Imagine you’re the only shipwreck survivor and you finally landed on an island after long way of swimming. You will certainly feel lucky you survived. The island looks gorgeous with its huge trees, blue sea, sunny skies and colorful birds, but the down side is: no one at all is living on this island except you. Will you always wish to find someone to talk to, to listen to, or to simply communicate with? How long do you think you can be able to live totally by yourself there? I think not so long. God created Prophet Adam first, then He created Eve, so both of them (Adam and Eve) accompanied each other in the paradise. So even in paradise, no one can live alone. During childhood years, our parents have encouraged us to try to make friends and
Most of us sometimes need someone to share with him or her feelings and thoughts, to seek help if needed, and to be for each other without waiting for the return. This special relationship can be achieved with close friends. Unlike family and relatives, you can choose whom you consider a friend. I agree with Deresiewicz when he writes, “Friendships, unlike blood ties, are elective.” That is to say, we are totally free to choose our friends, and obviously it is not the same case regarding family or relatives. Some of us carry in his or her memory happy familiar moments while others carry sad ones. Either ways we couldn’t choose our family. The modern lifestyle nowadays sometimes obligates us to leave our families and move somewhere far away seeking for a better future. In these instances, we do not have a choice other than to replace family members with friends. If we are lucky enough, we can find the emotional support, provided previously from parents, brothers, and sisters, with our chosen friends. Personally, I departed my homeland and came here to the United States leaving all my family, friends and memories back there. I found here friends who helped me a lot to accommodate to my new circumstances. Although I miss my family and childhood friends, but I pursue that emotional support with my friends I found
People are different in their perception, behavior and the way they react to situations. Even close friends will sometimes have different opinion about specific issues. Whatever I believe is right some others may believe it is wrong, and here is the test for a long lasting friendship. Social intelligence allows people to be lenient with each other and permit a range of forgiveness. It is important to overlook the mistakes of our friends as long as we want this friendship to last forever. Deresiewicz, in his article, goes on contrasting between modernity and friendship, as he claims, “Modernity believes in freedom. We can be friends with whomever we want, however we want, for as long as we want.” I disagree with this particular view the author delineates because friendship and every other human relationship requires a lot of forgiveness, sacrifice, commitment, and loyalty. If we over expect from people surrounding us, we will be disappointed frequently and forgiveness is not going to be easy. Trying to find excuses for a close friend who did not call you on your birthday for example, can be a way to overcome minor unneeded blame that may lead to more aggravated discussion. This is not easy to achieve, but the fruit that comes out of this effort is worthy. If we deal with friends as we deal with a piece of garment, we try it on, if we like it we keep it, if not, we return it right
“No one knows the exact definition of "Friendship"; however, they do have their own way to tell if they have a friend or not.”
In his Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle describes both justice and friendship as an intertwining bond that hold together a society. Subsequently, Aristotle makes reference to three (3) kinds of friendship. The first is friendship based on utility, where both people derive some benefit from each other; a lowest form of friendship. During this stage, the friendship is still at its lowest form, shallow and or “easily dissolved”. This so-called friendship is in its exploratory phase, as each person is still discovering and learning about the other person’s personality, perhaps likes and dislikes and how one fits in the other’s needs. During this phase, the friendship is also fragile or easily broken; it’s perhaps in the inception phase. Additionally,
To have someone that can support you through all of life’s transitions is the greatest feeling in the world. A friend that supports another friend in good times and bad is truly a friend, and “Thus when we find a friend who will not leave us in his fortune or desert us in our misfortune, but remains serious, stable and constant in either situation, we must consider him a rare friend indeed, and very nearly godlike,” (Cicero 123). Friends of this nature are rare and special because they see their own friend as worthy and equal to themselves. And another quote from Cicero that speaks of the nature of true friendship is, “Thus it seems to me that friendship arises more from our nature than from our needs, and that we choose our friends because of an inclination of our souls and a sense of love rather than because we think they might be useful to us,” (Cicero 111). This exemplifies true friendship because it is out of love that we choose our friends rather than the gain we get from befriending them. This kind of friendship leads to true friendship because it was created out of love or admiration for another. John and Bernard’s friendship in Brave New World, was created for Bernard’s benefit more than admiration for each other. Bernard likes that John’s exotic background boosts his own fame and amiability in the World State society. Bernard does not genuinely care for John, as shown in this dialogue between two when John refuses to meet with
