In “The Beguiling Truth about Beauty” by Carlin Flora, she describes how other people influence the way we perceive ourselves by attractiveness. In the world we live, usually the most attractive get special treatment so people see less of themselves. People are always comparing to others on daily basis because that’s the way our brain is program. Most of the time looks are not the way other would see us but by the way we talk or express which changes our appearance. Overall the way people actually feel about themselves is the true meaning of beauty no matter what others think. In the media and everyday life we notice some people get special treatment by the way they look undermining how we see ourselves. This plays with the mind showing us all of the imperfection we have because we don’t fall under the perfect shape category. “We’re not even close to objective when it comes to judging our own looks” (Flora-442). According to Flora, we are the ones that judge ourselves more harshly than other. Everyone is beautiful and unique one way or another but in the mirror we see someone totally different. Usually friends and family see the marks or imperfection as characteristics each person has, which makes them unique. The first step in changing our view is to see yourself beautiful. Stop comparing to other, everyone is unique but if we see or think that we are not beautiful then that’s the image we will portrait. In a way it has to do with confidence, how confident are people of each other. It doesn’t have to be physical but there is other ways to make people beautiful. Flora explains this is a mental problem that each person has, whether we want or not. “Our brains have a build-in hot-or-not meter that never stops gathering data” (Flora... ... middle of paper ... ... time because the relationship with those people has strengthened over time (Flora-445). People can change their appearance naturally or genetically yet their personality will determine wheatear they are beautiful or not. Ultimately people will compare themselves to others because that the way we are; now they should not let that interfere with the definition of beauty. Have courage to be unique, stand out no matter what others think. Carlin explains that sometimes being physically beautiful has its benefits but that isn’t the only way people will remember someone. People should not fear the way they look and judge themselves to hard because to someone else see’s beauty in them. Works Cited Flora, Carlin. “The Beguiling Truth about Beauty.” Patterns for a Purpose: A Rhetorical Reader. Ed. Barbara Fine Clouse. 3rd ed. New York: McGraw, 2003. 442-447. Print.
The way our culture has a tendency to view other individuals by there appearance will probably never change. In some way everyone has it set in his or her mind what makes a person "perfect". These characteristics include personal appearance, wealth and intelligence. We do not always get the chance to get to know a person, but rather make assumptions. Two poems, which reveal different perceptions of someone, include Richard Cory and The Barbie Doll.
Visualize a teenage girl watching television, surfing the internet, and reading magazines. She sees beautiful women everywhere she turns. She is looking in her bedroom mirror wondering why she does not have similar beauty. She begins to feel self-aware because she reads and hears criticizing comments about the females who are just like her. She says to herself, “Am I not considered beautiful because my skin is not as clear as Angelina Jolie? Do I not fit in the category “pretty” because I do not dress like Beyoncé? Or am I not referred to as “cute” because my hair is not as straight and silky as Taraji P. Henson?” Now imagine yourself being that teenage girl. How would you feel if you were consistently exposed to a judgmental society that does not accept you? You would want to be considered beautiful because you are unique, you are an individual, and you are a person made with both inner and outer beauty.
When we feel the need to change outward appearance we need to be concerned and aware of how those changes effect the person we are within as we are about appearance. External beauty is not as attractive if the person inside is not the type of person we would want to be with. Appearance can be initially blinding and deceptive. When you being to look beyond the outer layers of appearance and into the character of the person you are relating to you can quickly find the beauty alone is not enough to sustain a meaningful relationship. Beauty can fade and appearance change as we grow older but who we are at the core should remain constant or improve with age and wisdom. Kit Reed’s story shows the high cost of how focusing only on your outer appearance to the detriment of the person you are can
In our society, appearance and its importance might not look like a problem because of how much it is present in our lives and how it has been presented to us but it is important because we face problems like bullying at every level from child to adult and lower self-esteem that are highly correlated to suicide. The problems that we face today related to appearances are important so this topic deserve attention. Because it affects children, parents, models, teenagers and everybody, we s...
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart” (Kahlil). People focus more on the outward appearance instead of the inward appearance. One’s inward appearance is comprised of their character, values, morals, and the true nature of their heart. On the other hand, the outward appearance is composed of one’s dress and grooming. The inward and outward appearance determines whether or not a person is ugly or beautiful. The choices that we make also define whether or not one is ugly or beautiful; choices made in the past can sometimes be repeated in the future.
Moreover, there is a danger when a person has to deal with certain people, with whom it is necessary to be rude, harsh, and altogether not so nice as one can draw in the imagined portrait of their own personality. I know it from my life experience and can assert that such situations happen in real life. The only way out to deal with such disruptive people and their adverse influence on the self-esteem and self-evaluation is the development of a coherent sense of identity, which will be resistant to negative impact. These were two examples where both ideas can be helpful, namely those of being able to wear positive social masks and possess a consistent sense of self. In The Truth about Beauty, Amy Alkon presents convincing arguments for the necessity to pay attention to the fact that others perceive one’s personality.
The concept of beauty is a subject society speaks on through many channels. Social media plays a tremendous role in how society measures beauty and how to achieve these impossible standards. People from all walks of life have become obsessed with the idea of beauty and achieving the highest level it. In many cases, those who do not meet societal views of what is “beautiful” can become very resentful to these predisposed notions of beauty. David Akst in his writing “What Meets the Eye”, is bitter toward women and their ongoing obsession with beauty.
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Being beautiful, being perfect, is what most of society cares about in this day and age. For example, people value getting rid of any to all imperfections, like having a bit of baby fat, or getting rid of scars. People are put down by the comments of strangers, and more so the comments made from people of their inner circle. People feel ugly and hate themselves for things that they have no control over. Some do radical things to get rid of these imperfections by getting surgery or taking pills. Even though not all people judge minor blemishes the view of one’s self is the most important view a person could have, and if that identity is under attack it could ruin a person 's self confidence. The story “The Birthmark” by Nathaniel Hawthorne also has aspects of self-confidence and identity that are relevant to the current times.
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In my essay, I argue that people get treated differently based on how they look. This is because people judge you before they even get to know you, It affects your work success, and it plays a role in your future family. I don’t think we like to admit that we judge others by their looks but, even if we don’t notice it, it is something we all do. It is something I have seen at work, school, and, as sad
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