Ivan Illyich Tolstoy's Five Stages Of Grief

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The death of Ivan Illyich
By Matthew Jewell
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Tolstoy provided us with two perspectives to view Ivan’s life in “The death of Ivan Illyich”: an omniscient narrator and Ivan himself. What I plan to do is give another perspective, not necessarily to view his life, but rather to his experiences after he realized he was dying. This perspective will be an analytical and psychological; the perspective from Kubler-Ross’s Stages of death (or stages of grief, as they are better known for). These stages occur when we are faced with an event that is usually connected with death. The “normal” order in which these five stages occur, though may not go doctrinally in this order, are as such: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. …show more content…

The Kubler-Ross stages were introduced in her book “On death and dying (1969).” As stated above, the five stages are as such: Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Though the stages might seem self-explanatory, I am going to go through and quickly define what each stage consists of. Denial looks like someone saying, “No, not me, it cannot be true”. (34 Kubler-Ross) This usually occurs in the beginning of the stages. When someone is faced with a difficult situation, like a terminal illness, they tend to deny or not believe in what is actually being said to them. The person looks everywhere to try to prove their denial. Denial is fairly temporary and the person will eventually move on. The next stage is anger. A person in this stage could say something like: “Why me?” or “why couldn't it have been him?” Now anger has many manifestations, so it will vary depending on the person. Generally speaking, if a person is projecting an irrational irritability towards people, it is safe to assume that they are in the anger stage. …show more content…

He realizes that he is dying from this illness by himself. Since this is the case, he begins going through the stages not whenever the doctor says “you only have x amount of time to live”, but whenever the doctor avoids giving him a definite answer to his question if the illness is dangerous or not. This is where Ivan starts his stage of denial. Even the narrator foretells this denial by the satirical comment about Ivan’s life: “and it was all very well.” (pg. 22) After he sees the doctor it is written that Ivan says: “maybe in fact it’s all right…” (pg. 25) He begins to be interested with other people’s health, and “tried to make himself think that he was better.” (pg. 25) A sign that we see Ivan’s denial clearly is from his action of “constantly consulting doctors”. (pg. 26) Kubler-Ross said that a patient “went shopping around” for different doctors. Through his denial, he began also to have fits of anger. These would continue to happen until shortly before his actual death. The biggest torment for him was that everyone was living a lie. No one would acknowledge that he was dying and he and they both knew it. Another thing that caused his anger was when someone (usually his wife) would disturb his peace. If they took him out of his pleasantness, it reminded of him of his illness and then would get agitated. The anger continued to grow. He even got angry at

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