From their first time he lays his eyes on Sam, Charlie was already developing feelings for her as he writes about their first meeting saying "Sam had a very nice smile…. Incidentally, Sam has brown hair and very very pretty green eyes. The kind of green that doesn't make a big deal about itself”(21-22). They are good friends to Charlie and they even recognizes the way he is living his life, through observing. "He's a wallflower.” (49) Says Patrick to their group of friends describing him as a wallflower -shy person who no one really knows but often some of the most interesting people when talking to them- which explains the title of the novel. Patrick continues explaining why is he describing him by that term saying "You see things. You keep …show more content…
If the adolescent passed this stage they would reach fidelity which is the individual having the ability to accept themselves and others no matter how different they are.
Charlie proving Erikson’s ideas, here as he talks about his appearance :
I think it was the first time in my life I ever felt like I looked “good”. Do you know what I mean? That nice feeling when you look in the mirror, and your hair’s right for the first time in your life? I don’t think we should base so much on weight, muscles, and a good hair day, but when it happens, it’s nice. It really is. (Chbosky 79).
Also Research shows that even friends can affect the person’s psychological development for teenagers, good friends can be like a personal support group giving them a sense of belonging, a feeling of being valued and help with developing
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Experiencing the world or participating in it might not be the best idea for Charlie. He starts to see the world around him more clearly and how is it really like to live outside the box. When someone thinks too much it might lead them to be more aware of the violence or injustice in the world around them. Which may come as a shock to them and it may also reflect badly on them because they would not be able to stop themselves from thinking about it as Charlie describes
We are introduced to adolescence in the 5th stage of development. Adolescence begins for boys around the age of 14 and continues up until the age of 21 years of age. At this stage of development, there are many changes that occur emotionally, physically, sexually and spiritually (McGoldrick, Carter, & Garcia Preto, 2011). At this time, adolescent kids are going through changes in their body. They are dealing with coming into their own sexuality. Skills pertaining to social skills and social relationships are being developed through experience. Adolescents are also increasing their skills of physical and mental coordination, such as learning about the world and working on their own coordination. Adolescence is also characterized by learning their own identity and where they fit in the world, as well as learning their relationship with peers and those around them. Spiritual identity is also developed along with a deeper understanding of life. Independence is something that is also weighing on the mind of an adolescent. Overall changes in the family structure can also occur when a child of this age reaches this
Friendships are vital in helping children develop emotionally and socially. They provide a training ground for trying out different ways of relating to others. Through interacting with friends, children learn the give and take of social behavior in general. They learn how to set up rules, how to weigh alternatives and make decisions when faced with dilemmas. They experience fear, anger, aggression and rejection. They learn how to win, how to lose, what's appropriate, what's not. They learn about social standing and power - who's in, who's out, how to lead and how to follow, what's fair and what's not. They learn that different people and different situations call for different behaviors and they come to understand the viewpoints of other people.
Therefore, Even though Charlie becomes mentally retarded by the end, he becomes a more complete person. Charlie undergoes a lot of changes during his journey. He matures which contributes to his intelligence growth, learns significant life lesson, and realizes that he is better of being mentally retarded rather than a genius. Charlie does not realize the fact that after becoming a genius, he is as far away from his goal of being normal and fitting in as he is being mentally retarded.
... reader. Throughout the book, Charlie unfolds secrets and truths about the world and the society that he lives in; secrets and truths that cause him to grow up and transition into adulthood. He also makes a life changing decision and rebelled against was he thought was the right thing. This reflects his maturity and bravery throughout the journey he travels that summer. Charlie eyes suddenly become open to the injustice that the town of Corrigan demonstrates. He also comes to face the issue of racism; not only shown towards his best friend Jeffrey and the Lu family but to Jasper Jones as well. He realises the town of Corrigan is unwilling to accept outsiders. Charlie not only finds out things that summer about the people that surround him, but he also finds out who he is personally.
I see Charlie attempting desperately to act out of character. Adept at business he has shown ability, humility and perseverance. However, he seems to be out of touch with the manifested feelings of others his path has crossed.
Charles is actually Laurie which means that Laurie is arrogant because he talks about himself a lot. Every day, Laurie comes home and tells his parents about the day’s events, the topic that always comes up is Charles. The way Laurie talks about Charles makes him sound like he is someone who makes a great friend or that he is actually popular among other school children but his parents think that Charles is made up of “toughness and bad grammar” (1). Laurie talks about Charles to the point that it has become a “routine” (2). When children talk about someone very much, it usually means they either admire that person or the complete opposite like a child would go on and on about a superhero. The language he uses to describe Charles to his parents also suggests that he thinks Charles is not a bad influence. He mentions to his mother that even though Charles gets into trouble and the teacher warns the class not to play with him, everybody still does. Laurie makes it sound as if everybody thinks Charles is likable enough for everybody else t...
