getting a divorced. A divorce can seriously effect many in negative ways that will change their lives forever. So therefore, divorce should be thought about twice before any one decides to go through it. If a marriage is having any problems its best for them to talk it out or seek some professional help to deal with the problems before it destroys the marriage.
Divorce can be caused by problems such as drugs, adultery, abuse, and money. The United States is a fast-paced country with little to no time to spend on the basic family values it was founded upon. Jobs are more demanding, kids are spending most of their time with people other than their parents, and the economy drains marriages by causing worry and stress. The foundation upon which marriage was built has been shaken.
Divorce is a heavy concept that has many implications for those involved. The situation becomes even more consequential when children are considered. As divorce has become more commonplace in society, millions of children are affected by the separation of the nuclear family. How far-reaching are these effects? And is there a time when divorce is beneficial to the lives of the children? This paper will examine some of the major research and several different perspectives regarding the outcomes of divorce for the children involved, and whether it can actually be in the best interest of the kids.
Most people divorce due to uncertain, complicated reasons. Perhaps divorce is a way for some to escape insecurities or personal problems. It’s no secret that divorce has helped people run from their problems instead of facing them. It is easily arguable that divorce is the primary cause of family destruction and relationships. According to American Psychological Association, about 90 percent of the twenty-first century marry by the age of 50 (APA). The APA states that healthy marriages are essential for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also influential when raising children; it also acknowledges that raising children in a happy home shields them from mental, physical, educational and social problems. Nevertheless, approximately
Most people, when thinking about divorce, worry about the impact that it has on the children that are involved. Even though children are most likely better off if totally incompatible parents separate instead of staying together, divorce is about loss and change, and it is still hard for children. Everyone knows that divorce has its effects on children. There are three different sources that try to explain these effects. Graham Blaine Jr. states that divorce is a threat to all children, whereas Rhona Mahony states that divorce is not always the cause of behavioral or academic problems in children coming from divorced families. Yvette Walczak and Sheila Burns state that the extent of the damage can be determined by the parents and their methods of explanation to the children.
No one expects to divorce when they get married but nearly half of all marriages will end in divorce or separation. Divorce can be costly, with court fees and attorneys. Dr. Doherty, noted marriage scholar and therapist has determined a list of risk factors that are attributed to marital problems and divorce. The first three: Young age, less education and less income are coincidently other topics brushed upon in this paper. Impulsive decisions made by younger people to marry leads to children which leads to financial instability. Once a couple has children, they are unlikely to further their education because of lack of time. Divorce also has a negative effect on
There are also the effects of divorce on the children, not just the husband and wife. More than one million children experience divorce every year. One effect of divorce is the parental loss. The children lose the loss of ...
The argument over how divorce affects children is one that has been going on for a very long time. Some people believe when parents get a divorce the children are not affected at all, while others believe when parents get a divorce the children are affected by the impact of divorce more than anyone in the family. In some cases, married couples can be in such a terrible marriage that divorce can in no way be avoided, and these divorces are usually the ones that children benefit from and are affected in a positive way. Many times though, a couple will choose to get a divorce because their marriage is not exactly the way it used to be, and they want that aspect of life back; these are the divorces that negatively affect children. Even though in some cases divorce does not affect children negatively, many times when parents obtain a divorce, the children are negatively harmed in many different ways that will forever change their lives.
Stay Away From A Heartbreaking DivorceMany people who are in a verge of divorce are asking what they can do to save their marriage. It may seem too late but if they really put in the effort, it is still possible to do so. A divorce is normally caused by one or both parties not getting what they want in a relationship. There are many conflicting advice by many counselors but whatever advice you may receive, the best is to start with the issues that caused the divorce. If you are not sure what those are, it is time to visit your therapist to find out.
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Divorce, in history, has always been considered as a deviance of society. However, in the modern world, where people have senses of individualism, divorce has become a phenomenon. There are numerous reasons for divorce, from not knowing each other well enough before marriage, lack of money, long distance relationships, frequent disagreements to partners...
Even though divorce is not commonly thought of as a good thing, it sometimes can have a positive outcome such as the children and parents being happy, and allowing the children to mature. Parents being separated can be better for the kids because they won’t have to deal with the parents fighting. If the kids are put in a better and stable environment it can affect them in positive ways. Sometimes divorce is better for the child if they have been in the environm...