Dave Pelzer lived in Dale City, California in the late 1960's until the early 1980's. The timeline of this book is set during theses decades. When he lived things were just becoming desegregated due to the Civil Rights Act in 1965. Also, during this time his life was getting turned around from a perfectly normal to a terrifying by his mother. His mother, whose name in the book is Catherine Roerva, became depressed and an alcoholic. These actions led her to start abusing Dave. Because of the horrible things his mother did, Dave wrote this autobiography to show the world how you can survive and overcome from living an abused life. I was most impressed by David’s strength, determination and bravery to outlast his mother’s beatings throughout the book. For instance, when his mother tried to burn him on the stove, Dave was determined not to let her do this to him. What he decided to do to try and stop her was to keep her …show more content…
Dave’s dad helped him by sneaking him food when he was hungry and calming his mother down in some of her rages. Now that he was gone Dave would have to fend for himself. Dave was alone, but being the only one on his side helped him up his game in the never ending struggle against his mother. Finally, not only did the emotional things impact Dave’s life so did the physical things. The most significant was the time his mother stabbed him on “accident.” During a fight after dinner one night, Dave’s mother was yelling at him while holding a carving knife in her hand. While yelling she lost her balance, pushing the knife into Dave’s stomach. In shock of what she'd done, she quickly wrapped up his wound and sent him off to his army cot in the basement. This incident helped teach Dave not only pain tolerance but that his mother was completely out her mind. Dave used his pain to propel him forward. His pain and endless suffering became a major key to defeating his mother in the
The greatest conflict in the book was Man vs. Man for David, because he had to face his childhood of when his sister June had died due to down syndrome. This internal conflict led to the guilt he experienced when dealing with the secret of giving his daughter Phoebe away and lying to Norah(his wife) that Phoebe had died at birth. Norah and the family later realised Phoebe was alive but in that time frame before that the family was falling apart.
The resolution in the story becomes apparent once Dave realizes that he can communicate with his daughter if he just lets her be
and Dave did not know how to deal with it. He did not know whether she was
Responsibility is a huge characteristic for an adult, and he was handling his responsibilities by working for Mr. Hawkins. Once David has the gun, he become very irresponsible by lying to his mother and shoot Mr. Hawkins 's mule. The death of the mule limits Dave, because now he has to work to pay off the mule. At the end of the short story Dave jumps on a train and leaves the country town and leaves his responsibilities behind. Dave seems to be moving backwards instead of forward with becoming a man because a man would handle his responsibilities instead of running away from them so that is where the title comes in. Dave was almost a man because he was working and handling responsibilities, but after he purchases the gun he kills the mule he has to work to pay for it and instead he runs away. He was becoming a man but he ran away and now is only a boy. Since he ran away from his responsibilities by jumping on the train, he will now have to grow up a lot faster than he expected. The title expressed how the only thing or person that was preventing Dave from becoming an actually man was himself. He lacks a lot of maturity in this story so it results in bad judgement and many poor choices, which shows that Dave has a lot to learn on his own
At first, David cares that his mother treats him badly. After awhile, he doesn’t care and becomes apathetic.
At a young age Dave had to learn how to play games with his mother as a sort of survival tactic to stay alive in his household.
ending where he decides to leave his house when everyone is asleep. Dave is also mad how everyone is treating him, and how all he ever gets do is work all the time and has never been given anything in his life. Dave is even mad at his family, especially his mother for ratting him out. He did not want to sell the gun and give the money to Mr. Hawkins as his father instructed him to do. He wanted to keep the gun because he wanted to ow...
David finds himself in many ways a main way being through love for family, especially after everything they have been through together. David's lives with his his dad and sister Jessica. His mother is in hospital with depression and his other sister JJ died at birth. His family is a bit crazy but they all love each other. He show his love for his dad when
...een good therapy in working out problems, to have started writing in the first place must have been a challenge. I would have liked to have known when Dave started dealing with his past to better his future. I also would like to know how the experiences he had with children when he was a child translated into adult relationships. I'm sure that it wasn't a sudden change, but it would be interesting to know what he did to confront his past, and how that translated into writing books about it.
Dave was emotionally and physically abused by his mother, and he was scarred by her hatred. The Joseph’s started out as a perfect “Brady Bunch” family, but one day Dave’s mother started to take out her anger all on him. Dave Pelzer explains that he never understood why “All I could think of was “Why?” she treated me the way she did.” (pg 106). This
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is a fight just to survive for the next day . As a child David is taught a very harsh way of
When his parents divorced, his father was the one to move out of the house. When Jeff was 18, Joyce took David and left. Jeffrey was alone in the house with little food and a broken refrigerator until his father and his new wife found out about the situation and moved into the house.
...’t maybe he wants to find out the murderer and kill him? If people think he is the murderer is he going to be grievance? The emotion is just unpredictable and fascinating. But in the movie, Dave act like he is afraid of Jim and he is guilty when he sees him cry. This action strongly suggested he is the murderer. When we know that he is not the murderer of Katie, this scene seems gratuitous. Is he just afraid that Jim might suspect him?
The story begins with Dave telling the reader a little about himself and his old job as a bouncer at a nightclub. He appears to be your average 40-year-old; he talks about providing for his family, playing with his kids, drinking with his buddies, and watching Fraiser. However, throughout the story, the reader gets a more and more in depth look into the mind of Dave.