Media has given us a false hope in what love is supposed to be. Companionate love is the real love that we need to have the effect of an everlasting bond with a person. Companionate love has an accepting agent in love, so once a person has accepted the love, and his partner for the person he is, it is more of a love than the affection shared in passionate love. That is all love really is; it is just an acceptance in understanding a person’s connection to another. Works Cited Haidt, Jonathan.
Fromm’s theory is different compared to Freud because Freud saw love and sex as a animal instinct as part of human nature. Fromm sees love as something that humanizes men and women, love is a special characteristic that we as humans use to fill the feelings of being lonely, and it’s a positive outcome of individuals wanting to join with others. As his theory continues Fromm describe characteristics that are different in the qualities of love within the different types of love which are motherly love, Brotherly love, Erotic love, immature love, mature love, self-love, and the love of God. What makes a love of a mother so much different
The fifth type of love is “Mania” or Obsessive love, which a person becomes jealous because they want love and to be loved. This love can lead to many problems in a romantic or interpersonal relationship because of jealousy. Next is “Pragma” or Enduring love, which symbolizes a matured love over time. Furthermore, this relationship has passed physical touches— but developed into a casual, loving relationship. Does not only include marriages, but friendships that have occurred for a long time.
Conditional love is love for the fact that the person tries to push the other person to do their best because they care, but love that is forceful meaning that it has to be earned under conditions is not love. Love is about accepting everything and loving a person for the right reasons. Without love, life is empty and pointless because people need to be loved to feel safe, trusted, understood, wanted, cared, and so on to feel ultimate happiness and therefore love can lead to this because within love there is jealousy, understanding, caring, affection, trustworthiness, honesty, freedom, satisfaction, and etc. Love requires both parties to love each other back in order for it to be balanced so happiness can be lasting.
Time and value play huge roles in these loves. They all contain some aspect of affection, but they are examples of what happens if affection grows. Romance is what happens when affection is reciprocated with sexual intent. Friendship is the product of when affection is reciprocated with the intent on bringing happiness into the relationship. Unconditional love includes affection, but it is mainly the love than cannot be unshaken.
“What is love?” a song written by Haddaway is an excellent example of what society asks themselves. People have always wondered about what love is, more importantly, what it should look like. Though love is commonly defined as a physical, romantic emotion, it may be better defined as a willful decision to allow another to either accept, or deny the offer of love. Both men and women desire an unconditional love, and simply want to be loved. Longing to be loved by another, people have a great desire, there is no question about that, but what kind of love do they desire?
The Power of Love in The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis Through life, people experience many kinds of love. Many people often believe they love someone, when they actually do not because they may not know what the word means. As much as we want to understand love, it is still simply indescribable. As C.S.
Fyodor Dostoevsky wrote in his book, The Brothers Karamazov, “Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared with love in dreams,” (“Love”). This quote shows that love is not as sweet as it seems in real life. In order to love, one needs to be ready to suffer and be able to encounter conflicts and trials. Love is an emotion that most of the time is distinguishable into two types: compassionate and passionate love. Passionate love is an intense feeling of love to another person and is sometimes known as infatuation, lovesickness, romantic love or obsessive love.
Physical attraction “is a feeling of very strong passion toward another person. This is grounded, ultimately, on the biological sex drive and the need to gratify this drive.” (102) For love to exist between two people, it needs more than just physical attraction to each another. There have to be intimacy and commitment. Commitment is characterized by “a conscious decision to maintain a relationship temporarily or for life.” (103) Intimacy is “a feeling of deep attachment, bondedness, closeness and warmth toward another person.” (100) The way that one develops intimacy with another person is influence by one’s attachment styles. There are three different attachment styles: secure, anxious/ambivalent and avoidant.
The exchanges between Giovanni and Beatrice begin as simple lust and no deep emotional understanding and attachment, yet drastically changes to true love and an emotional attachment they have for each other due to the recent communications they have developed. The author’s message about love is that it does not always end in a happy ending and that love comes in many different forms. Giovanni shows interest in Beatrice only for her pure physical assets and body language and starts to truly fall in love with this divine young creature. Giovanni’s feelings for Beatrice at the beginning of the story are vivid and de... ... middle of paper ... ...this far-fetched setting but the overall theme is in real life. Love is a necessity in everyone’s life to feel like a hole and sometimes people get mixed up between love and lust.