I Wish They D Do It Right Analysis

In her essay “I Wish They’d Do It Right”, Jane Doe highlights her ideology that marriage is honorable and legitimate, yet cohabitation is unacceptable and “socially awkward” (222). Doe illustrates her disagreement with her son’s decision of living in cohabitation, and tries to persuade him into marriage based on what the whole family will say or on society’s judgment. Doe argues that a marriage will create economical benefits between her son and his “girlfriend”, and provide a sense of stability for her soon-to-be grandson. However, it is noticeable that Doe’s views on marriage are based on her family and societies negative judgment on cohabitation, and the social acceptance of a traditional marriage. Based on my parents’ divorce, I disagree with Doe’s argument that marriage is always beneficial, real, and can guarantee a “happily ever after” (223); however, cohabitation can be as sincere, genuine, and exclusive as a marriage. I believe marriage should be based on the couple’s feelings and their readiness on taking the next step, instead of it being based on family and society’s opinion. Doe asserts that her son has lived in cohabitation for seven years …show more content…

Waite’s essay “The Negative Effects of Cohabitation”, she confirms Doe’s argument that cohabitation is often a mistake committed by many couples. Waite argues that those living in cohabitation have a higher probability of separating, especially if they marry after. Waite also highlights that cohabitation is not beneficial, and increases domestic violence. She also argues “women generally don’t share their partner’s earning” (257). However, cohabitation is not the atrocious decision that wrecks relationships, and neither is marriage the genuine decision that preserves a healthy relationship. The negative effects that come with cohabitation are established based on the personalities of those living together. The issues come from the people’s lack of trust, anger issues, and their problem with