Learning the Art of Letting Go
There is no certainty in relationships. When you enter into one, the person you choose to love could give you untold happiness and joy that knows no bounds. But whether you like it or not, that same person who made you smitten could also cause you to feel pain, make you shed tears and cause you to bear a poignant sorrow as you traverse through emotional pursuits. When the relationship you thought would last forever turned sour, ended up and didn't work out the way you wanted it to be, how should you face it?
Indeed, going through a painful break-up is not as easy as it may sound. The feeling of being dumped, betrayed and brokenhearted could shut down your emotions. It may even magnify your fears and cause you to swear not falling in love again. Worst is, it will make you generalize and label person of the opposite gender to be all worthless your time and attention. Are you that person who is still stuck with the remnants of the past? Do you see yourself a captive who is constantly reminded of the memories you once have shared? Do you find yourself...
The lovers finally get what they want and teach one a good lesson about love. Although love has many obstacles, if you stay true in your love, have a bit of magic on your side, and keep persistent, love will overcome any obstacle.
It started with the call. The news that she had gone away. Finding myself in tears. Tears draining me dry. Would the tears ever stop? Pain like a thick metal pole shoved through your heart.
Love is a very ambitious situation, if you are not careful, it can make you do ridiculous things. As much as it is beautiful, it is also dangerous. At times you have to be attentive and be sure that the person is feeling the same as you do. Someone once told me that people fall in love with the most unexpected person at the most unexpected time. In the two movies The Land of Blood and Honey and The Lives of Others, there was unexpected romance that arose from both films and it all happened at the wrong time. The obstacles these relationships face were due to promises. The promises weren’t about making changes; they were about not facing them alone. Nevertheless, where there is love, there is also betrayal.
Women often tend to have the mindset that we can change a man, make a man love us, and futher more not cheat. Im here to emphasize just how unture this statement is and how to heal. In order to get over a bad breakup we must first leave the wound uncovered.
Just because your mind is trying to sell it to you doesn 't mean you have to buy it.
“Art therapy is a form of therapy in making of visual images (paintings, drawings, models etc.) in the presences of a qualified art therapist contributes towards externalization of thoughts and feelings which may otherwise remain unexpressed”(Walter & Gilory, 1992).
When I was a freshman in high school I found my first love. My first love and I were in an off- again/on-again relationship for nearly four years. I was so overwhelmed with the attention and so-called love that I did not understand that my honesty and vulnerability was going to be taken advantage of significantly. He would be extremely loving one day and then the next he would be condescending and negative. When I would open up and tell him how I was feeling or why I was upset he would dismiss my feelings or make me feel insecure for even speaking my mind. It took me nearly four years to realize that I should not be defined as someone who should not express what I was feeling just because of an unhealthy relationship. My vulnerability took a tremendous blow and was almost non-existent by the time I was going into my senior year because I was filled with so much shame and hurt. My friendships and perspective relationships began to disintegrate because I fell into the myth of believing that vulnerability could be overcome alone. Over the span of a few months I began to open up again and I ended up finding my second love. We had the most perfect relationship at the very beginning so I began exposing my vulnerability, later I found that this was one of the biggest mistakes I had ever made. Similar to my ex, he began taking advantage of my vulnerability and used it against me to belittle
My boyfriend and I were so happy; we were such a “perfect couple.” He was truly a great guy, and I ,a well rounded character. I thought I knew him but fate would prove me wrong. He once told me that we would make it through anything, but I knew this was different he had dreams, and so much potential, this would surely detour him from his goals in life. My partner knew as well as I did that me getting pregnant was an accident but in the end he did not hesitate walking out on me, and there my chaos began.
Purpose: The purpose of this session was to set a framework for group members to realize that there are different stages of grieving and that the process can be complicated. Furthermore, during the session, it is hoped that they will also come to recognize that no two persons share the same path when grieving. However, there is still a common experience that some people share, which is the loss which can lead to feelings of low self-esteem. ‘This will be done through Impact therapy where they will be encouraged to be active, thinking, seeing and experiencing during the session activities’ (Jacobs Ed, Schimmel J. Christine 2013). Theme:
In relationships, sometimes you have to pass through a lot of broken roads before you eventually meet the proverbial “The One.” Well, that statement is true for most people. Relationships are complicated in nature and for a good reason.
...r love. When you love you are your most vulnerable to hurt. Sharing your love is the most risky thing you will ever do. It can either be the most rewarding effort or it can be the most devastating effort. If you invest yourself in someone, and give them your very best, and they respond positively to your love, you will experience great satisfaction. If, however, you invest in someone, and give them your very best, and they do not respond positively, or they do not respond at all, or they respond negatively, it is likely to be one of the most painful experiences of your life. People who have failed at love often vow to never loving again. To the person who has been hurt, love is perceived as the source of their great pain. Rejection is one aspect that nobody wants to live with.
Love in itself is a chance you need to be willing to take. There is no love without risk and even worse than risk, there is no love without loss. Everything in life is a risk, but risking to open yourself up and fully give yourself to someone can be the hardest of them all. It is courageous to love because falling in love can be hard. Relationships have the potential to either end well, or end horrifically, but the thing is, that’s the risk you have to be willing to take. The reason relationships are so complicated is because of the people in them. People make them challenging and complex. Who can tell you before a relationship starts if you are gonna be toxic, or gonna be part of something very special. The risk everybody takes on a daily basis with love, is a risk that can have a very giant reward, a big ring and a wedding. Some people are afraid to fall in love because they fear heartbreak, and I could say i’m that person. When I am in a relationship, I put in everything I have. I value all of the relationships I am apart of and I strive to make them better everyday. But sometimes I just need to face the world and realize that at some point, most of the relationships I have today will fail because people make mistakes. Heartbreak is inevitable, and that is okay. I will be okay. Heartbreak has a way of reminding us that we are in love, and that we do know how to love. The desire people have to make things last will force you to giving love another try. When you set all your reservations and fears aside, you will allow yourself to love and prosper in a relationship. Heartbreak in a relationship doesn’t just occur when you and your significant other break up, you feel heartbreak when someone you love passes away, you lose a friend you thought you would have forever and for many other reasons. Although heartbreak does suck, it is a part of the excitement of life. In relationships you are never supposed to know how
Forgiveness, however you see it, from spiritual to psychological, it is surely a process. But what is forgiveness and how can one achieve it? There are many blogs, books, and scriptures to show how forgiveness is a necessary step into growing as a person. Dr. Wayne W. Dryer, Zack Carter, Michelle Rad, and Diana Gruver all have research points or have previous experience within forgiveness to give advice and to help understand it, along with how to forgive. This research will point out main topics and/or steps on the spiritual aspect and psychological understanding to forgive and how it progresses for one’s self.
Love knows no bound. There is always hope and anything wrong can be corrected if and only if there is true love between the two. There is always a second chance and anyone can improve and change for the better. Couples can overcome the trials in a relationship that comes along the way through love and trust, faith to God, and willingness for God’s guidance.
Acceptance: You start accepting the situation for what it is. This helps you to let go! And began to think about your next steps.