Growing up in the flesh makes it humanly normal to want the love and affection from your parents. But if it is not received, that is how a person may grow up to be an attention seeker. Jennifer Magid found out that there is evidence that parents who are too attuned to their own emotions and not enough to their kids tend to produce children who are insecurely attached. (Magid, 45) Marya Hornbacher stated “My mother has spent her whole life trying to please her father, and I, in turn, have spent my life trying to please my mother. It became obvious to me that trying to get approval was an exhausting fruitless exercise.”(98) She also stated “I was flattered, And God help me I was proud.
There are three things that make a good leader. Qualities such as honesty, confidence, and ability to delegate. A leader must be honest to their followers because they look up to them and if they feel as if the leader can not be trusted then they might abandon the leader. A leader must also be confident in their own work. If they are unable to stand their own ground then it will be easy for someone to uproot him and make them fall.
She was an irresponsible mother who didn’t let her children to make their own choices in their lives. The best way to describe Amanda is Domineering, to summarize it all up, Amanda Wingfeild was not such a good mother, expecting to much. Not just accepting her children for who they were and loving them for being all they could be.
This lifestyle was nothing like what she was accustomed to and having her family far away was difficult, especially when they were thinking that she was living her dream life in America. “Send pictures of your new life”. What pictures can I send?” (Lahini 125). Mrs. Sen had nothing exciting in her life, she was always restricted and had the same repetitive schedule every day, yet she kept this frustration all to herself. She is the classic example of someone who rarely speaks her mind, afraid to be a bother to anyone, until she tells Eliot “Tell me, Elliot.
Her Auntie Doll was her only possible female role model in her life, but Hagar did not have much appreciation or respect for her. It seemed as though she was moving in on her mother's territory. Without a mother figure in her developing years, Hagar had to learn things for herself when it was not appropriate to talk about something with her father; this caused her to make more mistakes along the way. She holds a strong resentment towards other women, especially her mother. Hagar believes her mother was weak for dying during childbirth, in reality it was a situation entirely out of anyone's control.
“They lived in a pleasant house, with a garden, and they had discreet servants, and felt themselves superior to anyone in the neighborhood. (100)” Despite their imaginary success, there was always an anxious feeling in the house because they never had enough money. “The father…had good prospects, these prospects never materialized (100).” The mother wanted to make money of her own, but “she racked her brains, and tried this thing and the other, but could not find anything successful. (101)” The cost of their greed, in this case, is the heart of the family. Because they cannot control their urge to spend, they lose control of what should be most precious: their children.
Doris also grew up alone and isolated. All of the people she allowed into her life did not love her for her, which she found out sooner or later, but later much more often than sooner. Doris is portrayed as a lonely loving woman, who would do almost anything for anyone if she offered before she was asked.
While Hester is going through a hard time in her life, where she could not feel compassion for anyone who she once loved deeply, she is not able to deceive Paul as he suspects that there is something the matter with her. “Everybody else said of her: ‘She is such a good mother. She adores her children.’ Only she herself, and her children themselves, knew it was not so. They read it in each other 's eyes”(Lawrence 379). Although Hester is able to fool her peers, Paul knows that she does not have the emotional connection with him that others seem to see.
I also think she lacked support from her mother, because her mother knew she wasn’t doing that well but didn’t do o much to help. She continued to let her go to parties and hang out with her boyfriend whenever she wanted. Whether big or small, everybody faces some kind of adversity in their life. Through these examples we can see that what you do with the cards you’re dealt is what truly defines who you are. The reason why some people go beyond their personal limitations is because they have a great amount of self motivation and or support.
We should treat each other as we would want to be treated. This sounds like an easy task, but sometimes it is hard to think of others when we are so focused on our own needs. That is why I believe that empathy is extremely important for a successful society and for a successful individual. In my philosophy of life love is extremely important. If we can tap into the positive energy of love, life itself will be more positive.