If you have an argument, talk about it and settle it. Real friends care enough about each other to forgive and forget. If you have issues that are too difficult to resolve, then maybe you’re in an incompatible relationship. If so, this unhealthy relationship isn’t worth continuing. But be cautious and don’t allow one incident to end a good relationship that may be worth salvaging.
Although people enjoy spending time with the convenient friend, when he or she does make time for his or her friend. People have to constantly ask themselves when do they stand in a convenient friend life. The convenient friend is the friend that looks for friends, they can use. They will use their friend until the friend puts an end to it. Eventually, the friendship would end because it isn’t moving forward.
Most of the time it is a quick argument that ends in a better understanding of the others feelings. But sometimes friendships are hurt and it could take a very long time to repair the friendship, if it even could be repaired. Support of a friend is one of the most important things that a friendship can offer. Letting a buddy know that one is behind them in whatever they do and that one will support them in the decision they make is a good foundation for friendship. Even though one might not make the same choices that their friend does, they will still support whatever decision their friend makes.
If they are known for betrayal and being dishonest you should think about it and probably take one step away from them. According to the site “Being Friends,” friends should listen to each other, not put each other down to hurt one another, understand each others feelings, disagree without hurting each other, and be dependable and trustworthy. When finding friends you should look out for the good and the bad. See which traits are most important to you and make sure your friends have more good than bad traits. This will create compatible friends for you who hopefully remain with you for a lifetime!
They could be friendships, family, romantic or many more!As a result of relationships they can take over you life which can be good and bad. There are some ups and downs for all kinds of relationships. When you think of relationships do you think good or bad? “Just think you can’t pick family but you can pick friends”. Friendships are good things to have in your life, you should have a friend who treats you right, that doesn’t hurt you 24/7, make sure you can trust them.
We make friends expecting them to bring some substance to the conversations we have with them about our problems, but in all honesty, a majority of the time they have no real advice to give besides, “You’ll make it, just stay positive.” And to that begins the downward spiral of a doomed friendship. Without anything to go off of it makes it very hard to continue to go back to friends for advice when in the past they have a history of kind of sucking at it. This is when we see our friends true colors and start to notice how much they really plan on contributing to this friendship we have. It’s easy to see what they like to talk about versus what they don’t. Thus making it remarkably easy to detect when they aren’t truly interested in your problems.
The attributes and rules of friendship and shyness were the three main points in this chapter that stuck out to me the most. The attributes of friendships are a must. In order for a friendship to be successful, one needs affection, communion, and companionship. Affection does not necessarily mean for you to be in love with your friend, but you want to and enjoy spending time with them. When I want to spend time with my friends, I always feel a sense of comfort and understanding.
This time she met a friendly neighbor and suddenly she didn't feel so alone. The point of this story is you must not give up if your first, second or even third attempt at making a friend fails. It's bound to happen, but eventually some of your attempts will succeed, when you present yourself as likeable and friendly. (Discussed in other chapters) Remember, everyone has hang-ups. You have likes and dislikes and so do others.
At times it can be hard for someone to find others with the characteristics of a true friend, but when found, completely worth the trouble. How does a person know when they have found a real friend? well, it requires sacrifice, patience, respect and sharing common interests. People tend to believe they have true friends, but when a complicated situation arises, their friendship is put to the test. Sometimes they are faced with the hard truth that their friend is not the best of friend they thought they were.
We think everyone will adore us, but we eventually find out that they don't. Some people we will harmonize with, and others we won't. It's just the way life goes, and those who do like us usually end up as our friends. It's like the old saying goes; to have friends, be one. This does not mean you have to be the perfect friend, but you have to at least try.