You could be genius if you want to. You just not trying” (Tan, 102). The narrator was her own biggest enemy and her mother was her biggest support, which made their views so different from one another. The narrator had a mother that loved and encouraged her to be the best that she could be. She was able to live a good life, but wasn’t able to appreciate the good life that she had because she was focused on what
They try to make their daughters' lives as easy and problem free as possible. However, the daughters do not see this as an act of love, but rather as an act of control. In the end, the daughters realize that their mothers tried to use their experiences to teach them not to give up hope, and to look at the good of an experience rather than the bad. Amy Tan starts The Joy Luck Club with the daughter, Jing-mei, and mother, Suyuan Woo. Suyuan lived through a hard life in Kweilin during the war and teaches her daughter to keep her head up and have faith, even though things may seem hard at the time.
I think Ching Tai Tai couldn’t gave “unconditional love” to her daughter, so I think Frances need to be adult, and she can give “unconditional love” to her. It will make her mother’s dark to be lighter. These action would help for they understand more and more. Understand each other could help to their relationship's improvement.
Not just her arrival, though she is wishing that her daughter, Dee, loves her the ways she wishes to be loved by her; knowing that she has done so much for Dee to earn her respect. Knowing that Dee hates her and her other daughter, Maggie, she has tried everything in her power to help change the feelings that Dee has for them. “Dee wanted nice things” (Walker, 316). Dee’s mother always tried her best to give her the best that she possibly could. Giving her the style of clothes that she wished for, and even for the finer education, that neither herself or Maggie have received.
She will never experience the pure joy that Maggie and her mother now share in the knowledge that they may not be the richest or the brightest or the best looking folks, but they are satisfied with what they have. Before she leaves, Dee makes and assertion that is at least partly accurate. She tells Maggie that ?it?s really a new day for us?. She is correct. It is indeed a new day, but not for Dee and Maggie.
Joy Luck Club The stories of Suyuan and Jing-Mei Woo reveal some of Amy Tan's main themes in the novel. One important theme is that we must get to know and understand our parents in order to fully understand ourselves. June spends the first half of her life believing that she is a disappointment to her mother and has been unsuccessful in life. However, when she learns more about her mother's past and discovers that her mother is proud of her good heart and concern for others, she realizes that she has accomplished something by doing small things to the best of her ability. She learns that one does not have to be famous, or a genius, or greatly wealthy in order to be successful.
Choices and types of lifestyle a person chooses help to create a person 's identity. However when the choices and the lifestyle chosen are affected by the various forces, it can create fake identity of that person. In “Selections from “Hard to Get: Twenty-Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom,” the author Leslie Bell insist that pressure from society and family create a complex situation for young women where they are forced to divide their choices and choose a lifestyle. The author writes about the the uncertainty and lost identities of young women 's. Identity is a complex issue which can be divided into two parts; one being given identity and real identity.
Being a good mother isn’t always about loving your children. But having to encourage them for the best for themselves, their happiness comes first, working hard to maintain them, and letting them follow their dreams. Amanda didn’t possessed in neither of these qualities as a good mother. Amanda was just an old woman wanting to be in a young women’s body, she obviously wasn’t successful in her life so she was lost in her past and what she could have been. She was an irresponsible mother who didn’t let her children to make their own choices in their lives.
In Leslie Bell’s “Hard to Get,” Bell discusses Alicia’s childhood experiences that skewed her perception of families and, by extension, the portion of her individual reality that concerned her family when Bell states, “The stability, structure, and love of a traditional family seemed to afford all of the experiences Alicia herself lacked in her upbringing. A traditional family became the solution to the problem of instability in Alicia’s mind. And being a good girl was the strategy Alicia adopted to enable her to have a traditional family… [and] a good man who would treat her well” (39). In other words, because Alicia was deprived of a stable “traditional family” as a child, she decided that she would adopt the approach of becoming a “good girl” to achieve such a family during her adult life. It can be inferred from the wording of the first sentence of the passage that Alicia viewed her family as the antithesis of a “traditional family” while she was growing up because her family was unable to provide her with “the experiences” and “the stability, structure, and love” that she desired.
Because of the world around and the decisions made by her mother, she will not have the opportunity to become more. However, to her mother she is perfect the way she is. She feels she has failed her in a way “my wisdom came too late, she has much to her and probably little will come of it.” (Olsen) Her mother doesn’t want her to settle, “help her to know that she is more than this dress on the ironing board.” (Olsen) She wants better for Emily; she does not have to conform to the world around her.