What Is Distrust?

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From experience, it is the base for distrust and not wanting to be around people. I have three strong memories from my childhood:
1. When I was three, that is what they told me, we were hosting a family get-together. It was on a Sunday and there was snow on the ground to the tops of my snow boots. My mother took me to Sunday school and Church, dropped me off and told me my father would be picking me up on his motorcycle after Church. Went to Sunday school then Church, when it was over, I went out like everyone and shook the Preachers hand. He asked me if my parents were here, I said “No, their late.” I waited a while, until everyone was gone, then started walking home. It was a while, the snow was melting and I kicked it as I walked. I got home and walked up the drive, no cars, no motorcycle, I went in the house and my mother started screaming “Where the hell have you been” I got a spanking and as everyone returned from looking for me everyone scolded me, except the …show more content…

John Bowlby says that children crying, talking, or smiling are looking for nurturing, picking them up and making them feel safe, talking back to them to show their importance, and smiling to get a smile back. (Bukatko, 2008) Also in an article for the Developmental Psychology, the author refers to a remark that Freud said in 1920/1955, “So long as we trace the development from its final outcome backwards, the chain of events appears continuous, and we feel we have gained an insight which is completely satisfactory or even exhaustive.” (Bretherton, 1992, p. 2) Is what she sees as a “retrospective developmental approach to the origins of attachment theory.” (Bretherton, 1992, p. 2)
Having fond memories and a sense of security is a precious thing, I am sure I had fond memories, but they are over shadowed. Babies and children take in everything, remember some, and forget some, but always seeking approval and

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