As Lilo said in Lilo & Stitch, “‘Ohana’ means ‘family’. ‘Family’ means ‘no one gets left behind’.” Lily Owens and Ellen Foster have both lost their mothers and deal with abuse every day, whether it’s physical or verbal. This makes the characters strong, but even when this causes strength, they are scared to act against their father. They both ran away when they were in their preteens or a little younger and have a fiery personality. They face not wanting to stay in what should be home to them or even not wanting to get up in the morning. In the end of the stories told about them though, they make it to a place that they can and will call home freely and not out of terror. Lily Owens and Ellen Foster are both independent because they run away from the family that they have left. The main difference between Lily and Ellen is that Lily has someone that she could count on to run away with, but Ellen doesn’t have anyone to count on that supports her. …show more content…
The abuse for Lily and Ellen was different like when T. Ray made Lily kneel on grits while Ellen’s daddy slapped her across the face. Two quotes that shows more of their abuse are “‘Go ahead, try and hit me!’ I yelled. When he swung, I turned my face.” and “My daddy slapped my face for eating dirt.” A loss for both of them was the death of their mothers. Their mothers were the only people, until Lily got Rosaleen as a motherly figure, that understood them and could help them through the abuse. Lily’s mother died when Lily was four, and Ellen’s mother died when Ellen was eleven. What they faced and how they responded to it may cause them to be similar, but they also have many
T-Ray character is harsh and cruel after Lily's mother died. Without a mother Lily does not have any support exept Rosaleen who "wants" to protect her but doesn't want to get beaten by T-Ray. When Lily's mother was around, T-Ray's character might have been nicer to lily than before. But he still had attiude with Lily before the aciddent. "Get into your god damn room!". This quote shows that T-Ray's charcter still had some attuide towards Lily. When Lily's mother died, T-Ray had more power to punish Lily with harder conditions. "T-Ray never believed in slumpber parties or the junoir varisty cheerleading." This illustrates how Lily's mother could of changed her life even thoughout the misery of T-Ray. T-Ray's character now is selfish and does
In the beginning of the novel, as the reader is first introduced to Lily’s character, she comes across as an extremely negative young girl. While thinking about
In Chapter 13, Lily learns that her mother indeed ran away from the both of them to August’s home and she’s given proof of this because she’s given some things that were in her possession. Lily becomes angry because most of her life she has had to live with the guilt of killing her own mother. She becomes hopeless, and it shows when she says “I drew into myself and stayed there for a while… I spent most of my time down by the river, alone. I just wanted to keep to myself” ( Kidd 277 ). Lily contemplates whether she should forgive her mother for leaving, whether her mother even loved her in the first place. She calls herself “the girl abandoned by her mother… the girl who kneeled on grits” ( Kidd 278 ). These events cause her to finally let go of her mother and live her life without guilt taking
Towards the beginning of the story, Lily feels conflicted and guilty. She doesn’t have much going for
One illustration is the point at which her Mother died, T-Ray wound up plainly emotionless and extremely intense. This influences Lily in a way because now she now gets verbally and physically abused by her dad a considerable measure. This affects her feelings towards her dad as a result of being defeated and not able to stand up to him. Another way that Deborah leaving has influenced Lily is presently she does not get a ton of empathy and love in life. For instance, when her dad turns out to be exceptionally disillusioned in her or distraught at her, he chooses to rebuff her. As their Housemaid Rosaleen finds her kneeling in the grits, Kidd says, “How long did he keep you on those grits? I shrugged. Maybe an hour” (25). Lily has been kneeling on grits since she was six which was just a couple of years after her mother just had passed on, you are able to see that it has taken an emotional and physical toll on Lilly and her Father T-Ray because he takes his anger on her being gone out on Lily. Taking everything into account, as Deborah fled from home and passed away it took a major emotional and physical toll on Lily and her
