Examples Of Non Literal Listening

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One form of non-listening is literal listening which involves listening only for content but ignoring the relationship meaning. In the example, above, Lucy is asking Charlie Brown his opinion of something she has said, looking sad he replies back with “What difference does it make? You never listen anyway”. Lucy states she was just making conversation and Charlie informs her that conversation involves listening too and Lucy seems shocked to hear this. Lucy is participating in literal listening by only responding to the content of the conversation not the relationship level meaning. She is not being considerate Charlie’s feelings even though she has asked for his opinion, Lucy has also overlooked the connection that she has with Charlie. Lucy can practice mindful listening to improve her communication skills. First step is to be mindful which is being present in the moment, this can be done by giving the communicator undivided attention. Do not interrupt the communicator to impose own ideas or feelings instead pay attention to body posture by making eye contact with the person talking, also face the communicator. Another …show more content…

In example 4, the couple has come to an agreement that they are both tired of fighting and are willing to come to a resolution. The female has decided that her idea over powers her partner’s, therefore she has stated that every day of the week she will be right and he will be wrong. Her deciding to take the win, instead of considering a third common ground where both could be winners, she is undermining her partner causing more damage. This can produce more conflict, by ignoring his feelings and ideas, which can create resentment and unhappiness in their

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