I am speaking today on the subject of belief, the defining and the refining of it. We present ourselves by our beliefs, as a shorthand way to bring across who we are. We apply labels like Christian, Conservative, Atheist, or Liberal to ourselves. I find these labels obstructive, By defining each other in these such black or white ways we divide each other and prevent constructive conversation, leading us into unproductive anger which festers inside us and stops the productive channeling of it. We are all guilty of this unproductive anger and we should our best to prevent it. The best way to prevent unproductive anger is to come to an inherent understanding of what it is you believe and how to best channel it into a result you want. You start by encountering every possible belief out there, no matter how outlandish it may seem to you and you think on it. You think on it for however long it may take for you to come to a full understanding of why that someone may believe such things. Then you deliberate with them on those …show more content…
I’m using the term to refer to the mishandling of the passion that comes from one’s beliefs, for our beliefs drive us. I hold that for this productive anger to be effective then must find an outlet for it that produces results, for if you do not channel this anger then it stays inside you and festers dreadfully, which can be shown to actually physically harm you. Now what qualifies as a productive outlet for your own righteous fury is really subjective to you, there are certainly things I find to be unproductive like protesting, but there are those who seem to find that a productive outlet. So while you reflect on your ideas, also think on what it is that you find relief in. This is something I can agree with Ayn Rand on, that is you should never deny yourself that which brings you joy, for if you do nothing for yourself then you are suffer for it and thus fall into
Carol Tavris (1944- ), an American social psychologist and feminist, "sees anger as an instinctual survival response" (1) .she sees that getting angry is a natural habit to all humans as everyone can get angry in any time. Tavris says in her book Anger :the misunderstood emotion "Lonard Bekowitz calls advocates of this view 'vertilationists', because they believe it is unhealthy to bottle up feelings" (43) . (Print)
Physical Aggression This behavior consists of hitting, punching, slapping, pulling hair and pinching. Functions cited as task avoidance, denied access, attention or without clear antecedent. Recently at a graduation party, Alexis was upset that attention was going towards the brother and not her. This resulted in Alexis getting physically frustrated with mom by attempting to hit her. Staff member had to use verbal re-direction such as “Calm hands Alexis” to re-direct her from expressing any further behaviors.
This demonstrates how a person can only take so much abuse before the irritability is too much and they need to lose their temper. To avoid theses outbursts, the people of the community find outlets to cope with irritations and by acting rebelliously.
If anger were a disease, there would be an epidemic in this country. Road Rage, spousal and child abuse, and a lack of civility are just a few examples. Emotionally mature people know how to control their thoughts and behaviors how to resolve conflict. Conflict is an inevitable art of school and work, but it can be resolved in a positive way.
Anger is a signal …. It may be a message that we are being hurt, that our rights are being violated; that our needs or wants are not being adequately met or simply that something is not right ( 1).
...e person feel better at a certain point. The amount of anger a person feels at this stage is inexorable. Doctors, nurses, closed ones and every other person; are victimized by the person’s anger whether or not they are at fault. Even the law of nature is faulty of completing its course. Kubler-Ross and Kessler defined anger as being an anchor and “giving temporary structure to the nothingness of loss.” Anger is meaningful in the light of darkness. Anger encompasses feelings such as love, regret, guilt and hope.
4. Monitor how you are doing in achieving the goal of eliminating your self-defeating behaviors.
...ates its okay to be angry; be angry but learn a different way of expressing the anger; learn to be the one who soothes the anger, not the one that elevates it. Be angry for the right reasons, against the right people, in the right way, at the right time. Yes anger has many sources; but don’t allow yourself to be the source.
This paper has addressed the relevance of anger management intervention among children’s social and emotional outcomes in school settings. It also pointed out the main points covered in the article. As well, how the findings of the anger management can be applied to the identified population.
When you feel that rage burning that is when you have it. With any fire it needs to be controlled. For example and a little story. My greatest hate is my birth mother and her failures. I did not take my anger out on her or stuff like that. Changing someone else takes too much work for the pay off most of the time. I took this rage and pointed it at my self. I get pissed at my own actions if I ever mess up. I never blame others anymore, I only look to myself and ask what I could have done better. Putting the blame on others is a waste of time that will never make your life better. You control your life and your own actions is what sparks your future. If you blame society for your failures you will just become a victim to your own mind.
Acquisitions can be very taxing on both the buyer and the seller during periods of negotiation through development of a binding contract: each wanting different terms and conditions. Neither understands the emotions behind the potential risks involved for both parties.
But don't get angry on anything and everything. When you get angry, choose to let it off, take a few breaths, or countdown to ten, or analyse why you are upset. Realizing that you are caught with anger is the right way to begin to deal with it. All your anger is about something what has happened in the past or will happen in the future and not what is happening in the present moment. So if you can be in the present moment you cannot hold on to anger for long. So be in the present moment to avoid holding on to anger. Physical exercises can relieve your
When we act out of anger, causing another person pain... what happens? Well, most of the time that person not only lashes out in response, but they also pass it on to the next person causing this never-ending domino effect. That is where we have to break the cycle. We need to learn how to act out of love and compassion even though we are suffering and even bigger - we need to recognize when others are suffering by responding to their anger with love. By saying "Hey, what 's wrong? What can I do to help?" or even just a simple "Hey... I understand."
This can either be a positive or negative thing and how you act on it, or do not act, can show how in control and effective you are with your feelings. According to the text, “just because you feel a certain way does not mean you have to act on it” and that “people who act out angry feelings actually feel worse than those who experience anger without lashing out” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Even though acting on your feelings may seem uncontrollable, it is important to deal with them in a different and more productive way. Recognizing how you feel and using the right approach during a constructive conversation is always better than quickly lashing out without completely understanding the situation or how you feel besides angry. Furthermore, “recognizing the difference between feeling and acting can liberate you from the fear that getting in touch with certain emotions will commit you to a course of action” (Adler, Rosenfeld, Proctor II, year?). Understanding your emotions is important so that you will be able to experience feelings that may upset you and still be able to deal with them from a positive standpoint. Once you can separate your feelings from actions you will be able to make more rational