Teens Emotional Reactions after Parents Separation

Parents of divorce fail to realize how much more work is placed on their back to raise a child in two different homes. “Having two homes is like putting your life in a couple of carrier bags every two weeks” (Bailey 9). This can cause confusion between the child and the two of his/her parents which can lead to poor social skill and or depression. However, parents who divorce with children of young ages have a lot to do with the mood swings, obsessive behavior, and personality adjustments later in life. Those children who feel they have been abandoned by their mother or father usually go through depression which can cause mental illnesses, such as a psychotic disorder.

Often times children that have parents who go through divorce are mentally and emotionally unstable. Children that have parents who are divorced or who are in the process of going through a divorce respond and react differently. There are four major effects that divorce has on a child: stress, risk, resilience, and painful memories with ongoing worries (Emery). Most children do not want to see their parents' marriage end in a divorce unless there is major conflict or they are arguing constantly. Children often blame themselves for their parents' divorce.

Divorce is becoming increasingly common among couples in today’s time. It is sad to know that most cases of divorce involve children. Divorce affects the parents but it affects the children much more. Divorce impacts kids greatly, often causing depression, rebellion, or inspiration/motivation, to develop and potentially end up a permanent aspect in their lives. When two parents decide to divorce, their children acquire a really tough pill to swallow.

Divorce in a home often teaches children bad habits; children tend to quit more in life when their parents are split up. Divorce is one of the most detrimental things a child can face. Divorce takes away from people mentally, emotionally, kills damages kids cognitive tremendously. Divorce takes away from the American value of a family. At one point a divorce was sought out to be the worst and last resort, but now it’s become so common people don’t look down on it anymore and feel that its natural, but it’s not.

This includes the relationship disturbances that are seen between parents and their children, how socially different their life becomes when divorce is present, and overall the future impact these children have on our society. During a divorce, each family member is affected in some way. The truth is most spouses as well as their children are not ready for the emotional and physical impact of divorce. Overall, divorce ends up disrupting the family life cycling process, adding intricacy to the development tasks already at hand. With the configuration of the family being altered, family members have to adjust to new situations and feelings.

The children also suffer because they are now separated from one parent and no longer have both parents in the home. This devastation causes psychiatric trauma to the child’s state of mind. Often enough, the divorce is already a strain on both parents therefore the childre... ... middle of paper ... ...rowing into adults and facing the same issues that their parents’ one struggled with. Works Cited Gallagher, M. (1996) The abolition of marriage How We Destroy Lasting Love. Regnery Publishing Cherlin, A. J.

The problems faced within a couple not only affects the two involved in the fight, but also their children’s lives in a negatively manner. Marriage is not viewed as highly in today’s society as years before due to the amount of marriages not lasting and ending in a divorce. Divorce is common today because of couple’s uneasiness to try and work things out by going to couples therapy together or listening to each other. Children are affected emotionally by their parent’s decision of divorce in their relationships with their friends, family and teachers. Parents try to do as much as possible to avoid their children asking about divorce.

Divorce has a major negative effect on the parents as well as they have to support and counsel their children who may be involved in the process and are suffering too. Families who are going through a divorce or a parental divorce if it is the spouses or the children are going to experience series of emotional stages due to the post-breakdown (Smith, 2009). Stress from divorce can lead from anger and depression to fear and frustration. Also, families who are coping and managing all the tasks associated with divorce can also lead to anxiety, panic, and depression. The spouses who are straightly involved in the divorce experience different ranges of emotions as they being adults direct the daily tasks and responsibilities of living under the circumstances of a divorce (Smith, 2009).

Keeping up on this stuff is tiring, it physically and mentally drains your energy. Divorce affects majority of kids that have gone through their parents getting a divorce they have more mental problems than kids and young adolescents but it also affects adults. Adults whose parents divorced when they were kids are more likely to consider suicide. Divorce can affect kids and adults, it’s a difficult situation that can physically and mentally damage them which can lead to bigger problems ahead of them in life. The Effects of Divorce on Kids and Adults Children that go through divorce suffer depression, learning difficulties, and other psychological problems more frequently than those of intact families.

One of the common causes a marriage will end in divorce is because the spouses fell out of love. Dr. William H. Doherty, a noted marriage scholar and therapist, is the author of the book Should I Keep Trying to Work it Out?. Dr. Doherty states, “Other significant reasons included too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse” (Doherty 44). Another reason for divorce that is more commonly found in today’s society is “infidelity, or affairs, which can sometimes be overcome, especially with professional and/or religious help” (Doherty 44). Although there are several reasons for a marriage to end in a divorce, every relationship is dealt with differently.