In today's world, many parents ask, is there a right way to parent your children? Depending on your culture, these answers might vary. Hanna Rosin, an American mother, and Amy Chua, a Chinese descendant, have different viewpoints on parenting styles. Rosin places emphasis on the happiness of children through freedom and discovery, while Chua believes that a strict path to success is a better approach. Chua says that western parents tiptoe around their child’s feelings and states that, “Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable—even legally actionable—to Westerners.” In response, Rosin gives specific examples of children that turned on their parents, implying that the strict parenting styles were to blame. Is it wrong to be too strict with your children? Should there be some intervention in a child’s personal interests? These cultural differences and parenting styles have profound impacts on children in the areas of education, motivation, social interaction, personal interest, and emotional development. …show more content…
While both parents stress the importance of academic success, Chua believes that this is one of the main pillars that reflect good parenting. In order for her children to succeed, goals must be clearly established. These goals are quite simple; however, if they aren’t met, serious punishments will shortly follow. These punishments range from countless hours of academic exercises to what some would refer to as verbal demoralization. For example, in the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior”, Chua recalls a time in which her daughter, Sophia, was extremely
It is true that every mothers and fathers strive to give their children the finest development of knowledge so that it supports them blossom in their career. Two writers who have opposing views based on the parenting techniques of children are Amy Chua, in her article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior?” and David Brooks, in his article “Amy Chua is a Wimp.” Both of them have similarities and differences in bias in their article; there are differences in their tone and the way which they utilize evidences, but both of them depend heavily on evidence to prove their points.
Nurturing and guiding the next generation, immediately from the beginning of this arduous journey, becomes a battle of ideology and principles among its participants. In her article titled “The Overprotected Kid,” journalist Hanna Rosin advocates that children should be free to experience the environment around them, a “‘free and permissive atmosphere’ with as little adult supervision as possible,” while lawyer and author Amy Chua seemingly argues, “it is crucial to override their preferences,” in the Wall Street Journal’s article, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” an excerpt from Chua’s book, “Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.” Solely between these two extremes of exploratory freedom versus strict seclusion, in this age of technological dependence,
According to Ruan, parenting books emphasizing more focus on listening to their children and developing their skills outside of the classroom have become very popular within China. The best selling parenting book, “A Good Mom Is Better Than a Good Teacher,” has sold just over two million copies since it’s publication in 2009. Ruan reports that the primary readers of these parenting books (chinese parents in their thirties and forties) grew up during a Cultural Revolution that occurred in China from 1966 to 1976. Ruan believes that this revolution poses as a sort of inspiration for chinese parents to get past the old ways of parenting and has inspired chinese parents to adopt a westernized way of thinking when it comes to their kids.
Chua believes that Chinese parents force their children to be academically successful in order to reach “higher” goals in life. She emphasizes this when she states “…Chinese parents have … higher dreams for their children…” (Chua 8). Although Amy set higher s...
One type of effect the Chinese mothers’ expectations has in their relationship with their “Americanized” daughter is negative since the mothers are unable to achieve anything. An-Mei Hsu expects her daughter to listen and obey as the young ones do in Chinese culture, but instead receives a rebellious and stubborn daughter, “‘You only have to listen to me.’ And I cried, ‘But Old Mr. Chou listens to you too.’ More than thirty years later, my mother was still trying to make me listen’” (186-187). Instead of the circumstances improving, the mother is never able to achieve anything; her forcing and pushing her daughter to the Chinese culture goes to a waste. They are both similar in this sense because both are stubborn; the daughter learns to be stubborn through American culture and wants to keep herself the way she is, whereas the mother wants to remove this teaching from American culture and does not give u...
She started working at seventeen years old to support her family. In her situation, the necessity of supporting her family is very significant in her life. In Chinese tradition, parents do not expect anything from their sons and daughters, but the sense of respect towards the hard work that Chinese parents do for their kids is a must for successful men and women to support their parents with their free-will. These people are grateful that their parents gave them existence—creating opportunities for searching for ethical values that will help them succeed.
