Brett Corrigan English- Essay 9/21/2014 The most exceptional parents portray qualities consisting of a stable and nurturing external environment, possess qualities that allow a positive role model, show enforcement by setting limits and administrate consequences; nevertheless, adept parents are to provide propitious moral and spiritual support. In order to be characterized as the most optimist parent, you mustn’t be lacking in the qualities formerly stated, as that would be lacking in one side of the whole equation, which will conclude an imbalance. Jeanette Walls, author of a memoir The Glass Castle and Amy Chua, author of a memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother express parenting in polar opposites. These divergent parenting styles rendering …show more content…
Many see them as un-providing and overall, just plain arrogant. Rex Walls is not able to keep a job or support his family and constantly lies about near everything. When Rex is working as a miner in Battle Mountain, Rex comes home one day and says he quit because he had to “pursue being a prospector to find gold” (67). He never finds gold… One day, Jeanette happened to be cooking hotdogs without her mother’s supervision…. Due to her lack of parental supervision, Jeanette’s dress catches on fire, and Jeanette is forced going to the hospital (3). This individual incident shows that the lack of supervision for Jeanette, led directly to her being injured. This whole incident happened because her mother, Rose Mary, decided that painting was more important than watching her child. An additional example of the parenting style being negative is when Rose Mary takes the kids on a trip to go shoplifting… In Phoenix, she has the kids make a subtle distraction in the store, and she goes off and steals a few dresses. Jeanette later asks, “Isn’t that a sin?”. Rose Mary assures her that it isn’t (111). This additional incident shows that she is willing to break the law and easily involve her kids in stealing. This offense is clearly defined as bad, because she is not only doing something illegal, but she now is having her children be her partners in …show more content…
The book was originally meant overlook the metaphorical clash between Chinese and Western parenting styles, but instead, refers to Chua's experience with raising her daughters. Chua clearly describes the “strict” rules that she established early on for her two daughters, Sophia and Louisa. The rules primarily address forbidden activities such as attending sleepovers, getting less than an A in classes, and being involved in school plays. The author admits that while her standards might seem rather stringent to most, they are common among Chinese mothers. On the 3rd paragraph in an excerpt, Chua mentioned, “In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that ‘stressing academic success is not good for children’ or that ‘parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.’ By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be "the best" students, that "academic achievement reflects successful parenting". Obviously, Chinese parents believe that academic success is primary, and that if one achieves well academically, that means the parents have done well. Statistically proven, the Chinese tend to do better on state exams and college admissions. So, Chua managed to keep her children’s grades high, allow for her
Unfamiliar with the customs of America, she had been brought up in a strict Chinese culture. Her mother probably raised her the same way, and therefore, that is where she learned her parenting skills. The Chinese life is strict, more so than the American life, and that was the only way the mother knew how to raise her daughter. The mother seemed to be the villain in the story, but she was only trying to be the caring parent the best way she knew how. She only wanted her daughter to be the best, but a conflict started when the daughter failed to meet her expectations.
In the article “Why Chinese mothers are Superior”, for me it was hard to read. I can’t imagine my mother pressuring me so much to do things. Some would say she takes pushing her kids to the extreme. The Chinese mother isn’t very worried about her child’s self esteem. She doesn’t seem to be worried about her children being insecure. If children don’t meet her strict standards she might call them “stupid” or “worthless”. (Chua 3) Chinese mothers demand their children to be perfect, which is unrealistic. Children are going to make mistakes and a parent should offer encouragement following
She utilizes a survey’s results to support the argument that Chinese mothers believe that their children can be the best at something and that for something to be fun, one must be good at it first. She later states that Chinese parents can get away with things that Western parents cannot such as calling their children names which would be considered offensive to the Western parents. She argues that by doing this, it makes the children feel bad and not want to do what they did wrong again. Chua supports this claim by including a personal anecdote in which she shares with the readers a memory in which her dad called her ‘garbage’ after disappointing him and how bad it made her feel, not because she was called an offensive name but rather because she wanted to make sure she never disappoint her father again. She then continues to elaborate on the idea that children can do well on anything if they are pushed into doing so. To provide evidence for this, Chua uses another personal anecdote in which she pushed her youngest daughter, Lulu, to learn a complicated piano piece. She explains how difficult it was for her
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Authoritative parenting presents the best parenting model because parents train their children with an even amount of love yet, guidelines and expectations. Even Amy Chua, the leading advocate of the tiger mom-parenting model, has changed many of her opinions about parenting. She even wrote a new book called, The Triple Package, about how she has changed a lot of her old tactics for her girls. Chua said that she "put passages in the book and used very harsh words that she regrets, everybody has those moments you wish you could take back." Clearly allowing a balance of rules and freedom and love give the best training to children. Thus authoritative parenting proves to have the most success and produces the most successful future adults.
