Parents want what’s best for their child; however, sometimes what’s best is not always what the parents want. This can be translated into youth sports and how parents want them to be some kind of superstar like LeBron James. It’s clear parents, especially, are becoming more and more involved in their children’s athletic events. Parents are even forcing their children into playing sports they might not have pictured themselves involved in otherwise. Whether the child likes the sport or not, should parents really be making the decision of playing sports for them? Evidence has shown that a majority of people feel it is wrong to force a child to play sports. First, it starts off as parents pushing their children into sports at age five or six in …show more content…
This can potentially ruin their relationship in the long term. Parents forcing their children into sports can also ruin the child parents bond as well (Baldwin Ellis). Marilyn Enmark, a youth soccer coach, says she’s seen many parents risking their relationship with their kid over a sport. One of her seven-year-old players hit the boards during an indoor soccer game and rather than ask him how he felt, his father proceeded to scold him for playing badly. Later that week, his mother criticized him leaving the boy in tears (Jacqueline Stenson). Both of these parents are potentially harming their relationship with their son and they don’t even hesitate to critique him. This is sad, but true, and it’s happening all over. This specific child, along with many others, strives to seek their parents’ approval but rarely or never get it, leading to deeper problems with their personality traits they …show more content…
(Laurie Sue Brockway). When children’s parents never show approval in each of their sporting events, the children will develop a personality trait to always seek approval from other people. This not only destroys the bond between child and parent but also has negative long lasting effects on their personalities as well. Kids will need that approval from other people because they never got it from their parents. With that kind of personality trait, these children could eventually become conformists and are likely to be unhappy in life. The reason for them becoming conformists is quite simple. If they’re longing for the approval of other kids, they’re more likely to do what everyone else is doing in order to gain that approval. Conforming can lead kids into dangerous activities such as drugs or partying. This can all tie back to a kid’s early childhood and how their parents never showed them their
In a growing trend that reaches to all corners of the athletic world, coaches are being forced to cope with the added stress of disgruntled parents. More and more they are required to defend personal coaching styles and philosophies, uphold team decisions and go head to head with angry, and sometimes violent parents. The pressure has gotten to the point where coaches all over the country are quitting or being forced out of their jobs by groups of parents. High school athletics should be about learning and having fun, and when parents cross the line between cheerleader and ringleader everyone suffers.
The amount of unnecessary behavior by parents at youth sporting events is increasing rapidly and is ruining the kid's experiences and their passion for the sports. Parents in the United States are becoming more involved in their children's sports than the kids themselves. The reason that so many young American athletes are quitting at such an early age is because their parents are making the sports a joyless experience and are placing too much pressure on the kids to win and to be the best. Parents have become out of control at youth sports and it seems that the kids are showing more civility than the parents these days. Parents need to get back to teaching their kids that sports should be played for fun and not just for showing who's the best.
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Abstract: Youth Soccer has recently evolved into a fiercely competitive arena. More and more children are leaving recreational leagues to play in highly competitive select leagues. While select sports are a valuable resource where children can learn how to socialize and become self-motivated, children who start at young ages, ten and eleven, can suffer psychological and physical damage. A child's youth sporting experience is directly influenced by the attitudes, sportsmanship and behavior of their parents and coaches.
Heffernan, L. E. (2013, October 10). Parents Ruin Sports for Their Kids by Obsessing About Winning. Retrieved April 28, 2014
One quote that was used was, “Children who specialize in a single sport and train intensively for it are at higher risk of experiencing overuse injuries, as well as burnout, anxiety and depression, according to a new report from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP),” (Perry). She said this because it shows how when children play sports that there is a major health risk involved and they could be depressed and exhausted. Another quote is, “More kids are participating in adult-led organized sports today, and sometimes the goals of the parents and coaches may be different than the young athletes,” (Brenner). Doctor Joel Brenner said this because it shows how the coaches and parents are sometimes more involved in the sport than some of the young athletes. Though this argument may seem accurate it does not fully explain some of the major health risks and what the parents and coaches are doing to prevent as many injuries as possible.
