When I was given this assignment, I didn't know who to chose. For pretty much all of my life, my personality and interests have fallen into place of me doing things and making decision on my own, so I decided to look further. As I grew older, I noticed how much my dad cared for our family and how he constantly tries his best, and I appreciated that. It feels like I’m only starting to get to know my dad recently, and that’s gone pretty well so far.
I wanted to talk with my dad, so we went into my room and closed the door for privacy. We sat on the bed, like how we normally do without any distraction, and started asking him my first question. I didn't know he was so young when him and his parents moved from Mexico to the United States, so I
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asked, “how and why does family affect your life?” With such a broad question, I wasn't expecting such an expressive answer even though my dad is known for doing that. “Well, when I first met my wife, your mom, it gave me a reason to live. You need to be alive to love, and you need to love to be alive. My life was first affected by falling in love with her, and nature give you a family, which now gives you a reason to further live and better yourself. Taking care of yourself is to take care of your kids.
It's like a yin and yang… But without the negatives. Family is all positive. I'm answering these questions like this because it's a long, philosophical answer.” There was a pause for a moment, and I wasn't sure if I …show more content…
should ask my next question, but then he goes, “I'm not saying you need children to be successful. People can be successful without kids, but it's like watching the same movie over and over again. A good movie, but if you add characters or twists to it, like children, it's different every time you watch it.” I took in my father’s response, especially because my brother and I are always saying how and why we don't want kids, but what he said made sense. After another question on how he made life long choices and how they have affected his life, and him telling me that decisions for becoming an electronic technician can by him knowing that the other jobs wouldn't support him financially and how it has given his children a chance to go to Saint Mary’s. He says he’s “fairly lucky” that he hasn't really had anything to look back on and think of it as negative. My next question I didn't have planned out, but it's one that I've always wanted to ask.
“Growing up, our relationship wasn't the best,” I told him. “It wasn't super bad or anything, but we didn't spend as much time together as we do now. How did that change?” He then focused on the ceiling, trying to this of his answer when he says, “I think I've read this before I said this, but… A parent’s relationship with the child goes through many stages. First, you are the protector and provider, which then the child sees you as such and treats you as such. Then, as the child starts to create their own personality, the father, in my case, becomes the enforcer. Don't run in the street, don't do dangerous things, for example. The child sees it as fun., but the parents see the negative part of the child running too free without rules and regulations. In that stage in life, the child and the parent almost become enemies. Hating them for not letting them do things, and having their heart be pulled out from the memories of them being a bab. But the third stage is the child seeing the emotional hardship the parents has gone through to protect the child, and sees the difficulty, which then comes the appreciation from the child, and they see the other side of parenthood. So the just of it is, it's love, love, love, and then the word “don't” comes in. I tried to stay away from the words “no” and “don't,” but instead telling you the consequences of what could happen. Not “don't eat the candy,”
but instead, “you will get sick if you eat too much candy.” I now understand how much my family means to my dad, and how much they mean to me. Without my dad, we wouldn't have gone through our misunderstandings that led to grown, and mistakes that led to knowledge. I'm thankful that I got to, and will continue to, learn from and with my dad.
Everyone has a certain amount of time to live on this earth, so why not spend every moment possible on good terms with loved ones. To get a perfect example of this, look towards Alfred Lubrano “Bricklayer’s boy” and Carmen Agra Deedy’s speech “once upon a time, my mother…”. In which they both tell a story of a bond between a parent and a child despite their clashing personalities. In correlation the two stories teach a lesson that appreciate the relationship between a parent and child while it’s still possible.
Parents do not want to disappoint their children, so instead of saying “no” they say “of course honey”. These children grow up unaware of the concept that they can and will be denied something in their future. When the time comes they don’t know how to take it because they lived their whole life getting everything they wanted. Children also grow up without the understanding of how to properly process pain and discomfort. Gottlieb interviewed a teacher and she said that if a child fell on the playground, adults had to rush over to aid the child before he or she had enough time to process what happened. The teacher did not point this out because she thought that parents should ignore their children, instead they should let their children process what happened and how to deal with it independently. When parents make a huge scene, their children think something serious has happened and panic. Gottlieb believes parents should give their children room to deal with a situation without intervening until it is
As a father of five children, you would think of having the parenting “thing” down packed, but raising children doesn’t get easier, you will just become more advanced into raising the child you have. That being said, Bill Cosby mentions “in spite of all the love, joy, and gratification that children bring, they do cause a certain amount of stress that takes a toll on parents.” Meaning even though children are all fun and games, sooner or later those games come to a halt and now the parents has to become strict, but yet compromising to help the child grow and develop and also try to set a straight and narrow path for their child to follow in life. He feels as a father ...
When Ezra was eight years old, he had a psychologist report done that asked a set of questions not only to him but also to myself about my parenting style. I scored high in the top 15 percentiles in not only warmth and affection but also discipline and control. Being high in all four aspects of parenting styles puts me into the authoritative style (Bee & Boyd, 2012). In The Developing Child, the authors describe the parents with this parenting style as those that are “setting clear limits, expecting and reinforcing socially mature behavior, and at the same time responding to the child’s individual needs (Bee & Boyd, 2012, p. 326).” As I reflect on certain situations, I can tell that this style guided my parenting. For example, when Ezra was 6 he frequently cheated at games if he knew he could get away with it. My response, with accordance to my authoritative parenting style, was to beginning teaching him right and wrong, not getting upset, but to bring up the cheating and tell him to play by the rules despite him not having a “strong sense of mortality (Manis, 2008).” I decided to use that option because I wanted Ezra to learn from the experience but continue to play the game and have
Radelet & Borg address the most common arguments for and against the death penalty, and how views on capital punishment have changed over time in respect to six specific areas: deterrence, incapacitation, caprice and bias, cost, innocence, and retribution.
Parents, no matter their profession, are eternally in the business of raising their children. From their earliest ages, kids are told who they can play with, what they can eat, where they can go, and even when they have to go to bed. But is there a point where parents go too far? In other words, is there a time when in raising a child, a parent interjects in a child’s life so much that those actions become detrimental to the child’s development? This is the physical moral dilemma that comes out of the Ashley Treatment.
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In writing about an important person in my life, there are a number of people that I could discuss. But, I feel that the person who is very special to me and one who has been the most influential, is my dad.
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This essay addresses seeks to evaluates diverse parenting approach by a parent-child observation. From observing developmentally appropriate and inappropriate interactions with the parent and child, I will learn how parents teach, guide, and influence their children. First, I will briefly describe basic Information of the child and parent that I have observed. Next I will discuss the parent experience with transitioning to Parenthood. Throughout the essay, I will be discussing the parenting goals and beliefs, parenting challenges and reflecting on parenting from the parent perspectives. Lastly, I will discussing my observation from the parent and child interactions.
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