Learn From Your Pastor

Parents or guardians

It is easy, in the earlier part of the single season, to find parents a bit of a nuisance. The fact is, many young people don't get along with their parents. However, treat them with love and respect and you may find they have plenty of good advice. Don't just dismiss it because you are young and your parents and guardians are old! How a man treats his mother is how he will treat his wife. How a woman treats her father is how she will treat her husband. How do you treat your parents?

It may be hard if you are a Christian and your parents are not, but they are still the people whom God has ordained to look after you and one day you may really come to appreciate their presence in your life if you yourself become a parent.

Then do an internet search on what the Bible has to say on each area. Record notes in your notebook. Include the following:

What my parents say:

What the Bible says

Pastors and Leaders

Learn from your Pastor! They may well have wisdom for you and most pastors are open to arranging seminars on relationships and marriage. If the Pastor has a good marriage, look at what it is that seems to make it so and ask them how they make things work. Once you start to think of beginning a relationship, make an appointment to go and see the Pastor. The Pastor may well have insights on the matter you have not thought about. Ask your Pastor to be actively involved in helping you with your courtship.

Task

Ask your Pastor what advice he would give someone single who wants to start looking for a spouse and write it down in your notebook.

Find a

In fact, we need a variety of mentors if we are to be successful, as different people have differing experiences and skills. You are in as much need of mentors as a single person as you will be if you begin looking for a marriage partner. You might have one person who helps you with your education and career, another who helps you with money,and a third who helps you with life and relationships. It is possible your Pastor or a leader in the church will be willing to mentor you if you decide to enter into a season of courtship.

While a mentor is a kind of friend, the relationship needs to be different from that of the people you go around with. Usually, a mentor is someone older, wiser and experienced who can guide you and answer questions using their own experience. Once you start to think about marriage, then you need a married mentor who is easy to talk to. It is a good idea to find someone who has a marriage you want to emulate and build a relationship with them before you start courting rather than wait until afterwards. A mentor does not attempt to control you, but only seeks to advise in a healthy