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Everyone agrees that parent involvement is a good thing. But when the parent behaves inappropriately, it creates a poor environment for the children to learn and enjoy themselves. "Sideline rage" with parents behaving badly at youth sports events is such an epidemic, that 76% of respondents from 60 high school athletic associations said increased spectator interference is causing many officials to quit (Associated Press, 6/3/01). Parents are supposed to be role models, and the lessons they teach will determine their values and actions in the future. These days violence in children's sports is not limited to the playing field; overbearing parents are creating dangerous situations on the field.
More specifically, children are also increasingly pressured--again, usually by parents and coaches--to specialize in one sport and to play it year-round, often on several different teams (Perry). Now, if sports specialization is such a great idea, then why are kids being “pressured”? As stated before, sports specialization can result in severe injury or even retirement from sports all together. Evidently, parents would not want to risk their athlete’s entire athletic career just because of an overuse injury. Knowing this, a diversity in sports activities is the solution to the problem. Additionally, a specialization in sports can lead to the young athlete not experiencing a sport that he or she may truly enjoy in their life. If a parent already makes a child decide on a sport to play, how will the child know if that is the sport they truly want to participate in? As the child ages, they could realize that the sport they play now is not one that they love anymore, so they could just quit. Deciding at such a young age is not only a hasty decision, but also a terrible one. Finally, this specialization can also create social problems. If a child is already so competitively involved in a sport, then their social lives and relationships with friends are at risk. The clear choice here is to let the child live a normal life by allowing them to make friends and play, rather than taking over their lives with competitive
Many parents will argue about whether kids should be allowed to play sports at such a young age. In my opinion, I think kids shouldn’t be allowed to play sports at a young age. When they grow older, I think that kids should be allowed to play sports. When a young athlete gets injured, coaches may not be trained for an injury and the child can suffer more serious injuries just from that. Kids want to skip practice so they will often fake an injury, serious coaches will use shaming techniques and call athletes “ladies” or man up, and athletes might not have the best protective gear, making them more likely to have a concussion. Worst of all, coaches
At this early stage of the child’s life, it is nearly impossible to believe a child could make a split second decision to make the winning play. The brains of these children are simply not yet wired to make those decisions. It’s through experience that the necessary connections are made in the brain and in turn create the possibility of those amazing plays. Most parents are simply observers during games, and thus it is far too easy to allow expectations for their child to be the star player run rampant. The parents have most likely been alive for three times longer than their child, which means they’ve had considerably more experience both within and outside the realm of sports. The failure to realize that their child lacks experience and thus can’t always act in the same way that the parents would have creates an environment that harms a child’s sense of worth and
I believe schools should not force students to participate in organized sports. Medical conditions, such as asthma, prevent students from being able to participate. Family situations may leave the student with no ride to or from practice. Students may not have time to be able to
A parent putting his/her child in sports gives the child something to do and keeps them fit. Parents also put their child in a sport hoping that he/she will get success out of it “Eager to nurture the next A-Rod or Michelle Kwan, parents enroll their 5- or 6-year-olds in a competitive sports league or program” (Stenson). While not all parents are pushing for future Olympians, the fight for a sports college scholarship is competitive and parents may feel that their child will have a better chance of gaining one if he/she starts competitive sports early. Parents push their children to succeed, and children—not wanting to disappoint their parents—push themselves, sometimes harder than they should. If done right, pushing a child into sports can have a positive effect on the child’s interaction with other children while teaching them commitment and healthy competition.
These days, there is too much pressure on children who participate in organized sports because of the unnecessary parental involvement they experience. A growing concern amongst those involved in youth sports is that certain aspects of parental involvement become detrimental to the development and experiences of young athletes. Early emphasis on winning, making money, and the disruption of education can exceedingly affect ones desire to further participate in a sport later on in his/her life.
Many parents put their children into sports for the wrong reason. They try to live their past dreams of sports glory through their kid. They can push and dem...