Vulnerability is the ability to be open to hurt, pain, and suffering or appear as you are. I believe the scariest thing about being vulnerable is that once you are vulnerable with someone you do not know what they will do. People are uncomfortable not knowing the future, we strive to know every little detail. However, being vulnerable leaves one at a state of not knowing what will happen. This is why people hate and even fear being vulnerable. After having watched Brene Brown’s Ted talk, I learned it is okay to be vulnerable. This is because being open to pain may not always lead to suffering, but happiness instead. It is not just vulnerability people fear. Many people also fear unworthiness. Unworthy of being loved, to be anything other than …show more content…
The fact is, it is good to be vulnerable. Good to feel pain, hurt, and suffering. However, vulnerability does not always lead to pain and hurt. Instead it can lead to joy and happiness. Many people think vulnerability is an emotion, the emotion of hurt. Those people are wrong because vulnerability is nearly just an action that can lead to hurt, but can also lead to happiness. Brown says in her Ted talk, “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful”. She is speaking to anyone with shame and fear. This really moved me because the thought that the pain that causes one to be vulnerable, also makes them beautiful. Brown also says “We numb vulnerability”, this is true with many people. Instead of facing their feelings head on, many people fear them. They want to stop feeling hurt and pain, so to get rid of the hurt they substitute it. When one feels hurt they will drink alcohol, or take drugs prescribed and illegal. But most commonly, they will eat. This is why so many people are addicted, medicated, and obese. Lives have been destroyed, relationships ruined, and careers lost. All due to the fear of vulnerability and because people want to numb it instead of facing it. After having visited the Brene Brown website there was a quote that really caught my eye. She says, “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness”. This is important for everyone to know, because without vulnerability one can never be truly
people to repress and fear their emotions. Turner finds primal emotions to be necessary to our
People will always come across ups and downs but its the struggles, hardships, and obstacles people face that determines how strong they are. Walking away from a situation or problem does not make matters better. It does not shield an individual either, it just causes things to be unsettled. Communicating with someone will allow feelings to be exposed in a safe manner and cleansing the soul will also be a great therapeutic technique in rejuvenating the mind.
We have all been faced with countless tragedies in our lives such as the loss of a loved one or a divorce, which have tested our personal strengths. Losing your mother takes a lot out of you as a person. While reading the book and realizing how close Strayed and her mother were, Lord only knows how empty she felt inside. Personal strengths are mostly defined as incidents, or knowledge of incidents that surround our day to day lives.With no experience or training, Strayed decided to up and leave her entire way of life only driven by blind will. Strayed stated, “I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story from the one women are told. I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me” (Strayed 30). She went o...
In the article "Ten Ways We Get the Odds Wrong", author Maia Szalavitz emphasizes "why worrying about risk is itself risky" (255). While behaving riskily can lead to bad outcomes, having anxiety, being worried, or being afraid of the outcome of some risks can be dangerous to your body both physically and mentally. According to Szalavitz, fear can be one of the scariest things out there. Even President Franklin D. Roosevelt said that the "only thing to fear is fear itself" (FDR's first inaugural address). Both of these sources let the reader know that fear can affect their body's physical and mental well-being. I can attest to this being true through multiple personal experiences.
“Our fears make us defensive. We’re afraid to reveal ourselves. When people point out weaknesses, we retaliate and defend ourselves” (Warren). The problem faced here is how the person who has fear is afraid to tell the other person in the relationship their weaknesses and they don’t want to reveal themselves. By having hope and courage, you can overcome those fears and fix the problem in the relationship. The second thing that fear does to us is, “Our fears keep us distant. We don’t let people get close to us. We want to withdraw and hide our emotions. We don’t want to be open and honest” (Warren). The last thing that fear does to us is, “Our fears make us demanding. The more insecure we are, the more we try to control or dominate things. We try to have the last word in a relationship. This is always a symptom of fear and insecurity” (Warren). All these problems faced can be solved by using hope and
Trauma is a dreadful situation which causes turmoil in one’s life. Sometimes, its effect is catastrophic in which both one’s self as well as the social identity get damaged. It creates rupture in one’s body and mind as a result sometimes the mind is not able to function normally. It blocks senses of a victim and demolishes the “fundamental assumptions” or “the bedrock of our conceptual system” (Hwangbo 1). One’s loss of his/her true self is the “hallmark of being traumatized” (Hwangbo 1).
