PSA Paper: Domestic Abuse
Abuse is not discriminate which means it can happen anywhere and to anyone. 32% of high school students will be involved in an abusive relationship. (www.statisticbrain.com) Boys who witnessed abuse as a child, will be twice as more likely to abuse when they become adults. Domestic abuse is more common than most people think because one in four women will experience domestic violence in their life, even worse 1 in 3 women that are killed in homicide will be killed from a former or current abusive partner. Domestic violence is a major problem in society. Domestic violence is one of the most unreported crimes and that is not okay. (www.ncadv.org) Even though that people don’t usually report it enough, police still spend about 33% of their time investigating on domestic abuse service calls.(www.safehorizon.org)
Abusers have some key traits, typically they use fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear you down. They get excessively jealous and possessive, they’ll start isolating you from your family and friends. They limit you access to money and people and are constantly checking up on you, for example if your spouse makes you call them every hour to check up where you are even though you told them where you were that would be a domestic abuse trait. (www.helpguide.org) The abuse sign in victims are they’ll have bruises or imprint marks which would be in the shape of a hand, or they’ll suddenly start withdrawing from people or having mood changes. They might start getting psychosomatic complaints, like stomachaches or headaches. Typically if you ask them what happened the story they tell won't match up with the injury. The abused could develop a fear of being touched. If children are being abused they’ll...
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...you can always learn self defense to protect yourself. You should always be with someone when you’re walking through a sketchy neighborhood. Never let the person that’s supposed to love you hurt you, and you should never hurt the person you’re supposed to love. If you ever feel like hitting your significant other take time to cool down. You should count to ten and breath deeply, or you could say the alphabet aloud. There’s always ways to take control of your temper, but if things to get to the point of abuse you should get help immediately. Never let yourself be the one person getting arrest for domestic abuse, or worse homicide. If you go to jail for that then get out that will be open your permanent record, that means when you try to get a job people will see that. Everyone would know what YOU did to that person. Don’t let domestic abuse affect your entire life.
Irish Playwright, George Bernard Shaw, once said, “The worst sin toward our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them; that's the essence of inhumanity.” Inhumanity is mankind’s worse attribute. Every so often, ordinary humans are driven to the point were they have no choice but to think of themselves. One of the most famous example used today is the Holocaust. Elie Wiesel’s memoir Night demonstrates how fear is a debilitating force that causes people to lose sight of who they once were. After being forced into concentration camps, Elie was rudely awakened into reality. Traumatizing incidents such as Nazi persecution or even the mistreatment among fellow prisoners pushed Elie to realize the cruelty around him; Or even the wickedness Elie himself is capable of doing. This resulted in the loss of faith, innocence, and the close bonds with others.
One of the reasons why IPV victims do not leave his or her abusers is due to isolation. This one of the any methods abusers use in order to achieve control over his or her victims. Abusers isolate the victim by cutting the victim's ties to any support system and resources. A support system includes family, friends, classmates, coworkers, and the government. Isolation is one of the many methods used in order to gain control over the victim’s life. In the autobiographical novel, I Am Not Your Victim: Anatomy of Domestic Violence, the author Beth Sipe discusses the domestic violence that she had suffered during her 16 year marriage. Sipe describes their “romance,” the abuse of power, Sam isolating her and her family, the confusion, the fear, the
Upon arrival at Berkenau-Auswitz, the men and women were separated. It was here that Elie saw his mother and sisters for the last time. With the advise of another prisoner, Elie and Mr. Wiesel, lied about both their ages and occupations in order to get into the same line of men. “The baton moved unremittingly sometimes to the right, sometimes to the left.” (page 29) Happy to be with his father, Elie still did not know if he was in line for the prison or the crematory. The line marched up toward the fires, he could see little children and babies being tossed into the fire. The line moved on past another pit where adults were being burned. After seeing these tragic events, Elie could no longer sleep. He could not believe this was happening and nobody was doing anything to stop it.
Elie Wiesel’s book, Night, is a realistic summary of horror and rigid, life-shattering experience which revealed the heartlessness of humanity and what certain individuals are capable of. Reading Night presumes deep understandings of an innate problem as well as strength to imagine all those terrifying things. Elie Wiesel shows how important it is to understand the value we each have within and how powerful it can be if used for the good of the other. It is with strong encouragement that I recommend Night by Elie Wiesel. This book contains necessary contents of our history that has inevitably ensued chaos on many innocent lives. Those that are unaware of this history must be ready to face a very emotional and unbelievably true story. At the very least, Elie Wiesel deserves to be a Nobel Peace prize winner because people must know truth and he did a service to those who have lost their lives in the worst of conditions. Truth can set people free or the lies will perpetrate our present and flow into the future. People can live with the truth but not a lie. It is the least of what we can do and what we owe to the people who have gone before
No one understands such a dreadful experience as the Holocaust without shifting in the way you were before. In Night, a memoir by Elie Wiesel, the author defines his suffering at the hands of Nazis. Taken with his family in 1944, they were directed to Auschwitz to come before the dishonorable selection. There, Elie parted from his mom and sister leaving him with his father who was too busy to spend any time with his son before the camp. Being under the Nazis' control, Elie and his father moved to several camps. The Nazi command “deprived Elie...of the desire to live..., which murdered his God and soul and turned my dreams to dust” (32).
