Parenting in Different Aspects

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In today’s society, school has been looked at to be a form of child day-care. In school is seen as a learning environment and parents want to their child to be exposed to driven instruction to get maximum results of a fine education. In reading I found the Chinese mothers to be superior in their child’s education and performances. Failure is not an option and anything less than their child’s best must be focused upon and perfected. With determination, strictness, and parental involvement, we find that these types of children receive the most out of their education. It is most intriguing to take a closer look at the strategies and the intellectual expectations of Chinese mothers from their children. As for Western parents their standards are not as strict, they may be high but not as high as the Chinese mothers. Western parents are more worried about their child’s self esteem and if the hurt there feeling or not. As far as the Chinese mothers’ ways of parenting being an effective way of parenting, I would have to say that it may be it is. I don’t think that I would take it to the extreme like they do, but also something determination is the key to success.

The Chinese mothers’ ways of parenting may be effective, because it will teach them discipline and it will make their children strive for greater success and to never settle for anything less then what they are capable of. I would have to say that grades are important in a young child education, and they ways the Chinese mothers’ discipline may be what’s best for them, because after all practice does make perfect. But as far as their social life, there ways of parenting may just be too much. The children should be able to choose what instrument or sport they want to play. I...

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...reparing them for an increasingly competitive world. Against this background, Prof. Chua attracts much attention by advocating a so-called “Chinese style,” in which parents play the role of enlightened rulers. Parents keep their children’s best interests in mind, and work hard to promote their interest, sometimes against their wishes. This style may make children disciplined, knowledgeable and marketable, but may ignore or hurt children’s feelings, and suppress their freedom and creativity.

References

Chua, A. (2011). Why chinese mothers are superior. The Wall Street Journal, Retrieved from http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713

Sun, Y. (2011). Balancing freedom with discipline. Room for Debate, Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2011/01/13/is-extreme-parenting-effective/balancing-freedom-with-discipline

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