If little things like going outside of your house could make him mad enough to hurt you, imagine how mad her father could be towards terrible insults made toward him. I know she was mad but Lily, like what many children do, didn’t think how people could react to their actions. This action actually did backfire on Lily because when she tried to call her father about how he reacted to her running away, T-Ray was furious. He yelled at Lily a lot and even insulted how dumb she was for leaving. Another moment in the story that proves the biggest mistake is that children do too much without thinking was when Lily Owens left to a city she barely even knows about. As said at the beginning, Lily left his father because of his bad treatment.To fulfill her hope of knowing more about her mother, Lily went to a city called Tiburon, in South Carolina. Lily’s reasoning for going to this city was that a picture that was owned by her mother had that the name of that city on the back of it. Before this, Lily had never gone to the city or knew what it looked like. So when Lily and her housekeeper, Rosaleen, going through an unknown city made Lily confused about where the two would go
...gh daughter because of her wealth. Lily is aware that marrying for money and social staus will not bring her happiness, but chooses a socially uplisfting life instead of her own happiness. Later in the novel we find out that Gryce marries another woman . This shows the importance of money and social status, and also, how powerful the elite circle, that lily will do anything to be apart of, is. From the previous events, one can deduce that you can never rely on man to bring you to power. The New York circle is so exclusive and elite that you can never be sure of your position, you must constantly plan, plot, and climb your way to the top, and once there you must fight to keep your position. This is the life the Lily Bart wants to badly, in Old New York money, social status, and how other perieve you was the most important things to these woman.
Anyways, Lily has also risked everything to get to Rosaleen as well. For instance, while she was in the hospital, Lily got to Rosaleen by lying her way through every security guard. The fact that Lily ran away with Rosaleen shows that she loves her and that she doesn’t want to live without her. Another
In the essay "Overcoming Abuse - My Story", Shawna Platt talks about her childhood with her alcoholic parents and her struggles. She has experienced neglect, domestic, emotional and sexual abuse. She also talks about how she overcame all the abuse, the way the abuse effected her mental health, and how she broke the cycle with her children.
August was correct when she said that Lily must be her own mother. Lily will not always have someone to care for her. If this happens she must learn to care for herself. Lily was also relying too much on the statue of Mary. When the statue of Mary was chained up Lily could not go to her for help.
Children often learn by observing others and normally while growing up, they all have someone that they look up to. They are normally seen to be innocent at a young age when they do not know any better. But there are many of cases in which children do not have the luxury of being with people that love them and treat them right. In most cases, children get abused and neglected by their parents and/or guardians, urging for Child protective services to step in and save the child. Child maltreatment includes child abuse and child neglect and is a major problem in the United States. The National Bureau of Economic Research states that “Over a million children are victims of maltreatment annually” (Currie & Tekin 2006). Child maltreatment could lead a child down a path of delinquency and more should be done to stop this from happening, and providing better opportunities for children that
The main characters, the grandmother and Mrs. Loisel are indeed very similar, both characters reject the idea to admitting to a mistake they had created. Both women have the same motivation Before their misfortune. The fact that they both were being selfish, is what cause them to
Helen’s early life was very much shaped by her loss and abandonment. The greatest loss Helen experienced was the death of her parents. As she was orphaned by the age of six, it left her with great grief, darkened childhood memories and bewilderment of where she truly belonged. She eventually found her position as a labourer in her uncle’s house. After working on her uncle’s farm for two years and being denied an opportunity for education, she faced the most significant abandonment in her life: being turned
There are two types of abuse. Google’s definitions of abuse is the cruel, violent treatment of someone or something, or the improper use of something. There’s always a result after one has been abused. Abuse is either done physically and/or emotionally. To me, abuse is overusing something in a wrong way or treating someone or something horribly.
To understand how to prevent child sexual abuse, one must begin by understanding what child sex abuse is. When a perpetrator intentionally harms a child physically, psychologically, sexually, or by acts of neglect, this crime is known as child abuse. Child sex abuse consists of any sexual activity that includes a minor. A child cannot consent to any form of sexual activity. More importantly, when a perpetrator engages with a child this way, they are committing a crime that can have lasting effects on the victim for years. Moreover, child sexual abuse does not need to include physical contact between a perpetrator and child, some forms include but not limited to; fondling, intercourse, sex trafficking, exposing oneself to a minor, masturbation