More than just a Tiger Mom is an article about Amy Chua and her memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother. Lum talks about the questions people have on how effective the Western ways are compared to Tiger Mother. More than just a Tiger Mom, states four questions to Chua about being a tiger mom: “Some have accused you of perpetuating the “model minority” stereotype of Asian Americans as one dimensional academic nerds, do you agree?” Where Chua explains that is where she gets frustrated, she says, “my books is the opposite of entrenching the idea that Asians are obedient, meek, robotic, and non-creative. In my book I fight with my girls and they talk back at me constantly. They have the best lines. My book is a self-parody humanizing the Asian mother”.
Su Yeong Kim, an associate professor at University of Texas, studied more than 300 Chinese-American families for a decade. It was found that kids of supportive parents did best when it came to academic achievement and emotional well-being, while children of easy going parents were second best. It turns out, children of “tiger families” did worse socially and academically (325). Not only that, but as David Brooks points out in “Amy Chua Is A Wimp”, she is, in a way, isolating her children and prohibiting them from learning experiences such as “managing status rivalries, negotiating group dynamics, understanding social norms, navigating the distinction between self and group…” (313). He argues that she coddles them by not providing them the freedom to learn about these things, because she is too focused on the academic aspects of intelligence. Another thing that Chua does not seem to understand, is that some occupational areas rely more on experience rather than if one gets in an Ivy League college, for example. As Patrick Goldstein points out in “Tiger Mom vs. Tiger Mailroom”, the Hollywood industry relies more on experience than education. He also points out that many successful people did not even go to college (or dropped out) ,
When Amy Chua, a professor at Yale, wrote her personal memoir in 2011 called Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, controversy arose regarding the topic of an extreme parenting type called a “Tiger Mom” (Tiger Mom). When The Wall Street Journal posted an excerpt from Chua’s book on their website, it received over 7,000 comments both positive and negative including death threats (Extreme Parenting). In her book, Chua describes is forcing her 7-year old daughter to stay up all night without bathroom or drink breaks until she was able to play a certain piano piece (Extreme Parenting). Her daughter rebels, drops violin, and takes up tennis (Luscombe). Extreme parents exert great pressure on their child to meet expectations, and if they are not met, the child may be punished (Hatter). The MacMillan Dictionary defines a tiger mom as “a very strict mother who makes her children work particularly hard and restricts their free time so they continually achieve the highest grades,” (Tiger Mother).
In “Why Chinese mothers are Superior”, Amy Chua acknowledges that both Chinese and Western parents want what is best for their children; but insists that Chinese parents believe that stressing academic success is best for children whereas Western mothers believe preserving a child’s self- esteem is best. Chua starts her article off by stating that Chinese parents can get away with more than Westerners because of the difference in discipline tactics, examples including calling their children garbage and making their children study and practice for hours a day. Chua first explains how she believes that western mothers excessively try to preserve their children’s self-esteem. She explains how calling her child garbage taught her child discipline,
There are many factors that play into the execution of each of the styles; for example culture, religion, and values. With pro and con tactics occurring in both the Asian –American and Western-European methods, it is important to focus on the core principles of each. In the Asian-American culture, Chinese mothers, not only believe that their children are indebted to them for the sacrifices they’ve made, but they also have a standard of perfection based on knowing what their children are capable of, even to the point of disregarding the child’s own desires. According to Chua, "academic achievement reflects successful parenting," and that if children did not excel at school, then there was "a ...
Chinese parents are known for strict to children’s education. Amy Chua is the well-known Chinese mother just like the mothers in Joy Luck Club, she has strict rules for her daughters on education ("What is Tiger Mother Really About”). Traditional Chinese parents were strict to their children’s education because there are family pressures, environment compete and the importance of education in their culture.
While both parents stress the importance of academic success, Chua believes that this is one of the main pillars that reflect good parenting. In order for her children to succeed, goals must be clearly established. These goals are quite simple; however, if they aren’t met, serious punishments will shortly follow. These punishments range from countless hours of academic exercises to what some would refer to as verbal demoralization. For example, in the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, Chua recalls a time in which her daughter, Sophia, was extremely
In the Article “Amy Chua Is A Wimp” by David Brook. He points out chinese parents mindset and approach. Amy is a wimp for not allowing her children to experience the truly demanding cognitive, such as participating in the most intellectually demanding activities. Chua's intentions of isolating her childrens from the group is not allowing her children to be emotionally intellectual. Chua’s style of chinese parenting is pressuring her children to focus only on academic success. Due to Chua’s strict parenting method her kids are not truly creative and passionate. Chua’s firm guarding enables her children to build the sense of maturity and knowing the reality of the world. Therefore, Chua’s superior parenting style should not be praised.
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say
The two notable parenting styles discussed in Amy Chua’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” are the Western style parenting and the Chinese Tiger Mom style parenting. Chua explains the methods, the advantages and the disadvantages of both styles. She believes that Tiger Mom parenting is superior to Western parenting. In her article, Chua proves that raising children with the firm belief that failure is unacceptable will prepare them for the future.