Personal Narrative: Divorce

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I was eight years old, and I was scared of what the word "divorce" could mean. Like most influential children, I always looked up to my parents and saw no wrong in them. Sadly, that picturesque image came to an end in the second grade. I was young and I had no idea what was to come after my parent’s shocking news.
I remember exactly how my parents told me. My mom picked my sister and I up from our elementary school and started to drive us home. She asked us the usual questions, "How was school?" and "How much homework do you have tonight?". We responded as if nothing was wrong. As we pulled in the driveway, I noticed that my dad's car was in front of the garage. My dad normally got home after my sister and I went to bed. Excited that I would …show more content…

They knew what I was going through because they had the same problems as me. For once, I was kind of happy since I heard about the separation. I was seeing my father more than I did when he was actually living at the house. My sister and I usually slept over at his condo whenever he wasn't too busy with work.
We kept up the same pattern for a couple of months; my father came over to our house for birthdays and holidays. It was nice not hearing the two of them yell at each other every night. I was getting better with coping with my emotions and I was becoming more responsible around the house and at school.
Everything was starting look like it would work out all right, when our dad told us that he was moving out of his condo. I was kind of confused at first as to why he was telling us this. Then he continued to tell us that he was moving in with his new girlfriend, Saundra. As soon as I heard this, I burst out in tears. I felt as though he did this on purpose; that he waited until I was starting to be responsible and actually feel happy with myself, and then dump some more hard news on me. I thought I had already endured enough; I mean I still had the rest of my childhood to live.
Once again, I felt abandoned by

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