Parents always want what is best for their children, regardless of culture or ethnicity. In The Joy Luck Club, by Amy Tan, and in “Life With Father” by Itabari Njeri, the parents express their parental methods upon their daughters. Children will all react differently to their parent’s methods, as do Waverly, June, and Itabari, but they still share a common resentment for their parents. It is shown in the two stories how parental methods expressed to children can be misinterpreted, thus influencing the child’s behavior.
The author, Amy Chua, portrays her opinionated argument that Chinese children are more Why Chinese Mothers are Superior Why Chinese Mothers are Superior successful because of the way they are brought up in her article, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior (2011)”. This theme is important because it compares and contrasts the tactics of Chinese mothers to Western mothers to strive for their children to be successful. This paper describes the three key arguments Chau (2011) ties into Ed124 and why Chinese parents act the way they do towards their children.
Saudi moms raise their children to be confident and able to make their own decisions. Moreover, they stress that the child does what they like and enjoys. Adversely, Chinese moms force the child to do what they see as successful, and believe in the saying "academic achievement reflects successful parenting”. Thus, they make sure that their children are getting the best grades along with extra activities, without putting much thought if their children enjoy it or not. This method affects the child's self-confidence in making their own decisions and problem-solving skills. Saudi parents put a lot of effort in respecting their children’s uniqueness in their personality, and they make sure that they follow what they truly love and find passion in. Therefore, they always support their children’s choices, decisions, and provide them with a positive supportive and caring environment. This has a positive impact on the child's confidence and ability to be independent. By contrast, Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children, therefore, they control their children's preferences, desires, and behavior. They also believe that the best way to prepare and protect a child from the upcoming future is by pushing them and to let them explore their capacities. This approach is successful in the child’s career
Parenting is one of the greatest honors, commitments, and trials a person will go through. It will test resolve, health, and even sanity but it can also provide the greatest sense of love and accomplishment in a person’s life. Whether a parent’s style is strict, laissez-faire, or somewhere in between, the choices made by parents for their children will leave their marks on the character and development of their children long into their lives. Amy Chua knew this. She also knew how dangerous it would be to her children’s future to raise them in a style that would leave them open to falling short of the opportunities they would start with due to her own, and her parents’, successes and she resolved not to allow this to happen on her watch (22). Although she has repeatedly, and sometimes correctly, been criticized for her parenting style, Amy Chua demonstrates throughout her book a definitively visible result and a love, though sometimes misconstrued, that is fully evident in all the dedication she has given to her daughters' development into outstanding people. Through exhibiting confidence in what her girls can achieve, maintaining great expectations of what they will accomplish, and most importantly devoting as much time as possible to directly raising the girls to be their best, Amy has shown that great love, coupled with great tenacity, given in a “Chinese mother” style, proved to make an enduring mark on her children’s development.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
Parenting styles have great effects on children, especially on their behaviors and emotions. If there is a negative parenting style with one parent it is likely that we would see the same style in the second parent (Ritchie and Buchanan, 2011), in Chinese American children we see that parenting styles and pressure have a huge effect on emotions (Yuwen and Chen, 2013). We also see the how the three different types of parenting styles –authoritative, authoritarian and permissive, affects emotional regulation (Jabeen, Anis-ul-Haque and Riaz, 2013).
...ith Jing Mei and her mother, it is compounded by the fact that there are dual nationalities involved as well. Not only did the mother’s good intentions bring about failure and disappointment from Jing Mei, but rooted in her mother’s culture was the belief that children are to be obedient and give respect to their elders. "Only two kinds of daughters.....those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind!" (Tan1) is the comment made by her mother when Jing Mei refuses to continue with piano lessons. In the end, this story shows that not only is the mother-daughter relationship intricately complex but is made even more so with cultural and generational differences added to the mix.
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say