The inability to conform in society can lead to unhappiness and the feeling of inequality
He was so closed off from the rest of the world and he felt isolated and alone. The family participated in religious services a few times during the movie, and even Charlie took communion. He was no stranger to the world of spirituality. Even though he participated in religious ceremonies with his family, when he met his friends he finally realized the meaning and purpose of his life. Eventually, Charlie started to participate in life and not just watch others live. As a result, he was released from the shell that kept him trapped inside. At this point, it was clear to Charlie that there was something more to him. He was alive. This becomes clear in the tunnel scene at the end of the movie when he states, “I can see it. This one moment when you know you’re not a sad story. You are alive, and you stand up and see the lights on the buildings and everything that makes you wonder. And you’re listening to that song and that drive with people you love most in this world. And in this moment I swear, we are
In Perks Of Being A Wallflower, Charlie ends up in the hospital after his depression hits him harder than it has before, especially with his best friend and crush, Sam, leaving for college. ¨I´ve been in the hospital for the past two months. They just released me yesterday. The doctor told me that my mother and father found me sitting on the couch in the family room. I was completely naked, just watching the television, which wasn´t on.
Although Charlie also suffers from suicidal thoughts, he also displays positive coping methods, like expressing himself in letters to his anonymous new friend. Furthermore, Charlie also acquires defense mechanisms like repression, as previously mentioned, and is expressed in his refusal to consciously remember the threatening or conflicting situation of being raped by his aunt. Another defense mechanism that we see Charlie expressing in The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012) is rationalization. Rationalization occurs when individuals being to make up excuses for unacceptable behavior, such as being raped. In various scenes of the movie we hear Charlie rationalizing his aunt’s behavior and her death, since she was, as he claims, his “favorite aunt” (Chbosky, 2012). It is clear that Charlie still cares for his aunt and even takes on some of the blame for her by saying things like “my Aunt Helen would still be alive today if she just bought me one present like everyone else”, or saying “she would be if I were born on a day that it didn’t snow”, in reference to his aunt’s death (Chbosky,
The fifth stage, according to Erik Erikson psychoanalytic theory of development is the Identity Vs Identity confusion. The stage occurs during adolescence in the ages between 12 to 18 years. At this stage, the adolescents try to find a sense of personal and self-identity by intensely exploring their personal goals, beliefs, and values (McLeod, 2017). Notably, the adolescence is between childhood and adulthood. Thus, their mind is between the morality learned during childhood and the ethics they are trying to develop into adulthood. The transitioning from childhood to adulthood is the most important development for a person because the individual is becoming independent and is focusing on the future regarding career, relationships, families
This stage of the psychosexual development allowed the child's sexual desires and conflict to repress. The child's ego was relatively free from the interference by the id impulsive but at the same time still need to be managed for they were still growing. They tended to control these desires through extracurricular and socially acceptable activities such as school, sports, arts, and technological distractions; and there was to be no penalty for fixation at this stage.
Because of the parties he attends with his new friends he has tried using some drugs. These new friends help Charlie see things with a positive perspective, and to be confident in himself. When his friends move away, Charlie experience isolation and has a mental crisis that leads him to be internalized in a clinic.
Influence plays a major role in their overall development. Promoting social and emotional skills and intervening in cases of difficulty very early in life will be effective for promoting positive experiences among children. Peers play important roles in children’s lives at much earlier points in development. Experiences in the beginning of life have implications for children’s acceptance by their classmates in nursery school and the later school years. When I was in the fourth grade a really wanted to be accepted by people around me. I would switch my friends a lot looking for people’s approval. For example, if I was friends with a girl on Tuesday but I heard someone say she was weird I would abandon the friendship in order to gain peer approval. Early friendships and positive relations with peer groups appear to protect children against later psychological
During this stage adolescents develop a better understanding of self and belonging or they face identity crisis and role confusion. During this stage in my life I felt that I was rebelling and doing things that were not age appropriate. I did not respect authority and thought it was ok to do what I wanted to do. Even though I was a young teenager I did not think of myself that way. I thought of myself more like an adult. Through my negative experiences in this stage I suffered identity crisis and role