Fear influences people to make irrational decisions and take extreme measures. Often times, these actions are done to protect one’s reputation. Fear causes people to lie and manipulate to those they care about in order to escape what they are scared of most. Fear of failure has caused higher levels of anxiety, and has made society put blame on each other, rather than owning up to their mistakes. Fear can also cause one to forget one’s true identity and lose one’s values. There are two options that one can take when being faced with a fear: run away from the fear, or go through it and learn a valuable lesson in the end that will make you a stronger person. Fear is a harmful emotion that everyone has to go through in order to succeed.
In other words, to produce this ambition, we must take into account the affects that connections provide us. That being said, Butler voices that the ability to let ourselves become vulnerable, helps clarify our purpose of humanity, and while accepting the uncertainties, we abolish the isolation of ourselves while releasing our true, individual characteristics of what constitutes us as human.
It is a multidimensional human condition and constant human experience with the reduced ability to protect oneself (Cousley, Martin, & Hoy, 2014). Bailey (2010) describes vulnerability as an internal conflict which brings feelings of hopelessness, helplessness and lack of control. Vulnerability as defined by Scanlon & Lee (2006) can be broken into three dimensions, physical, social, and psychological aspects. Physical vulnerability can be identified by the potential risk of harm in the environment. Social vulnerability include age, sex, and ethnicity. Psychological vulnerability refers to the feelings associated with the loss of control and can be manifested by stress and anxiety. Vulnerability can be measured by the potential harm and the capacity to overcome it, as stated by Spiers (2000). Only the person experiencing vulnerability can truly understand its implications as it is a unique and individualized experience. (Thorup, Rundqvist, Roberts & Delmar, 2012). Vulnerability can be better understood by examining the external and internal risk factors that increase an individual’s
Fear can cause people to do many things. It enables peers and family to pressure people to conform and not express their true selves. People will go to great lengths to make sure they are not viewed poorly, even if it hinders themselves in their journey to develop a unique identity and be happy.
Brown believes that if a person does not open up himself, then he will not connect with other people on level passed the surface. As I have learned through my Ethnographic Research course, vulnerability has the power to transform an embodied text and to knock at people’s perception of themselves. I have continued to notice when an ethnographer is distant from their text and hesitant to connect on a deeper level. As a result, the ethnographic text lacks the ability to evoke response or limits the influence of the journey on the audience. While there a lot of risk and even pain with exposing one’s emotions through vulnerability, there is even more rewards. Brene Brown is inspiring as a speaker because in addition to developing a strong argument on the power of vulnerability; she has the unique quality of perfectly models her message. Brown expressed in her Ted Talk that she spent a whole year struggling with vulnerability. Speaking about her journey Brown openly admitted, “vulnerability pushed, I pushed back. I lost the fight but probably won my life back… What are we doing with vulnerability?” If she was talking about vulnerability, but was unable to show something of herself, her message would have fallen short. However, Brene Brown not only shows us with her words and her research how influential authenticity is, but she demonstrates it to us on a human level. While I was already aware that vulnerability is an important characteristic to tap into, Brene Brown is an inspiration for how anyone can challenge himself or herself to become even more
Vulnerability is commonly defined as an individual being weak and susceptible to harm. The definition of vulnerability in nursing is slightly different. Vulnerability in nursing is focused on a population or group of people, not the individual person. These groups of people can have limited access to care and may have a higher risk of being ill or having certain health conditions. A population that is generally considered vulnerable are individuals with mental disabilities. The Medical Dictionary for the Health Professions and Nursing, defines mental disability as, “any clinically significant behavioral or psychological syndrome characterized by distressing syndromes, significant impairment of functioning, or significantly increased risk
A person’s character is developed by the surroundings around them as well as their experiences. The Roman poet Horace quotes “…Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents in which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant…” I agree with the Roman poet, Horace, in that adversity has a way of waking talent from slumber. Adversity can encourage people in ways success and wealth cannot, as there is a benefit in the hardship. In Henrietta Lacks, by Rebecca Skloot, as well as Macbeth, by Shakespeare, adversity has developed the characters. From my observation, I strongly agree that experiences, such as hardship and danger, shape a person.
The truth is that no one enjoys being abused, no matter what kind of emotional state or self-image they may have. Some of the emotions that I experienced in this kind of relationship are isolation, paranoia, shame and embarrassment. As a victim of abuse, I, like many victims, didn’t rea...
Victimology is the scientific study of victimization and is an issue that affects millions of Americans each year. Anyone is at risk to be general target, but some people share similar traits and many criminologists seek to explain the facts that define the relationship between offender and the victim. This involves the study or investigation into the relationship type and level between the offenders and the victims of the crimes (Hagan, 2013). It works to create linkage between the criminal justice system and the victim to become a voice to advocate and secure justice for the victim. Most often violent crime is planned and executed by a person who is close to the victim. Victims are placed into four categories of victimization; The Victim