Gender Interaction and Relationships

The way gender's interact with one another begins at a persons childhood. Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets and bonds and boy's can be intense as girls, but they are based less on talking and more on doing things together(232). These social structures in our society have proven later on to end millions of American marriages. If at a early age boy and girls were not raised on gender segregation then the communication between man and woman later in life would be much smoother and possibly save a lot of marriages.

The role that plays into a child's communication ability leads into how male and female interact with one another at a early age. Boys are raised to be dominate, kings of the jungle to never show any emotions because its dawned as a weakness similarly girls are raised to be men backbone, the socialist and the caregiver. Stereotypes between both genders have shown later in life to weaken their ability to survive a relationship.
Author, Professor Deborah Tannen uses different examples from studies based on the article American Psychologist by Eleanor Macoby which she proves many problems genders face when communicating. Men have a hard time staying on one subject for too long they tend to switch conversations like flashcards due to wanting to get to the point while women tend to like talking about details. Women commonly hold men to a standard when they request being listened to but take in matter how their being listened to as if they are or not. Every man has his own way of coping when listening some look around the room, make beats with their fingers and close their eyes women would see this as not listening. The case is not that men aren't listening but that women like havin...

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...less till she brought up situations and only then he understood all this time what she been complaining to him about. Would this strategy actually work in reality to have couples live in their partner shoes? or would it just drag the relationship more waiting for the other to crack first? it surely is worth a try.

Men and Women play the blame game as to why their relationship failed without fully understanding why it failed in the first place. The amount of time females take talking about one subject with 3-5 friends then can sum up whats their problem with their husband and if men would find time to give feedback as they due when critiquing a football game maybe their wives would feel more payed attention to. If society can teach kids to share crayons and crackers why cant Adults learn compromise their beliefs, values and egos for the sake of their relationship?