Elie Wiesel writes about his personal experience of the Holocaust in his memoir, Night. He is a Jewish man who is sent to a concentration camp, controlled by an infamous dictator, Hitler. Elie is stripped away everything that belongs to him. All that he has worked for in his life is taken away from him instantly. He is even separated from his mother and sister. On the other side of this he is fortunate to survive and tell his story. He describes the immense cruel treatment that he receives from the Nazis. Even after all of the brutal treatment and atrocities he experiences he does not hate the world and everything in it, along with not becoming a brute.
During the 1980s and 1900s, domestic violence was one of the most unreported crimes that involve females and males getting hurt and dying. Kicking, choking, killing, and saying brutal or despise words that could hurt the victims physically or emotionally are considered domestic violence. In fact, many victims are afraid to seek for help. According to “The Domestic Violence Resource Center (DVRC), women account for approximately 85 percent of all intimate partner violence, with women aged 20-24 at greater risk” (Batten, par.16). Most pregnant women are at risk as well. “But underlying approach is still one that assumes the perpetrators are men and the victims are woman” (Haugen, par. 1). Moreover, both males and females believe that domestic violence is a solution to their issues.
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person. It happens to all ages, all genders, it is physical, it is mental, and typically women are the victims of their male partners. Domestic violence happens in every corner of the world so the world needs to unite and fight domestic violence. Even though domestic violence goes back to 753 B.C, it has not been until recently, coalitions of domestic violence prevention agencies have provided help and guidance for battered women. If you have been abused in any way, then you should definitely get in touch with the organizations that are mentioned this essay to liberate yourself.
Most people in society are one sided when it comes to domestic violence. Most people automatically think domestic violence as men abusing women. Most people believe domestic violence is associated with gender. For instance, some people associate men with violent, destructive, and belligerent behavior. While women are often seen as innocent, fragile, and vulnerable. For many years men were the ones showing violent behavior, so most people believe men are usually the aggressor. Many people believe men should never abuse a woman, and if he does he will charged and most likely serve jail time. Although, women are not viewed the same way. Over the years women have become just as aggressive and violent as men have been portrayed. Many women who are violent are given a pass if they abuse a man. More simply, their behavior is overlooked, because they are not seen as a threat to society, so they will most likely not be jailed or punished for their behavior. In addition, there are many resources to help women get out of domestic violence situations. For instance, there are hotlines they can call, shelters they can visit, and support
Domestic abuse, also known as domestic violence, can occur between two people in an intimate relationship. The abuser is not always the man; it can also be the woman. Domestic abuse can happen between a woman and a man, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman. Domestic abuse shows no preference. If one partner feels abusive, it does not matter their sexual orientation, eventually the actions they are feeling will come out towards their partner.
Auschwitz marked the first of several concentration camps Wiesel was exposed to that personified darkness and evil. It was on his first night there, he witnessed a furnace pit filled with burning babies. He was shocked and horrified at the inhumanity of Nazis. It was then he realized that he and the other prisoners were not at a labor camp but at a death camp. Dark, black smoke from the burning furnaces filled the air and sky, which made the atmosphere difficult for sunlight to penetrate and there was a permeating odor of burning human flesh. Darkness and gloom hung over the camp like a permanent nighttime. The men and boys were separated by work ability, the strong lived and the weak died. In these death camps, the prisoners were physically beaten and abused, starved and treated as inhuman. The acts of violence and horror we...
There are many different types of domestic violence. Physical abuse is the most obvious form, but this is not to say that outsiders always recognize it. Generally, physical violence causes bodily harm, using a variety of methods. Slapping, pushing, throwing, hitting, punching, and strangling are only a few methods. An object or weapon may or may not be used. There is not always physical evidence of physical abuse such as bruising, bleeding, scratches, bumps, etc., therefore, absence of physical marks does not necessarily mean physical abuse had not occurred. Physical abuse sometimes escalates to murder (Morris and Biehl 7, Haley 14-17).
An occurrence of violence is typically companied with controlling and emotionally abusive behavior which makes up a small amount of the pattern that is part of the dominance and control of the partner inflicting the abuse. Some effects of intimate partner violence include physical injury, trauma psychologically, and even death in extreme cases. The occurrence of domestic violence can go one for someone’s entire life and it can even be passed down to future generations. This happens when the abuse is not reported or dealt with and the children begin to see it on a regular basis making it something that they know as a second nature thing that happens. In occurrences of domestic violence, violence is not equal which means that even if victim their abuser back or initiates more violence to diffuse a situation, the violence is not the same. Whenever abuse occurs there is always one person who is the “primary, constant, source of power, control, and abuse in the relationship” (NCADV,
Domestic violence happens to millions of homes every year. Consequently, the public “saying no” to domestic violence, victims, now less self-conscious to have been victimized, are able to talk about their wrongs, and can summon the help to prosecute their perpetrators, both in criminal and civil stadia.
When Alhabib, Nur, and Jones (2009) studied domestic violence against women their results concluded that domestic violence against women is an epidemic in many societies. It also suggests that there is no racial, ethnic, or socio-economic group excluded from this violence. So who are the victims of domestic violence? A study conducted by Moylan, Herrenkohl, Sousa, Tajima, Herrenkohl, and Russo (2009), found that there are an estimated 3.3 to 10 million children exposed to domestic violence in the home yearly. Their research indicates that many children witness domestic violence and have also experienced child abuse firsthand. In another study by Amy Chanmugan (2011) there were 15.5 million children from ages 0-17 living in a household where a parent is a victim of domestic violence at least once a year. Since there are so many women victimized by domestic violence it leads to millions of children being exposed to domestic violence as well.