omen are also said to live a content life, just like Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda. Lily and Jane have been friends for 40 years, now that 's friendship goals! The key to their friendship is to have a sense of fun, not let too much time go by without contacting each other, and to support each other in their endeavors. In today 's society, it can be hard to find friends that really genuinely love, support, and wants what is best for you. In an assessment of 2,835 women with breast cancer in the Nurses’ Health Study, those with no close friends were four times as likely to die from the disease as the women with 10 or more close friends(Friends are Preventive Medicine). Since it can be hard to find that, most women tend to stay by themselves rather than get hurt and back-stabbed. Little do they know, their health is being effected because they don 't have that person to confine in, to be vulnerable with,
This is when the three types of friendships come in. He also stated that people like this are rare because only a few people have the capacity for this type of friendship.(pg.122 s6) He says people can have a lot of friends, but there is always a closer connection to someone. A friendship takes a long time to build and requires a lot of time. Lastly, he state that friendships go way beyond justice, where there is a friendship, justice is not necessary, yet where there is justice friendship is justice is still necessary. He also says that friends must live together to make a friendship or else they only really have goodwill. Lastly, Aristotle talks about friendships being higher than justice, he argues that the love in a friendship is higher in honor, also that people value being loved than loving. People who honor will be more likely to seek out either flattery or those who have more power than they may gain through these
In the short story “Friendship in the Age of Economics” the author, Todd May, talked about how important your relationship with your friends can be. In this story, it says “There is much that might be said about friendship” (May 2). It also said, "In our lives, however, few of us have entirely forgotten about the third- true friendship"(May 2). Not everyone
Friendship is an important piece in a human's life. Our friendships mold us into the personalities we have become. I chose Emerson, because he agreed with my thoughts on friendship. When we are affectionate, we become active. We spend time thinking of our friends, important things to them and how to find ways to help them. We enjoy our time with our friends, so we look forward to activities with them. With new friends we invite to our house we talk about things we never new we could. This new friend is exciting to listen to. Since he is new, we see him as perfect. Once he or she has showed us their faults, we no longer have a feeling of nostalgia. It is like with any possession that is new. We are excited about it in the beginning, but it loses its luster after some time passes.
Friendship has evolved into a whole new abstract that not everyone can understand. With the technological advancements that we humans rely on so much, friendship has morphed into digital pixels that are released throughout the internet, rather than a one on one physical interaction. Does this mean that man has now created a new flaw in social interaction? Well not really, in fact the digital and physical are connected in more ways than one may think.
From a young age most people have gone through many relationships with other people who were not their family. Thus, we often acknowledge these relationships as friendships. But the word friend is too broad, so people categorize their friends to several types. In her book “Necessary Losses: The Lovers, Illusions, Dependencies and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow”, Judith Viorst divided friendships to six types. Those are convenience friends, special Interest friends, historical friends, crossroad friends, cross-generation friends and close friends. In my life, I have been friend with many people since I was little. Although I have met all six kinds of friend of Viorst, convenience friends and close friends are two important kinds of friends in my life.
She doesn’t know this, but she changed my life. She was there for me when it seemed like no one else was. When most of my friends were dissolving around me and I just didn’t feel like I could do anything right, she was there, and she made everything seem okay. It didn’t matter that I was inevitably going to graduate with a GPA a tenth of a point lower than I wanted, or that my director told me that he was disappointed in me because I just didn’t seem focused lately, or that my other friends just weren’t talking to me anymore. It didn’t matter because she was there and she made me feel safe. She’s my best friend, and I love her and admire her for so many different reasons.
A friend is someone difficult to find. A friend is someone you can always count on when times are tough. The dictionary's definition of a good friend is a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A good friend is there when you are struggling. For example, when a boy breaks your heart a good friend walks you through it and offers a shoulder to cry on. According to Bree Neff, a good friend is someone who is trustworthy, doesn't talk behind your back, listens to your problems, gives good advice and tries to lend humor along with his or her support. There are also bad friends, those who pretend to care and then turn around gossiping and starting drama. Good and bad friends are all around you, involved in your everyday life. To find good friends you should look for such traits as being kind, trustworthy, loyal and dependable.
Do you know based on a study of American Sociological researcher from the past twenty years, one hundred friends out of nighty-seven only three people will be identified as the real friends? The other majority number only rely on other things such as money, power, and extravagant lifestyle. In life, a person should identify the difference between the real friends or fake friends. In addition, do you know the main qualities of a good friend? Well, the qualities of good friends were trustworthy, good attitude, and supportive.
We do not make friends because they are useful but the bond of friendship, once it grows stronger and stronger has a number of positive aspects. There are certain secrets that can only be shared with our friends only. When we are facing a difficult situation in our lives, only true friends come forward to help us overcome all the difficulties.